Feeling Kinda Blue

[JaniceSW]

Prepare him one of his favorite meals (that he wouldn't expect you would cook), make him something, do a massage night for him, make a coupon book with cute things he can turn in to get from you......Think of things that money can't buy but comes from your heart.....

I was going to say something exactly like this.  I really like the "coupon book."  It could have many different things in it, big and small.  A favorite meal, a massage, doing a chore for him that he regularly does, packing a nice lunch and bringing it to his job, whatever.  Think of his likes, dislikes, what he would like more of, less of, etc.  This will help you put together your coupon book.  Then you need to make sure they are all things you are willing to do...and not too many!

[aflyingmonkey]

My husband and I have been married for 2 years but we have been together for almost 10 and he has always got me something for the holidays and I have never been able to get him anything. He says it doesn't bother him but it bothers me. Like I have always tried to get him something but I can never get all the money together in time. Any ideas?

It's not like you don't know Christmas is coming.  Save money all year toward Christmas presents.
You can also do stuff online to get Amazon gift codes.  That's what I done and how I bought all of my Christmas this year.

 

Do you work?  If not get a job. If you work do overtime to make more money or get a better paying job.  You can start saving months in advance if you want to plan on getting him something.  It doesn't have to be hundreds of dollars.  Can you save $50 from the beginning of the year until December?

That's kind of a stupid smart@ss statement.  Getting a job or getting a better job is not as easy as just getting up one morning and walking into some big firm and saying oh I will start working here Monday and getting a huge salary.  There are a ton of people that it takes every penny they make just to pay the bills.  And very very few companies will allow you to get over time.  You might as well told the OP buy a high quality printer and print your own money.

Since it is already cold, fill the hot tub before he gets home and let him have a nice hot tub massage. Most men would appreciate something like that after a long day of work out in the cold. That one doesn't even cost money but a long lasting relationship! Trust me, it works for me!!!

Yep, because everyone has a hot tub.  And most men, at least the ones I know, are not into baths.  Just sayin.

This won't help you this year, but you could learn how to do some craft while youre at home, like knitting or candle making or something... then make a gift.  They have all those really nice DIY websites & shows.
This Christmas, you could make him a coupon book, like someone else suggested.  I did that back in the day for my parents when us kids didn't have money...  you could be real creative on what you would do when he redeems a coupon, cook his favorite meal, let him watch football all day without interruption, rub his feet, whatever. 

I don't know your family dynamics or situation, but you are married & half of your husband's money is yours.  Your job is to take care of the family, that's your agreement in the marriage, you should be getting some sort of financial wage/allowance where you could put a couple dollars away every month.  Just saying.  Or you can let him watch the baby & his mother & you could go to work when he gets home from work a couple days a week, get a swing shift or night shift & alternate earning money & babysitting.

It's good youre on FC, if you put the time into it here, it definitely is one of the better PTC sites there is.  Surveys will bring you in some pretty decent pocket change fairly quickly.  Just keep at it, it will pay off.

lol.  Sorry, but I totally disagree with you.  Half the money is yours?  No not really.  I assume since he is the only one working HE pays the bills.  You know, rent/house payment, electric, internet, phone, food, clothes....

I totally disagree with a husband working and giving his wife "an allowance".

You must have missed this part:  No I don't have a job because he wants me to stay at home and take care of our child, the house, and help his mom who lives with us.

She doesn't have a job because HE wants her to stay home & basically be a care provider for his mother, his child & be the housekeeper.  Not because she doesn't want to work & is sponging off him.

In the state of California, & I'm sure everywhere else, all assets acquired in a marriage are 50/50...  why be married if it isn't a partnership.  Don't want to split your assets, then don't get married.

I've always worked.  We just have a joint account & have never had money issues, we also had to pay for childcare & housekeepers.  I don't get if a man wants his wife to stay home, that is saving babysitting/nanny money, that is her "job".  It's not fair to her that he gets to control all the funds. She is not a slave, this is no longer the 1950's. I don't get that.  I would hand over the child & go work the opposite shift & let him watch the house, the baby & his mother when he got off work, if he controlled all the money & we were on such a tight budget that he couldn't give me a dime for "play" money.  I know people who work split shifts & do a baby swap while one works the other watches the children, people have to do what they can to make ends meet.

[dogsleash]

try your local buy nothing group on Facebook some times you can find real gems .

[ancmetro]

     Money problems? No money-no problem! Visit a local charity and get two or three free things for him. Make sure it is something he likes. Ask them to gift wrap these items. Add a sentimental gift card: "Love you this time of the year" and see the smile on his face!