Do you keep secrets from your spouse?

[camellia0]

I'm single, but I have a coworker that's married with 2 little ones, and she loves to shop. She's using her money to buy things that she doesn't need and her husband knows nothing about  it. Do you agree with her behavior? He's using his money on bills and she's using hers on fun stuff.

[singletonb]

Keeping secrets can cause problems in a marriage. I try to be as open as possible with my husband and everyone else for that matter.

[computermanjd3]

Everybody's got secrets.  Anyone who says they don't -- be suspicious of them.  The heart knows what it loves and fears.

[Tresbn00]

I think that it comes to the age old answer: "It Depends".  I work two full time jobs and one part time job and every cent that I make from those jobs goes to my wife and family. I started doing Fusion Cash (and a few other sites) about seven years ago as a hobby. My wife has Tennis, her hobby, which costs a few thousand dollars a year and has been doing her hobby for over twenty years. I have had my hobby for seven years. I have never spent a cent of what I have made and learned f other ways to make money as well. I have invested/bought stocks and started making more off of capital appreciation, dividends, bonuses and interest income than I made doing tasks about five years ago. this has become a fairly sizeable amount. My wife knows that I do this, has wanted to have some of this money and would like to know the balances. I do not think that telling her would be good for the health of my hobby so I don't. I think a secret is justified at this point.

[tantricia44]

I don't think it good to keep secrets from your spouse no matter how little the lie is. Without trust, there is no love. Love doesn't exist without trust! If it's her money why should she hide the fact that she's spending it?

[lhz123]

Not good to have secrets from your better half. It may result to a bigger problem if not now , time will come. Money is always the problem that cause marriages problem.

[nmbrown863]

If I have a secret I always end up telling my hubby eventually.

[dogsleash]

little white lies yes the big stuff no

[pmagalei]

I think it is not cool to do that to my wife. I think it will only lead to disaster and regrets. Never keep secrets I am not a fan of keeping secrets from my wife nor she keeps things from me.

[Nancy5]

I'm not sure about secrets, but I don't tell my husband everything little thing.  I'm not sure if that's keeping secrets or not.  I would never keep anything important, or big from him but I don't think we always tell our spouse every unimportant thing.
 

[sak4kat]

Secrets only lead to problems and in marriage there shouldn't be any.  Money is the root of all evil.  If it is understood that he pays this and she pays that out of each paycheck than who cares - it's when sneaking to spend   is a problem. Even when couples own buisness's, have side gig's or hobby's the monies made should be on an open table.  Meaning each partner should be aware of what is being done with it... not necessarily in detail.. as long as basic needs are met... a savings is getting added to each week... than there should be enough wiggle room for each partner to do what he or she wants with extra. But NO SECRETS.

[bleyd]

yes..i think everyone does a little secret here and there. But when it comes to big stuff like family finances, there shouldn't be.

[cateyes1]

I have tried to keep secrets but the guilt wont let me !!

[surveypro2016]

Honesty and communication are essential for a healthy relationship. However, you don't have to tell your spouse EVERYTHING. In the case of your friend, she has an illness. My step mother has the same thing. She has a storage shed of rotting clothes and other items she doesn't need simply because she cannot stop shopping. Her sister is addicted to purchasing from QVC. If your friend is purchasing items she doesn't need she may need professional help in my opinion.

[gaylasue]

I don't keep secrets but I don't tell everything I know, either!  As far as finances go, I am the breadwinner of the family and will spend our funds as I see fit.  Our bills are paid first thing, then groceries, after that....