ill mannered neighbors? Yes or No?

[rcbrad]

Two next door neighbors were standing outside chatting, when a third couple approached the area during their walk.
They joined the conversation, (which of course is fine) but then they began talking about a party they were having for Halloween.  It is for kids and adults.  They proceeded to talk about it and mention all of the various neighbors that were invited.  My next door neighbors were NOT invited.  They are friendly with the other couple and have been at other neighbors get togethers and have always been talkative and friendly with each other.  On some occasions these two sets of neighbors have walked together. 

I basically thought that it was ill mannered and thoughtless to discuss the party and which neighbors were invited and were coming in front of someone that COULD have been invited, but was not.  The issue is not whether they were invited or not, but it should not have been brought up in their presence.  Of course the people giving the party can invite or not invite anybody they wish. Maybe since they do not have kids they were not invited?  The folks that were not invited just stood there during the conversation with nothing to say.  I just felt bad.  What do you think?

[arms1977]

I have been there myself and it is a very uncomfortable position to be put into. Although I feel it is tacky to discuss party plans in front of people who are not invited, I don't feel anything was done wrong. Maybe they could not invite the other neighbors because of financial restraints, or possibly there may be a rift brewing you are not aware of. Although we try to be friendly with all of our neighbors, we really never know what they are up to. All you can do is respect the decision of that particular neighbor not to invite everyone, they probably do have a good reason.

[MsMithra]

Like you said, it's a party for kids and adults. If the couple didn't have kids, maybe the neighbors thought it wouldn't be a party that would interest them.

I'm sure if the party seems interesting to that couple, they'll ask about it and end up being invited if everyone's been friendly.

[JessieKateRose]

I think it's definitely rude. I get annoyed when my friends do that at school.

[AmyTrivitt]

If they were not going to invite this set of neighbors you are talking about, then NO they should not have said anything about their party in front of them. But furthermore why wouldn't they invite them? Seeing as you are all neighbors they are going to find out and wonder why they were not invited, kids or no kids. In my opinion yes that is really rude.

[livinglifelearning]

Two next door neighbors were standing outside chatting, when a third couple approached the area during their walk.
They joined the conversation, (which of course is fine) but then they began talking about a party they were having for Halloween.  It is for kids and adults.  They proceeded to talk about it and mention all of the various neighbors that were invited.  My next door neighbors were NOT invited.  They are friendly with the other couple and have been at other neighbors get togethers and have always been talkative and friendly with each other.  On some occasions these two sets of neighbors have walked together. 

I basically thought that it was ill mannered and thoughtless to discuss the party and which neighbors were invited and were coming in front of someone that COULD have been invited, but was not.  The issue is not whether they were invited or not, but it should not have been brought up in their presence.  Of course the people giving the party can invite or not invite anybody they wish. Maybe since they do not have kids they were not invited?  The folks that were not invited just stood there during the conversation with nothing to say.  I just felt bad.  What do you think?

who cares?

[bmorebabe25]

That's just wrong if you know someones not invited to something you just don't talk about it in front of them, its like my daughter was invited to a Halloween party by a kid that isn't in her class and nobody in her class is invited and we have told her that it's not nice to talk about it with her friends in her class since they weren't invited and at 10 years old she understands this. 

[gayecat]

Yes it was rude and so is livelifelearning.  If you don't care about other people stay out of the posts.  You won't get credit for this kind of post - it's not contributing.

[shannakillion]

I think it was definatley rude. I understand that it was for kids and adults, even if the couple didn't have children there are other adults for them to talk to.  I seems awfully thoughtless of them to talk about it onfront of the other couple.

[kimberly67]

some people r a**holes and have no class they should not have even brought up the subject of a party if the couple they were talkin to were not invited rude and ignorant