Could this be it?

[froggylover227]

So as many of you probably know, I'll be moving up to Massachussets to be with my boyfriend. The original plan was to build up some money over the next year and then start looking for jobs and be up there for January of 2017. However, today I got an e-mail with job listings for up there, and one of the jobs is exactly what I do now! I meet all the qualifications, the hours are great, and overall it seems like it would be a perfect match for me.

I feel as if I don't apply for this job, I'm going to lose out on a great opportunity. Who knows if something like this will be available in a year from now? On the other hand, if I do apply and get the job, I'll be moving up there a year sooner than planned. It's just crazy cause it's literally the same job...I currently work for my local Board of Elections and the job up there if for an Elections Coordinator with the same responsibilities and duties I have now.

On top of everything, my family wasn't really thrilled about me telling them I was moving up there in a year. I'm worried if I get the job and have to move sooner, they will hate me. But I'm 30 years old, I need to do what's best for me, and being up there with him is what's best for me. There's just so many things to consider, but could this be it?  Could this be the opportunity I've been waiting for? Is this God's way of saying it's time? Any and all input from you guys would be much appreciated! Thanks!

[debidoo]

Apply and keep praying.  If it is meant to be you will get the job and in my opinion will be confirmation to make the move now.  We are not guaranteed tomorrow and a year is a long time - you need to do what you need to do - sounds like you have your life on hold.  Time to get going on what you want.

[oldbuddy]

I had to laugh when I read this whole thing. I'm sorry, but the God I know and trust is not going to encourage you to enter into an illicit relationship, you are on your own with this decision.

[Penwoir]

I think you should go for it. I remember reading your story last time, and I did type out a lengthy response but due to a hitch with my computer, it didn't get saved. However, I have made a move to another location on more than one occasion in my life, and whilst I didn't ultimately end up with the guy I originally moved for, I never regretted the move at all. I feel I got a new level of independence and confidence after the move which I didn't have before. I found my own job, (twice!), I gained some new friends, and I matured beyond belief. The last time I relocated myself to be with a guy, I didn't just move, I emigrated to another country!. My mom and dad, whilst happy with my new fiance, didn't really want me to move, however they wanted me to be happy more than they didn't want me to leave the country. I ended up with him, and we are still married, with two sons who are 9 and 11. It was the best move I ever made. As far as your situation is concerned, your family will eventually realize this is what you want and that you have thought about it for a long time. They will eventually come round to the idea, even if they wouldn't chose it that way, because you are their child, and they no doubt love you unconditionally. They will miss you, as I miss my family in the UK (PS. I have two sisters too, one of which is my twin) but you will all learn to cope with your new situation and you will find alternative ways to communicate just as I do. I hope it works out for you, especially with your partner, but if it doesn't, it's not the end of the world. Like me, it might be a new beginning. You'll be just fine.

[froggylover227]

I had to laugh when I read this whole thing. I'm sorry, but the God I know and trust is not going to encourage you to enter into an illicit relationship, you are on your own with this decision.

How is my relationship "illicit"? You know nothing about my horrible past, so don't judge me because you think you know my situation. My God isn't a bigot like yours.

[oldbuddy]

I had to laugh when I read this whole thing. I'm sorry, but the God I know and trust is not going to encourage you to enter into an illicit relationship, you are on your own with this decision.

How is my relationship "illicit"? You know nothing about my horrible past, so don't judge me because you think you know my situation. My God isn't a bigot like yours.

It's illicit for the same reason any children produced by cohabitation outside the bonds of marriage are illicit children.

[froggylover227]

Wow. I'm not trying to turn this into a religious debate, but as far as I'm concerned God loves us all, regardless of whether we are married or not, and whether children are born from a married couple or unmarried couple. If you remain faithful to someone for years, what the hell is the difference whether or not there is a ring on their finger and a piece of paper to show? My ex-husband treated me like garbage, the man I'm with now treats me like a Queen. Matrimony doesn't guarantee love. It's 2015, not 1920. Get with the times.

[Nancy5]

My advice is don't move until you know you have the job.  If you get it, kiss your family goodby and go!  You don't get a lot of chances at love and if you love him and he loves you and you are both adults ( which I know you are), GO.  Hopefully your family will come around and accept the move, and if not....well you have to live your life for you, nor for anyone else, family included.

