Tired of relationships

[Mizzkizz7]

I get so tired of being in relationships with people, (romantic/ friendship) and they switch up on you. Relationships cause tremendous stress and energy that I do not have. You do all you can for someone or people only to get told that you don't do anything for them. I just don't understand people. I'd rather be to myself and sort out my own affairs than deal with someone and their own problems and them piling their troubles on you. A rollercoaster of emotions is too much for me. OI don't put labels on anyone anymore because something always seem to go wrong and turns your world upside down. Best friend, I give no one that entitlement because I'm my own best friend. Marriage? Probably not. Why be married to someone who could change at the drop of a dime? All that wasted time and energy, for what? Therapy sessions. Me trying to pick my mates brain to find out why they have the habits they do and i they really love me or not> I'll pass. I'll settle being a free spirit protecting my mental health at all costs.

[vg7405]

I am sorry to hear of your experience with relationships. I shared a similar perspective a few years ago, but it applied to romantic relationships. I was constantly ghosted on, lied to, and heartbroken to the extent where I, too, had essentially given up on love. When I met my current boyfriend a year and a half ago, he was of the same position (having been married and divorced twice). In a strange way, our negative relationship/marriage relationships (plus our mutual attraction to one another) resulted in our decision to give love one more chance.

Regardless of whether you decide to embark on opening yourself to a relationship(s) or not, I hope you find the happiness you seek.

[MichelleHW101]

It's true it's easier to find rotten people than good, but they are out there.  I was lucky enough to have such awesome friends from childhood that we all stayed together to this day.  Not everyone changes at the drop of a time.  Honest, good people don't.  We are out there and people shouldn't loose hope we don't exist. 

[gaylasue]

I cut ties with a few people not so long ago.  Seemed the friendship was only there when I was doing something for them.  If I wasn't available to fulfill certain needs of theirs, then they had no time/use for me.  I never heard from them unless they wanted something. 

[bremer51]

Some relationships require a lot of work. If both people are working for the same goal, then its worth it. If you're the only one doing the heavy lifting, it will wear you down, and make you constantly question yourself. Time to let it go.

[ngorecki]

I understand what you're saying. sometimes they just go bad.

[potluck6]

You mean whe9 you get to know someone the worst comes out. Relationships can be difficult. Have to look at their good side maybe. I don't think relationships should require work. Maybe sensitivity and courage .

[alice44]

Relationships are sometimes difficult but I hate to see you give up on them entirely.  They take work!  But the opposite of being by yourself alone all the time is more dangerous.  Take a little time and relax - then get out and make some more friends   

[NRAJOE]

Bummer....

[Sawman214]

I agree, but it beats the alternative.

[Sawman214]

Yes I agree, Its easier to be alone.

[debidoo]

I so totally understand your post.  I didn't want to lose my mom or my husband but when they passed I thought I would finally have some peace. No I am estranged from my brother and sister and that is perfectly fine with me.  So tired of drama and distress but now my two sons who have always been close are on the outs and my older son is making my life miserable.  I am at the point where I look back and can see I have never had a really good relationship and people always do switch up on you or use and abuse you in some way.  I am really sick of it and have come to the place I am happier just being alone but can' figure out how to do that with my kids.

[paints]

I understand.  I have become something of a loner myself.  I do have friends and family that I love, and that love me, but they accept me as I am, and I accept them as they are.  Makes life much less stressful.

[tnshpalmer85]

Relationships are hard sometimes. I don't have many friends, but it seems like the friends that I do have, have different interest than I do so its a little challenging to maintain the relationship sometimes.

[Mizzkizz7]

I so totally understand your post.  I didn't want to lose my mom or my husband but when they passed I thought I would finally have some peace. No I am estranged from my brother and sister and that is perfectly fine with me.  So tired of drama and distress but now my two sons who have always been close are on the outs and my older son is making my life miserable.  I am at the point where I look back and can see I have never had a really good relationship and people always do switch up on you or use and abuse you in some way.  I am really sick of it and have come to the place I am happier just being alone but can' figure out how to do that with my kids.

Thanks for understanding. I have a heart of gold. But I have to mentally prepare myself for hurt because if I don't it will affect me in a bad way. Me suffering from depression, I'm prone to be affected probably more severe than others. I have had been bullied by my own uncle months ago for nothing! I've always been a target so I'm at the point where I'm protecting my heart and mind. I can get upset easily and I don't bother anyone. I don't do social media, except maybe twitter and youtube but that's it. Family can be the worst at times and I've considered just taking  road trip without notice but I think about my cat.. Thanks for responding without criticism and I hope your situation gets better.