Online Dating

[ancmetro]

      Do not try it. Too risky!

[vg7405]

I have engaged in online dating in the past. Some experiences went well (that was how I met my ex- and current-boyfriends) while others were truly disastrous.

[UGetPaid]

I've tried this. Sometimes people lie in their profiles. That's the bad thing about online dating. It's hard to tell if someone is being honest. That's why I prefer face to face dating. No lies about height, weight, whether they're in another relationship, etc... If you do meet someone, please be sure to do it in a public place and don't give them your personal info, like where you live or work. Good luck.

You are right that there are many people who can be dishonest online.  Physical appearance cannot be hidden or lied about in a face to face relationship.  But lying about whether a person is in another relationship is just as easily done whether online or face to face.


I never did the online dating, but I have had some friends who met their spouses online and all have been great matches. I met my wife through church activities, which remains my pick for the best way to make a match (not just because it worked for me).


Not so funny story though when I had to explain to my wife the match.com profile tied to my spam email account! Thankfully she believed my [100% true - I swear on the graves of all departed that I hold dear] explanation. I don't remember if it was FusionCash or some other site that offers cash for signup offers, but at some point I signed up to get the offer bonus and never used or posted a full profile or sought out any other profiles.  I got my bonus, moved on, and forgot all about the account..   


Until the day my wife asked me about it.

[tantricia44]

I'd be too scared to try! Too many ppl thinking they're all that!

[minioncookies]

I always considered that kinda a joke and laughable online dating is kinda funny to me

[pmagalei]

If you are sincere then by all means it should be useful to you. I don't trust any of them unless they are for reals and legit.  Do not trust anyone who wants to get married right away!

[bleyd]

Nope..never tried online dating. Not sure if it's really worth it or if a scam. But that's how my friend met her hubby.

[braggin]

I don't see anything wrong with online dating provided you are very careful about meeting new people in person. It is best to do that in a place where there are a lot of other people or when you bring a friend along to accompany you too. (You may be meeting up with an ax murderer for all you know!). I hear eHarmony.com makes the best matches - I have heard of a lot of couples (including my own daughter) who found great relationships on that site.

[JaniceSW]

I tried it about 10 years ago and also know people that have had good and bad experiences with it.  I guess you just have to realize that some people are dishonest and many people are sensitive about the physical image they have.  You have to be most careful and "vet" people.
This means talking to them a while over the computer and writing down meaningful questions with their responses.  Moving to the second vetting, talk to them on the phone and casually bring up some of the questions and/or responses they gave you.  Answers and information they gave should match, not entirely something different.  Ask them about previous relationships and work history.  Casually and lightly, ask if they have ever done something to get back at an ex.  If you don't like the response, take them off your list to meet and date.
Thirdly, meet them in a very public place at a busy time of day.  Have people around.  Don't provide your address.  Don't get in their car and let them drive you anyplace.  And this means for more then one meeting.  Don't go to their home or invite to yours until you have been meeting and talking for at least 5-6 times.  If there is anything that sets off your "personal alarm," don't continue the relationship.
This advice is for males and females alike! I have a male friend who had females inviting him to their home on the first date!  How stupid can some people be? He didn't go because he was anxious that such a woman might have a friend there to rob him or something even worse.  Use your common sense.  Most people will be okay, but there are definitely some crazies out there!!!

[kdemers0]

I have used Tinder and OkCupid, nothing for anything serious just to meet people and have some fun. Online dating sites that are free are full of people that don't have the best intentions so if it is something you are considering seriously I would say it is worth paying, from my experience at least.

[sak4kat]

I did and it didn't end well.  I met a guy on Christian Mingle.  Funny thing about it was he had a paid subscription.  I was on a trial or had just registered and hadn't paid for a subscription... any how people could reach out to me... start up conversations...I couldn't although I could respond and follow up.  This led to 2 2nd marriage... which led to bankruptcy.  Apparently the guy I fell for had a history of going from one woman to another.  In the end he was wanted in the state I and my children lived in.  We had started a business.... he took it on the road with him...running up more debt in my name.  I woke up when his rent was being paid for while I was in the process of moving myself and 3 kids into my Mom's basement.  Oiy - expensive lesson.

[beatsdrop]

I kind of wanna try it, but I watch too much Investigation Discovery and that makes me paranoid.

[o2bnocn]

Don't feel embarrassed. Plenty of people go online dating. I find the main thing that people lack including myself is having patience. You can't expect to be in a relationship soon after having a profile.

[snuggleycutejc]

Yes, I do it all the time, fun be care.

[teresa3200]

I tried it over 12 years ago and was only on for 2 weeks when I met an amazing man! We celebrated our 10th anniversary on January 20th. Best thing I ever did, even though I was very reluctant because I was afraid of who I could meet. But it worked out wonderful.