is 23 too young to get married?

[deekeepinitreal2009]

it is her decision. but that is not to young. if she is in love then let her be. just congratulate her and tell her how happy you are for her

[Azanne07]

Im 21 and i am engaged. If we had the money we would be setting a date and getting married.I want to be married by the time that i am 25 years old.

[mommadixon]

i got married at 23, and i belive that if you and that person truely love one another and want to spend the rest of your lives together then go ahead. but i do suggest laying out everything on the table as far as what you both expect from each other and the marriage, kids, your futures, sex, and anything else that is important to you both. make sure that you can come to a mutual agreement on what you want in your marriage. we did and we have been married for 6 years now and still going.

[lamelslissa]

I got married at 22, 4 months before I turned 23. I may have been young but I don't think no one at no age is really ready for marriage. I have a wonderful marriage and I am 29 now with four wonderful kids. So I wouldn't discourage someone because of their age I would just be the best support you can be behind whatever decision they make.

[jkhanson]

I got married at 19.  My husband was 21.  We just celebrated our 33rd anniversary this year!  We WERE young and it has not always been an easy road....as in, we have had bumps along the way...fights, disagreements, quarrels, and feelings of aloneness, etc.  BUT we also have always made the effort to work things out, talk out, makeup (FUN part).

It is well worth it.  He and I get along very well.  He always says "the rocks in my head fit the holes in his."  We still "go out on dates" frequently.  I love him.

We have 4 kids ages 30 down to 19.  It has been a FUN RIDE.

I don't know what the "magic" age is for getting married.  I do know that whatever age you marry, you both need to know that you will have ups and downs.  You will always need to work at being a couple and have time together as well as time alone with your own friends.  You are making a commitment and don't want to "throw in the towel" over minor bumps in the road.

[trujillo33]

I think 23 is ok...i think 18 is young

[jnjmolly]

I was 21 and i'm happily married for 5 years.  I think people are getting married too late lol...late 20's and early 30's is waiting too long.  I think started a family sooner then later is much smarter.  You never know what can happen! 

[sadie524]

I think it depends on the people and how they feel. If they're in love and want to spend their lives with each other, why not get married? For me, it would be too young. It probably depends on life and what you want out of it as far as career goals, education, etc. Some people want to wait until they have all that figured out; others don't. It just depends on the person.

[rdarling]

I think it is up to the person getting married. If they feel like they are ready for that step than I wish them all the best.

[rn4bama]

I think too many people today get married for the wrong reasons. However, I think you have to be careful and not get too involved in other people's business, especially friends. If you know something she doesn't, then you may want to approach her as a friend and let your feelings be known. The decision ultimately has to be hers and you need to support it, whatever it is.

I knew at 15 that I would marry my husband some day. We dated for 5 years all through the high school days and never felt like we lost anything. Never lived together, never would have considered it (but that's just us), got married at 20 and have been married for 21+ years, together for 26. I found out later my sister-n-law said it would never last. I think a lot of people felt that way, especially my parents. They had other plans for me, but ultimately left it up to me. They now think he's the best thing since sliced bread and jokingly ask me how I landed someone so wonderful.

We got married on $5 an hour while I was in college. We didn't miss out on anything, we just did it together. I did the sorority thing, finished college, he finished college, we have since then earned 2 more degrees and have 2 wonderful teenage boys. We did wait to have children because we wanted to spend time together just the 2 of us. We travelled, got better jobs, and then had our first son 5 years later. Our second son is physically disabled and that just adds another whole new dimension to a relationship.

Marriage is a lot of hard work. Big ups and downs. But you have to remember why you married the person in the first place. I think the secret is to be friends, learn to forgive and put all pride aside. Its not important to win at the cost of your family.

[LaTashaS28]

No, but if you are happy and in Love go ahead!

[LaTashaS28]

But, also you don't want to rush into it, Make sure this is something you are ready for.

[Rtanguileg]

It varies from person to person. I don't think it's anyones job to judge when someone should get married. But if your friend is mature and is in love,then why not?
It's not like their still in highschool,then that would be different.

[x3ney1201]

I think that as long as you are on your feet, in love, and sure of what you are in for, why not? Don't let anyone tell you what to do, its up to you and how you are truly feeling.

[Valerie1979]

Age does not indicate the happiness of the marriage.  Any of us that are married certainly know that things are not always "peachy" in a relationship - however just being older doesn't make that better/easier, etc.
I was 24 when I first got married -- it lasted 5 months
at age 27 I got married again and now have a happy 3 year + marriage and a healthy 2 year old boy.

Being 24 didn't make my marriage fail -- it was not a good pair
being 27 doesn't make my marriage work - but rather the understanding and love and the patience of my dear husband has made this one last longer than the first

All of us are selfish (to some degree) and we would prefer to be alone and have everything we want without having to share or deal with another person - however our emotional and physical needs require or lend itself well to marriage -- now how do we really balance all of this??