Seasonal job didn't work out... a vent about it

[o2bnocn]

What do you mean it is not your responsibility to pay the internet for your house?  Suggestions - yes, if you want internet then take some initiative and pay the freakin bill.  You want to complain because someone else didn't pay the internet so you could play online all day.  Yes, this probably makes you mad.  Oh well.  You obviously have access to internet somewhere or you would not be on here complaining.  If it had been important to you then you would have made the effort to make sure the internet bill was paid.

I'm not the OP, so I may just be jumping at conclusions, but isn't this response a bit harsh?  Obviously we don't know the full story (including myself), but maybe the OP has a roommate who pays the Internet while the OP pays the electricity - or they might have some sort of arrangement where they each pay half, but only one actually sends in the check.  Or maybe the OP is an adult child living with parents and the parents pay the Internet bill.  In MY house, my wife is the one who makes sure all of the bills are paid.  I contribute money to the household, but she takes the responsibility to actually schedule and/or make payments.  Once or twice in the past she has forgotten to pay something when she thought she had.  I didn't get upset with her about it, it was just a mistake.  But *I* didn't take the initiative to pay a missed bill because I didn't know it had been missed.   


I can think of other similar scenarios where the OP may not have KNOWN that the bill hadn't been paid or was past due and then lost Internet on training day two without warning.


Maybe this ISN'T what happened with the OP, but my point is, without more information, attacking the OP in multiple reply posts is a little bit harsh.  (Not trying to escalate this in any way, just sayin')

Thank you. I appreciate all the responses, and especially yours. I can get on the internet because it is paid now. I meant it is simply not my financial responsibility in the household to pay the internet bill.

People are so quick to judge and think that you have never paid your bills, or blaming someone else. In the household, I am actually owed money for past bills.

[o2bnocn]

What do you mean it is not your responsibility to pay the internet for your house?  Suggestions - yes, if you want internet then take some initiative and pay the freakin bill.  You want to complain because someone else didn't pay the internet so you could play online all day.  Yes, this probably makes you mad.  Oh well.  You obviously have access to internet somewhere or you would not be on here complaining.  If it had been important to you then you would have made the effort to make sure the internet bill was paid.

I'm not the OP, so I may just be jumping at conclusions, but isn't this response a bit harsh?  Obviously we don't know the full story (including myself), but maybe the OP has a roommate who pays the Internet while the OP pays the electricity - or they might have some sort of arrangement where they each pay half, but only one actually sends in the check.  Or maybe the OP is an adult child living with parents and the parents pay the Internet bill.  In MY house, my wife is the one who makes sure all of the bills are paid.  I contribute money to the household, but she takes the responsibility to actually schedule and/or make payments.  Once or twice in the past she has forgotten to pay something when she thought she had.  I didn't get upset with her about it, it was just a mistake.  But *I* didn't take the initiative to pay a missed bill because I didn't know it had been missed.   


I can think of other similar scenarios where the OP may not have KNOWN that the bill hadn't been paid or was past due and then lost Internet on training day two without warning.


Maybe this ISN'T what happened with the OP, but my point is, without more information, attacking the OP in multiple reply posts is a little bit harsh.  (Not trying to escalate this in any way, just sayin')

No I honestly don't feel like my response was harsh.  Maybe it was.  I am just to the point in my life where I refuse to coddle people.  No one wants to accept responsibility for their actions.  If we are talking about an adult living with parents then the comment "it is not MY responsibility" to pay the internet bill makes it even worse.  Even if it is a spouse that is technically suppose to pay the bill or a room mate or whatever if YOU want to use the internet and it is important to you then YOU make the effort to make sure it is paid.  If need be then you DO IT YOURSELF. 

The difference in you with your wife and the OP is YOU didn't get upset.  The OP gets online and complains about it to people he/she does not even know.  I can understand people get upset and people vent and that is fine.  But the string of events and none of it is my fault blah blah blah I can't understand.  You can't get online to look for a job or do job training but you can get on the internet to get on Fusion Cash and complain because you internet was turned off.  Doesn't make sense.

This reminds me of the young man (out of high school) who was fired from his job for not showing up for work.  His excuse was it was "his stupid momma's fault because she didn't wake him up".  There are so many things wrong with that statement I wasn't sure where to begin.
*Calling his mom stupid?
*You are 20 years old - get yourself up.

I don't appreciate your assumption that young adults are irresponsible. In my 20's I actually paid all bills including rent, electricity, internet, and so forth. Now, I just can't afford that anymore. I also have a college loan. All I was simply stating was that I did not have a financial responsibility to pay the internet, regardless of reasons of why I needed it. I know it was not responsible to not pay it but I didn't have the income or money to do so. I am doing the best I can.

