Friendship Traumas

[mrisha]

I stopped calling people a friend a long time ago because my so called friend told someone else about something that I thought she would not tell to others-but she did.  I don't have friends anymore, I have acquaintances or associates.  I don't have friends anymore.   Learned the hard way to not trust people.

[PGS28]

I don't blame you; friends sometimes do you worse than strangers.

Everyone have gained friends and lost them. Some grow apart, fall apart, break away and never speak again. Some go through troubles talk about it, and mend their friendships.
 
Overtime, I have been very cautious on who to call a best friend or a friend in general. You can actually have your heart broken when a friend decides one day to start acting different with no communication and just abandon you. That hurts, so with myself experiencing that in the past I am fully prepared and guarded about who I allow in my space and I expect them to change. I try not to get too mentally invested and get comfortable with my own company.(myself) Loving myself, uplifting myself without any validation from a so called friend or friends. I don't believe in titles anymore with people I meet. Associates, maybe but friends/ best friends are very difficult to come across.

[PGS28]

Yes, you truly are lucky.  My best friend lives long distance, and I wish she was near me.

That is so true.  I have seen, as I’m sure most people have, friendships end.  I know I am very lucky, I have two best friends who I know have my back 100%.  There is nothing we can’t tell each other.  We have laughed cried, and been there for each other in sad, upsetting times.  We have been there when we all married, our kids were born, watched the grow, watched them marry.  Thankfully our husbands all get along, maybe not best friends, but like each other.