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[bremer51]

It was nice gesture for you to employ your sons girlfriend.  She's a careless and irresponsible girl and you need to tell her she isn't working out.  You and your husband have specific needs and she is not doing the job.  Speak truthfully to them and don't back down.  Start NOW to look for a replacement.

[mill8277]

I do in home care...I wish you were lose to  me and I could do your care....I love my job...hopefully  you will find someone who can give you the services you need.....have you tried letting an agency do the hiring for you? Good Luck.....

[blondie71]

Working with family can be a touchy situation, I would let her go, and try to get a professional. Good luck and God bless

I hired her when my son left here for someone else and she did a really good job well when My son's girlfriend broke up with him he asked to move in and when they got back together she just started doing everything half assed.  She just wanted him back so she put on a front and got him back anyways.

[blondie71]

How long has he been dating her? I personally dont know if I would want to take care of parents of someone I havent been dating very long. You didnt tell us how long

Probably best to get someone who is not family, that way ill feelings are not caused

Maybe she was just feeling uneasy about being so close to you both?

 

They dated for about 2 years when he broke up with her and they got back together when he left his last girlfriend but she lived with me and stayed with me when My husband was gone she was so kind and giving.  She has live under my roof for at least a year and a half.  It wasn't like I didn't know her.

[blondie71]

Well... I would suggest stop paying her.. As Judge Judy would say.. If you eat the steak and you don't like it send it back.. Otherwise if you eat the steak you don't like it but you eat it anyway then you have to pay for the steak.

I suggest you find someone who is going to care enough and with enough training to help you.. Not someone who does not care.. does not have compassion.. and will just leave you hanging out in the cold..

I really don't understand why it is so hard for people to understand that if your treated bad or you don't like something then stop it...Why do people rather be a victim then putting your foot down and stopping the headache.. If she don't care don't pay her.. I wouldn't want someone i know to suffer.. and if they were suffering especially if they were paying for it i'd put an end to it.. It's nonsence to keep letting it go on.. Especially if the person don't care..(Sorry if i sound mean or rude.. I am not trying to be.. I just don't understand the concept of letting people walk all over you)

That is what I did I stood up to her and told her how it was going to be from now on and she quite.  She is very hard headed and get furious quickly and very loud.  My sister said the same thing you said not in so many words but she says I need to start standing up for myself and letting my son  and whom ever he is with walk all over me. he gets mad at me when I stand up for myself and he is my only child he might quit talking to me for a little bit but he always needs me for something so he will come around.  Thank all of you for your suggestions and advice.