Hi Countrygirl. you're right I shouldn't have said ANYTHING about her affair. I did for a long while keep her secret until due to her own mistake he found out so he already knew about the affair. Its just that she told her husband that all they did was talk. After him saying to me "I hope you die" and for other mean things he's said to me and others about me, well I said the gloves are off and told him EVERYTHING my daughter and the other guy did. Her husband and I haven't gotten along for years and NOONE in the family can stand him so this was all building up inside me and after that comment I just lost it. I know it was probably immature on my part and I should have stayed loyal to my daughter but I knew the truth would hurt him and I didn't give a darn because all that he has put me through over the years....I guess it is KARMA biting me in the butt for say something to him....I know for a fact that she didn't change her email to and is getting every one of mine. You would have to know this guy to understand where I am coming from, I would bet that you wouldn't even like him....His Mom passed a few years back and he had her cremated, he one day said to me while he was here "well I have to go and see my mother in her box" he is a very uncaring, uncompassionate, JERK. NOONE can understand what my daughter even see's in him. And your right, if she did TRULY love him she would have NEVER cheated but I know for a fact that after having 3 kids with him she feels stuck.....thank you for your comments....oh and they are still together and my grandkids are 14, 11, and 3 ....I gave up on her