[squirrelgirl44]

I was hired for seasonal sales support. I made it to the first day of training and everything went great. I couldn't go to the second day of training because my internet was cut off. It's not my responsibility to pay the internet in the household. I don't want to get mad about the situation but I'm upset. It's not easy to get a hourly job nowadays, especially one that pays good. So I was only able to get the first day of training complete. Now, I'm worried about the internet for applying to jobs. I'm going to wait a couple of weeks, until after Christmas and then start applying again. I thought about borrowing the money for the internet but I wasn't sure if I could even make that in the first week because if I didn't pass the test then the training was over and it was 5 test and an exam, all for just a seasonal position. Basically I'm just upset and a little aggravated about the entire situation. Any suggestion?

What do you mean it is not your responsibility to pay the internet for your house?  Suggestions - yes, if you want internet then take some initiative and pay the freakin bill.  You want to complain because someone else didn't pay the internet so you could play online all day.  Yes, this probably makes you mad.  Oh well.  You obviously have access to internet somewhere or you would not be on here complaining.  If it had been important to you then you would have made the effort to make sure the internet bill was paid.

I have to agree with this poster... a household is not individual people fending for themselves. If you are living with irresponsible people than maybe you should be the one to handle payments for "necessities."

The attitude of "it's not my fault because so and so didn't do __Insert complaint___" is a big problem in today's society. You are not entitled to keep a job that you weren't able to perform. Your former employer has a candidate pool of many MANY people that DO have their internet bill paid...

just saying.

[JaniceSW]

What do you mean it is not your responsibility to pay the internet for your house?  Suggestions - yes, if you want internet then take some initiative and pay the freakin bill.  You want to complain because someone else didn't pay the internet so you could play online all day.  Yes, this probably makes you mad.  Oh well.  You obviously have access to internet somewhere or you would not be on here complaining.  If it had been important to you then you would have made the effort to make sure the internet bill was paid.

I'm not the OP, so I may just be jumping at conclusions, but isn't this response a bit harsh?  Obviously we don't know the full story (including myself), but maybe the OP has a roommate who pays the Internet while the OP pays the electricity - or they might have some sort of arrangement where they each pay half, but only one actually sends in the check.  Or maybe the OP is an adult child living with parents and the parents pay the Internet bill.  In MY house, my wife is the one who makes sure all of the bills are paid.  I contribute money to the household, but she takes the responsibility to actually schedule and/or make payments.  Once or twice in the past she has forgotten to pay something when she thought she had.  I didn't get upset with her about it, it was just a mistake.  But *I* didn't take the initiative to pay a missed bill because I didn't know it had been missed.   


I can think of other similar scenarios where the OP may not have KNOWN that the bill hadn't been paid or was past due and then lost Internet on training day two without warning.


Maybe this ISN'T what happened with the OP, but my point is, without more information, attacking the OP in multiple reply posts is a little bit harsh.  (Not trying to escalate this in any way, just sayin')

I agree with you.  People jump to alot of conclusions without knowing all the facts.  It's part of what is wrong with the world today.  Maybe a little support and asking questions first would be in order.  Take the advice you can use and learn from, remain positive, and go about your business original poster!

[countrygirl12]

What do you mean it is not your responsibility to pay the internet for your house?  Suggestions - yes, if you want internet then take some initiative and pay the freakin bill.  You want to complain because someone else didn't pay the internet so you could play online all day.  Yes, this probably makes you mad.  Oh well.  You obviously have access to internet somewhere or you would not be on here complaining.  If it had been important to you then you would have made the effort to make sure the internet bill was paid.

I'm not the OP, so I may just be jumping at conclusions, but isn't this response a bit harsh?  Obviously we don't know the full story (including myself), but maybe the OP has a roommate who pays the Internet while the OP pays the electricity - or they might have some sort of arrangement where they each pay half, but only one actually sends in the check.  Or maybe the OP is an adult child living with parents and the parents pay the Internet bill.  In MY house, my wife is the one who makes sure all of the bills are paid.  I contribute money to the household, but she takes the responsibility to actually schedule and/or make payments.  Once or twice in the past she has forgotten to pay something when she thought she had.  I didn't get upset with her about it, it was just a mistake.  But *I* didn't take the initiative to pay a missed bill because I didn't know it had been missed.   


I can think of other similar scenarios where the OP may not have KNOWN that the bill hadn't been paid or was past due and then lost Internet on training day two without warning.


