How long should a widow man wait to find a partner?

[devideddi]

Depends on the person and the situation, I think.

[6265AT99]

Sorry to hear about your sisters' passing but happy to hear you are at peace with all and yes, you are right those children do need to have more.  the Lord works in mysterious ways and it is not up to us to judge.

[Tresbn00]

I think that a span of at least one year should take place between the passing of one's spouse and the dating of a new partner. I have an Uncle that got married within six months after his wife passed. He searched personals advertisement and said that he could not live alone. This was not acceptable to me.  My children thought that it was a bit soon as well. I did not go to a family function that he went to and removed myself from another function that he showed up at unexpectedly.  I have always strived to bring my children up the right way and felt that by staying in his proximity I would be condoning his behavior.  He was also nasty to my Aunt before she passed away and she was, and is, an angel. I do not believe that at age fifty two, if my wife passed away, that I would be dating anyone any sooner than three years out of respect.

[plennis]

Just depends on the people involved. If someone has an illness like cancer, you know in the back of your mind that it may not turn out for the best.  Even though you love the spouse dearly you have to do what you need to get through it. 

[Kimdud22]

I think you take some time to heal, but it really depends on how you feel. And if you are ready to date again.

[missplaymate618]

Every person is different. Some couples talk about if the other passes it's ok to remarry and what not. Some people just can't live alone. But you should give yourself time to grieve and not rush into something just because you feel alone, make sure you actually WANT to be with the person. That may take months or years. Also my condolences to you and your family for your loss.

[6265AT99]

well, first let me send you my sincerest condolences on the passing of your loved one.  Now, all I have to say about your brother-in-law is be patient cause I'm sure he's hurting a lot more than anyone knows both at the loss of his wife and the fact that his children have lost their mother.  As far as mourning goes and "finding" someone else, well that I think is up to the individual and in your brother-in-laws' case I can understand wanting to give his children another "care taker" beside himself.  I'm glad you have seen God's sign and have accepted the current situation and I'm sure it will all turn out exactly the way God himself has planned it.  Keep your faith in God and your chin up!

[ghunter]

Why do he need another partner, as long as it takes to find the right partner.

[aggie49]

it is different for each person i now my mom lost my dad and she saw other men but never got in to a relationship

[JaniceSW]

P.S.  What my point was is life is short and whatever happiness we can find I guess we should go for it.

I think you hit "the nail on the head" and your insight is right on.  Life is short, anything can happen at any time, and finding a little happiness and companionship means more the more we realize how short life can be.  Having a spouse with an incurable disease and losing them surely must make one realize all of these things.   I like your attitude.  Wish him and the kids and the nurse well.  Who knows where it will go? It is still early.

[makeblessed]

That's hard to say, as I think every person handles the grieving process differently; I think it's an individual choice, however I do believe that those persons who had a strong marriage may be more likely to marry sooner then someone who was perhaps not that happy in their marriage but again that's just my opinion, definitely a personal decision/choice.

[sanglee]

i would say it depends on the situation, if he can even find a adeuet partner. sometimes love doesnt just come along

[reiddb]

Well....especially because she had cancer he had time to process and get ready for the difficult life of single parenting after she passed. I can almost joke with my husband because I KNOW he is one of those kind of guys that just NEED a woman.  It won't be long after I go and he'll be married. Not me.....but him....yeah, so some just need that more than others. My dad married 18 mo after my mom died.

[lguzman1]

I know it's hard because it has only been 5 weeks. To me he should have waited a bit longer, but everybody is different and guys tend to not wait as long as we do.

[jenniferhoder]

I don't think you can ever put a "TIME" on things like that. You just really have to be "ready". I have heard that men typically move on quicker than woman because they need someone....