is 23 too young to get married?

[Brewskey]

im gonna have to say no ppl get married at younger ages then that and by that time your done with all schooling and such

[mommagoes]

depending on each individual, i don't believe that 23 is "too young" to get married, but i do think that the person should be mature and ready for such a huge adjustment. i waited til i was 26 to get married and the guy i married was 36! and we waited that long to make sure that we were ready. we had time to experience things and learn things and make sure that we were ready to say "i do." now for some people, that time will some when they're 20 and for others it won't happen til they're 40, but only you know if you're "too young."

and a word of advice, if there's any amount of question, whether it be uncertainty, "cold feet" or nervousness, that probably means you're not ready. people will say that those feelings are normal, but i bet half of those same people would say that divorce is normal, too. if there's even an iota of doubt on your part, you should hold off.

[jnjmolly]

Like everyone else already said, it depends on how the two people feel about eachother.  I got married when I was 21 and I have been happily married for 5 years so far.  Good luck!

[abstract1er]

Im 21, have a girlfriend of two years, and considering it, is that too old, or too young?? any opinions gladly accepted. 

[zoocrewmom]

Im 21, have a girlfriend of two years, and considering it, is that too old, or too young?? any opinions gladly accepted. 

I've been married since I was 19 and my dh was 20 we've been married for 13 years and together for 16. I think if you feel you have your head on straight, and are willing to understand that marriage is not always fun and it's a lot of work, compromise and sometimes over looking the little things that may drive you nuts about your other half. Then yes, you have the chance to make it work. Age doesn't really matter, it's the maturity.

[snale21]

I don't think her age is big deal on this topic, but I do think that the length of the relationship may be a concern.  It seems like all to often people are getting married too fast in the relationship.  The only ones who really know if the relationship is solid are her and the potential husband.  Your best bet is to stay clear of the topic.

[LittleDebbieG]

23 is definitely not too young to get married. Heck, when I turn 23, I'll have been married 2 1/2 years already~!

Maturity is a good indicator... but not all people who are mature will do well in a committed relationship, and some immature people are great in committed relationships. Financial stability does not even have to play a factor. In fact, there can't be any real guidelines because what works for some relationships does not work well for others. Best test (beforehand) is for the couple in question to live together under one household. Honestly, if the two can live under a household for at least a year without murdering each other... there's a good indicator that things have a good chance of working out.

[liljp617]

If they both have steady jobs (money = #1 reason for divorce/bad marriages), understand each others needs and desires, and care for each other, it's not too young at all.  If there is a reason you think she's too young, what is it? You said you think she should wait; what is she waiting for?  On the average scale, around a 1/4 of her life is over...she's not going to get younger.

There has to be a specific reason you think she's too young. What is it?

[mrisha]

No, 23 is not too young to get married, unless there are other severe factors involved.  Some cultures consider a young lady an old maid at 23.  I don't think anyone has the right to tell another adult at what age they should get married.

[JessiFish]

Im 21, have a girlfriend of two years, and considering it, is that too old, or too young?? any opinions gladly accepted. 

I was 24 when I got married, 23 when we got engaged, 19 when we started dating. I would've gotten married at 21.

[jkjroni]

I got married at 21 after dating since the teens.  I would say that if you are ready and your partner is ready, go for it! I would strongly suggest LIVING with someone FIRST though, cuz you never know how that's gonna go and I think it's better to see if you are compatible in habitat BEFORE you take the plunge...lol

[abeyta87]

Ok so I noticed I am one of the youngest but that is okay... I got married when I was 17 years old but I had been dating him since I was 15. We have been together for 7 years married for 5 and have 3 beautiful kids together. I will be 22 this coming up winter. Just cause I am married with kids doesn't take away my youth I am able to share that with my husband and kids. We still have fun  . So do I think it is to young? No not at all but again it depends on the people. My sister is 24 and going through a divorce cause she rushed with the wrong person for her. She just wanted to be married too. It does have it's difficult moments like any relationship does but in the end we love each other and can't imagine life without the other and then were fine. Good luck to your friend!

[mlbevins]

23 is not too young.  I was 22 when I got married.  People like to delay things too long these days.  We don't live forever.  If she is happy with her decision then support her.

[chrissy444]

I guess it varies with person to person.  I cringe at the thought that I would have married the person I was dating when I was 23.  But it took me a long time to mature, so I wasn't thinking then of how I was going to make a living, having a family, etc.  I didn't get married until I was 28.  It makes me smile to think of the people I dated before, because I was naive, I love my husband on a whole different level than I've ever loved anyone else in my past.  I do think people should wait until they finish their education to get married...what's the big deal to wait awhile, being engaged is super fun, draw it out! 

[emberyn]

It's really a personal preference and maturity question.  I myself am 23 and have been engaged for 5 years. ;>.>