Maybe this ISN'T what happened with the OP, but my point is, without more information, attacking the OP in multiple reply posts is a little bit harsh.  (Not trying to escalate this in any way, just sayin')

Thank you. I appreciate all the responses, and especially yours. I can get on the internet because it is paid now. I meant it is simply not my financial responsibility in the household to pay the internet bill.

People are so quick to judge and think that you have never paid your bills, or blaming someone else. In the household, I am actually owed money for past bills.

lol.  I didn't judge you.  And I didn't say you never paid your bills.  And you WERE blaming someone else.  You said it was not YOUR responsibility.  I guess it just does not make sense to me that households or married couples live together but yet have separate checking accounts and you pay this bill and I pay this one.  If you give your husband/wife $5 they have to give it back to you.  Just doesn't make sense.  When I still lived at home if my parents didn't have the money to pay the phone bill or cable bill and "I" wanted to have the cable or the phone then "I" would have paid the freakin bill.

[countrygirl12]

What do you mean it is not your responsibility to pay the internet for your house?  Suggestions - yes, if you want internet then take some initiative and pay the freakin bill.  You want to complain because someone else didn't pay the internet so you could play online all day.  Yes, this probably makes you mad.  Oh well.  You obviously have access to internet somewhere or you would not be on here complaining.  If it had been important to you then you would have made the effort to make sure the internet bill was paid.

I'm not the OP, so I may just be jumping at conclusions, but isn't this response a bit harsh?  Obviously we don't know the full story (including myself), but maybe the OP has a roommate who pays the Internet while the OP pays the electricity - or they might have some sort of arrangement where they each pay half, but only one actually sends in the check.  Or maybe the OP is an adult child living with parents and the parents pay the Internet bill.  In MY house, my wife is the one who makes sure all of the bills are paid.  I contribute money to the household, but she takes the responsibility to actually schedule and/or make payments.  Once or twice in the past she has forgotten to pay something when she thought she had.  I didn't get upset with her about it, it was just a mistake.  But *I* didn't take the initiative to pay a missed bill because I didn't know it had been missed.   


I can think of other similar scenarios where the OP may not have KNOWN that the bill hadn't been paid or was past due and then lost Internet on training day two without warning.


Maybe this ISN'T what happened with the OP, but my point is, without more information, attacking the OP in multiple reply posts is a little bit harsh.  (Not trying to escalate this in any way, just sayin')

No I honestly don't feel like my response was harsh.  Maybe it was.  I am just to the point in my life where I refuse to coddle people.  No one wants to accept responsibility for their actions.  If we are talking about an adult living with parents then the comment "it is not MY responsibility" to pay the internet bill makes it even worse.  Even if it is a spouse that is technically suppose to pay the bill or a room mate or whatever if YOU want to use the internet and it is important to you then YOU make the effort to make sure it is paid.  If need be then you DO IT YOURSELF. 

The difference in you with your wife and the OP is YOU didn't get upset.  The OP gets online and complains about it to people he/she does not even know.  I can understand people get upset and people vent and that is fine.  But the string of events and none of it is my fault blah blah blah I can't understand.  You can't get online to look for a job or do job training but you can get on the internet to get on Fusion Cash and complain because you internet was turned off.  Doesn't make sense.

This reminds me of the young man (out of high school) who was fired from his job for not showing up for work.  His excuse was it was "his stupid momma's fault because she didn't wake him up".  There are so many things wrong with that statement I wasn't sure where to begin.
*Calling his mom stupid?
*You are 20 years old - get yourself up.

I don't appreciate your assumption that young adults are irresponsible. In my 20's I actually paid all bills including rent, electricity, internet, and so forth. Now, I just can't afford that anymore. I also have a college loan. All I was simply stating was that I did not have a financial responsibility to pay the internet, regardless of reasons of why I needed it. I know it was not responsible to not pay it but I didn't have the income or money to do so. I am doing the best I can.

I did not assume anything.  I never said anything about young adults being irresponsible.  I have no idea how old you are.  Nor do I care.  If you didn't have the income to pay the bill then why vent as you said because some one else didn't pay it.  My whole point was your saying "it's not my responsibility to pay the bill and I lost this job because someone else didn't pay the bill".  Personal responsibility.  If the job were important to you then you either would have made sure the bill was paid or found internet some where else.

Seems to me you are just upset because I don't agree with you or didn't jump on the band wagon and join the pity party.  There are a LOT of people having a hard time right now.  And I have found that most of the people with their hand out have a lot more than I do yet want me to feel sorry for them.

[paints]

"There are a lot of people having a hard time now."

I agree. So why make it harder for someone by criticizing?

If you can't lift someone up, at the very least, you can refrain from kicking them while they're down.

[o2bnocn]

A lot to take in from this forum. Again, thanks for all the input. A lot to think about.