The Frustrating War at Home

[anotherlaujgirl]

I mean I get it I really do, but sometimes I just think that all the my siblings argue with each other about is just... Unreasonable. There is no reason to take things so far.

These past few weeks being home while taking summer school.. I've been fine but now I really am starting to get fed up and tired of it.

I don't know.. I just know I'm tired. I mean I care about what they all have to say, but the question is do they care? -__-

[sherryinutah]

Some people feed on drama and they're bored if things are peaceful so they push each other's buttons.  Personally, I find that behavior emotionally draining; which is why, I choose to live alone where I can dictate what happens or doesn't happen in my personal environment.

Good luck with it all. 

[anotherlaujgirl]

Some people feed on drama and they're bored if things are peaceful so they push each other's buttons.  Personally, I find that behavior emotionally draining; which is why, I choose to live alone where I can dictate what happens or doesn't happen in my personal environment.

Good luck with it all. 

Thanks! yeah totally understandable.

[kilophkadamas]

I guess it's helpful to realize that if they're arguing, they're probably bothered by someone's actions, or something else and are choosing to express it in a certain way. 

Remember that you don't "have" to be frustrated by what's happening, at least not for a long time. It's our view on things that usually decide what emotion we're going to experience towards a certain event. We demand things to be a certain way and we get frustrated.

[kapeh12]

When I was growing up, there were a lot of sibling arguments/"fights".  Me and one sister were opposites, just couldn't see each others' side of things.  That changed when we both landed in college.  I got their first and after being removed from the house, realized how petty some of the arguments were.  She found the same thing when she moved out.  Then we actually became friends - although we still acknowledged that we were 2 different people and if we were stuck together for too long would still get on each others' nerves, but we knew it was due to just being 2 different people and we'd need our space - nothing more.

Give your sibs time to grow up a little.  Try to avoid the drama as much as you can now.  A lot of this is you gaining a new perspective on things having been outside the family at college - having removed yourself, you now have a wider perspective your younger sibs don't have just yet.  Give them time, most eventually come around once they leave the house too.

[freedomcash11]

Siblings can be a real hassle sometimes. The same thing happens here they will argue other stupid stuff, who had this who had that. It seems like were constantly fighting. Give each other room and time and things should smooth out. Also this might be one of the times were technology come the rescue. I totally understand what you are going through.

[batmobile]

All family is dysfunctional and it is your choice to have a "healthy" relationship and set boundaries with others.  Just because someone is family does not mean excuse their behavior and allow toxic people to control your life.  If you don't want the drama you don't have to include them in your life period!  When things get ugly there may be abuse going on too.  If you don't have a set of ground rules on appropriate behavior in the home it is chaos. 

[mill8277]

My children can work my nerves, it can be quiet when I get home and then all of a sudden all hell will break loose, and they can go way to far.....it really works my nerve......

[anotherlaujgirl]

When I was growing up, there were a lot of sibling arguments/"fights".  Me and one sister were opposites, just couldn't see each others' side of things.  That changed when we both landed in college.  I got their first and after being removed from the house, realized how petty some of the arguments were.  She found the same thing when she moved out.  Then we actually became friends - although we still acknowledged that we were 2 different people and if we were stuck together for too long would still get on each others' nerves, but we knew it was due to just being 2 different people and we'd need our space - nothing more.

Give your sibs time to grow up a little.  Try to avoid the drama as much as you can now.  A lot of this is you gaining a new perspective on things having been outside the family at college - having removed yourself, you now have a wider perspective your younger sibs don't have just yet.  Give them time, most eventually come around once they leave the house too.

Yeah I started to feel the same way after going away for college last year, but.... The whole waiting for them to grow up is a little hard... Because I'm the baby and everyone else is older than I am.