Sperm Donor

[Nancy5]

My father was killed in an accident when I was 10 and my sister was 2.  I remembered and missed him, my sister has no memory of him so never missed him.  it can be hard to miss something you don't remember and didn't know.

[countrygirl12]

My father was killed in an accident when I was 10 and my sister was 2.  I remembered and missed him, my sister has no memory of him so never missed him.  it can be hard to miss something you don't remember and didn't know.

That is true.  You may not miss HIM but would miss having a father.  And someone else may step up and fill the void.  It is sad that your sister doesn't remember him at all. 

[timvolley]

i thought sperm donation was confidental

[countrygirl12]

i thought sperm donation was confidental

You missed what she was saying.  She did not use a "sperm donor" to get pregnant.  She is calling her husband/boyfriend that because he got her pregnant then never had anything to do with the child.  Her/their daughter.  No if you go to a sperm bank you do not even know who the man is.  And he is not expected to be in the child's life.

On that note I think if you get pregnant that way you should not ever be able to draw any kind of government help.  Men need to take responsibility for the children they father.  If you can't get pregnant without a sperm bank then maybe you are not suppose to have children.  And you don't know the sperm bank is even telling you the truth.  I remember a thing on the news where the owner was using his own sperm and NONE of the sperm donated.  He fathered over 800 kids.  So a lot of the kids in the area were probably marrying and brother and sister.

[madeara]

Forgive and move on.  You are only hurting yourself.

[UGetPaid]

When I told her of his passing she said "I dont know how to feel" so you may be right countrygirl12

Forgive the question if it feels too prying, but is this the same daughter who in the past had been refusing to speak with you? I only ask because you had spoken before about your heartbreak over that. Is this, then, a door opening to help start communicating again?
 

[hkckk5]

Negative feelings bring on ill health. You would be better off to let it go. I am glad your daughter is taking it well.