Should I be dating again?

[Jayce2013]

Hey are you joking??? NEVER EVER stop believing in love. Even if your previous marriage finished and you are now obviously disappointed... you are still young... there is soo much more waiting for you out there!

You can't say now that you won't marry again.. because even if you don't want to right now... maybe one day you might find someone else that you feel really good with... and then.... you'll just have to follow your heart!

Stay positive.. and YES you should date... and no you should not get depressed.

Use this time you are single again to focus on yourself and relax.... good things come when you feel good about yourself.

You'll see... Love will knock on your door very soon again!! GOOD LUCK! 

[heypeg]

The important thing is to be honest with anyone you might be interested in.

[Tresbn00]

I think that you have presented quite a few reservations about dating again which probably answers your question. If you have been able to summon up so many objections to dating again, what would possess you to pursue dating? Or do you have an equally long list of positives to counter the negatives? It sounds like you are into more of a 'self' mode right now and should ride that out until you find someone that you can care about as much as you care about yourself. Relationships tend to be eighty percent give and twenty percent take. You are young so you should enjoy single life. So many relationships tend to form from fear of being lonely and only a small percentage are truly magic. I always scratch my head when someone has to announce that they are gay/heterosexual-what bearing does this have on the main problem. Kind of like saying "I'm Hetero and I ran out of gas...". Kind of pointless.

[shawnix]

Why not? As long as you're up front with your feelings, you should definitely date again. There are plenty of people out there who probably feel the same way you do and don't want anything super serious. Just go out and have fun...in time you may just meet the love of your life.

[plennis]

Hey are you joking??? NEVER EVER stop believing in love. Even if your previous marriage finished and you are now obviously disappointed... you are still young... there is soo much more waiting for you out there!

You can't say now that you won't marry again.. because even if you don't want to right now... maybe one day you might find someone else that you feel really good with... and then.... you'll just have to follow your heart!

Stay positive.. and YES you should date... and no you should not get depressed.

Use this time you are single again to focus on yourself and relax.... good things come when you feel good about yourself.

You'll see... Love will knock on your door very soon again!! GOOD LUCK! 

Good advice.  Maybe you should ease into it by going out with a group of good friends before the one on one thing. 

[UGetPaid]

You are young so you should enjoy single life. So many relationships tend to form from fear of being lonely and only a small percentage are truly magic.

My wife previously got married when she was 21 to a jerk who ended up being quite abusive toward her. She married him for exactly the reason referenced by Tresbn00. I'm talking marriage as opposed to dating - as they were obviously already dating at the time, but you get the point. Committing to (or dating) the wrong person out of fear that the right one will never come along and you will be alone is a recipe for disaster.


Fortunately for her (and for me) she got out of that relationship and matured over the next decade plus before we found each other. Sometimes it takes time before you encounter the right person and patience is necessary. Had she met me when she was 21, we likely would have never worked. (Primarily because I would have been just 16 at the time and too young for her - LOL!!)

[lhz123]

Whatever makes you happy and complete.  You are still young just enjoy life.

[fillfran82]

This is a serious question. I'm a 31 year old divorced gay man. I have no intention of ever getting married again, nor do I want children. If I did live with someone again, I'd need to get to know them very well, and I'm also not moving/leaving my job for anyone. I'm fairly set in my ways -- don't want someone who spends my money; also don't want anyone who doesn't have their life together.

With this in mind, does it make sense for me to date again? Or am I just wasting peoples' time? I'm not intentionally trying to hurt anyone, but my marriage ended brutally and I really don't see myself ever wanting such a commitment again for the rest of my life. I crave companionship. I want sex. I'd like to have someone to travel with. And I plan on being upfront/honest with people that hey, I may not be looking for the same things you're looking for. But still, a part of me feels guilty. Like I'm not the person they want me to be. Does that make any sense? Should I feel guilt for dating? Or should I go out, have a good time, and let the chips fall as they do?

Hello!

I myself have been in a lot of bad relationships and I say to myself if me and my current boyfriend doesn't work out I will stop dating for good. I say that because I know the kind of person that I'm and I'm not willing to put my heart on the line again. Only you truly know yourself and only you know if you are ready or not, best of luck.

[bremer51]

Perhaps you should wait a year to recover from your previous relationship. It sounds like your  hurt and angry yet.  You need companionship and friendship. You deserve it. Right now, you are your own roadblock to happiness.  Be open to love.

[timvolley]

i think age or your individual situation shouldnt determine if you  date or not. Just because you date doesnt mean you have to get married.

[mrisha]

This is a serious question. I'm a 31 year old divorced gay man. I have no intention of ever getting married again, nor do I want children. If I did live with someone again, I'd need to get to know them very well, and I'm also not moving/leaving my job for anyone. I'm fairly set in my ways -- don't want someone who spends my money; also don't want anyone who doesn't have their life together.

With this in mind, does it make sense for me to date again? Or am I just wasting peoples' time? I'm not intentionally trying to hurt anyone, but my marriage ended brutally and I really don't see myself ever wanting such a commitment again for the rest of my life. I crave companionship. I want sex. I'd like to have someone to travel with. And I plan on being upfront/honest with people that hey, I may not be looking for the same things you're looking for. But still, a part of me feels guilty. Like I'm not the person they want me to be. Does that make any sense? Should I feel guilt for dating? Or should I go out, have a good time, and let the chips fall as they do?

Why shouldn't you date again?  There is nothing wrong with you wanting companionship.  Being divorced can be a downer but usually there is a big reason.  I say have fun, enjoy life.  You do not have to get Married again.  This is your life and it shouldn't matter to you as to what they think.   

[Cbsteffen]

You should date whenever you feel comfortable doing so and know you will get along with others well enough. That’s a decision you have to make on your own.

[kingozzy]

Only you will know if you are ready to date again, if you think you are and it still doesn't feel right when you are on a date, then you are not ready.  I am at the same point myself.  I am in no hurry at the moment.

[freedavis]

dating is better than being alone

[dsawan]

Dont let someone control you unless that is what you want.