[oldbuddy]

Wow. I'm not trying to turn this into a religious debate, but as far as I'm concerned God loves us all, regardless of whether we are married or not, and whether children are born from a married couple or unmarried couple. If you remain faithful to someone for years, what the hell is the difference whether or not there is a ring on their finger and a piece of paper to show? My ex-husband treated me like garbage, the man I'm with now treats me like a Queen. Matrimony doesn't guarantee love. It's 2015, not 1920. Get with the times.

I never said God doesn't love us all equally, that's a given. I also don't condemn anyone who lives together outside the marriage covenant (which is more than a ring and paper), in fact a couple of my children have done it and one still does after being divorced twice. All I said, was I don't think you can consider an event that happens as a message from God to do something against his teachings, no matter what year it is. If you decide to ignore that, I sincerely wish you and your significant other a happy life together for many years.

[hitch0403]

Wouldnt you guys think whoever instituted the marriage arrangment is the ONE who set the rules?

Marriage
Definition: The union of a man and a woman to live together as husband and wife according to the standard set out in the Holy Scriptures. Marriage is a divine institution. It provides for intimate relationship between husband and wife along with a feeling of security because there is a climate of love and because a personal commitment has been made by each mate. When establishing marriage, Jehovah did so not only to provide a close companion who would be a complement of man but also to make provision for producing more humans and doing so within a family arrangement. Legally registering a marriage relationship that is acceptable to the Christian congregation is required wherever possible.

Is it really important to get married in accord with legal requirements?

Titus 3:1: “Continue reminding them to be in subjection and be obedient to governments and authorities as rulers.” (When people heed these instructions, the name of each party to the union is kept above reproach, and any children are spared the reproach that falls on those whose parents are not married. Additionally, legal registration of the marriage safeguards the property rights of family members in the event of death of one of the mates.)

Heb. 13:4: “Let marriage be honorable among all, and the marriage bed be without defilement, for God will judge fornicators and adulterers.” (Getting legally married plays an important part in having a marriage that is accepted as being “honorable.” When defining “fornication” and “adultery,” we should keep in mind what is stated at Titus 3:1, quoted above.)

[BlackSheepNY]

So as many of you probably know, I'll be moving up to Massachussets to be with my boyfriend. The original plan was to build up some money over the next year and then start looking for jobs and be up there for January of 2017. However, today I got an e-mail with job listings for up there, and one of the jobs is exactly what I do now! I meet all the qualifications, the hours are great, and overall it seems like it would be a perfect match for me.

I feel as if I don't apply for this job, I'm going to lose out on a great opportunity. Who knows if something like this will be available in a year from now? On the other hand, if I do apply and get the job, I'll be moving up there a year sooner than planned. It's just crazy cause it's literally the same job...I currently work for my local Board of Elections and the job up there if for an Elections Coordinator with the same responsibilities and duties I have now.

On top of everything, my family wasn't really thrilled about me telling them I was moving up there in a year. I'm worried if I get the job and have to move sooner, they will hate me. But I'm 30 years old, I need to do what's best for me, and being up there with him is what's best for me. There's just so many things to consider, but could this be it?  Could this be the opportunity I've been waiting for? Is this God's way of saying it's time? Any and all input from you guys would be much appreciated! Thanks!

Only question I have is will this interfere with the plans you made for 2017?  I guess what I mean is, how does your boyfriend feel about you moving up there a year in advance of the original plan (or does that really matter)?  If not, hell, you're 30 years old!  You gotta start living at some point in your life for YOU and not worry so much about what everyone else thinks.  Just reading the little bit that you posted here tells me that you were in a pretty bad relationship before and perhaps this is the reason why your family really doesn't want you to go.  If that's the case, it's completely understandable, but you're still old enough to make your own decisions at this time in your life.  Whichever you decide, may God have your back always, and good luck!

[dogsleash]

  i say give it a shot it could be great ...

[bowrunner]

I wouldn't even presume to tell you what to do but since you're 30 years old it seems to me you should be able to do whatever you want.  I know it's hard to go against your family's wishes but you need to stand up for yourself and it's a good time to start. 

[teresa3200]

Good luck in what ever you decide, I wish you the best.

[natashaspy]

if you are 30, you have to live your life for you, not for others.  if they truly love you then they may get mad but they will get over it in the long run.  good luck if you do decide to apply for the job!