when should you discipline a three year old

[hensleyll]

she has terrible temper but when you try to talk to her she just bellars off top of her lungs she is my granddaughter and her parents are just run arounds that dont have any discipline theirselves

[hitch0403]

Maybe this will help.....

Do you, however, the one teaching someone else, not teach yourself? You, the one preaching ‘Do not steal,’ do you steal? You, the one saying ‘Do not commit adultery,’ do you commit adultery?”—Romans 2:21, 22.
A chairman of the Seoul Board of Education said: “Example in word and deed is the best child education.” If parents do not set a good example in speech and conduct and give their child specific instruction, the child will quickly assume they are hypocritical. The parents’ words will lose their effect. For instance, if parents want to teach their child honesty, they themselves must be honest. It is very common for some parents, when they do not want to receive a telephone call, to have their child say, “Sorry, my dad (or mom) is not here.”

Then the child may get confused after.

[hensleyll]

this is true ,but i do not do this kind of thing,i try to be as honest as i can with the kids

[moon29]

because this is not your child i would refrain from breaking out anything more then the time out.  i personally have always discipline my son who is 16 months old just as my parents did.  I dont abuse my child but he is also aware what is appropriate and what is not.   It sounds like the issue probably lies not in your grandchild but in the parents maybe you should have a sit down with them to see if some type of agreement can be worked out if not i would refuse to watch the child until the issue has been addressed.

[lgemini]

You would need to discipline them now, so it won't get worse.  Time out would be some where to start.

[tantricia44]

I'm no parent but I grew up with 3 brothers & 2 sister. I now have 4 nieces observation & past lessons from mistakes give me some knowledge to help you out.1. Don't punish th child punish your adult children for failing to bring up their child! 2. When child's acting up ignore her; pretend kid's not even in the room with you.Kid will get tired soon enough!

[msmoneybags48]

It depends upon the situation.  I would like to share this story with you.  My aunt married a man who had 6 children and she had 4, then had their baby.  This man believed in discipline, but had taken it overboard.   My aunt's children had no discipline and she would not allow him to discipline her children.  His children, however, was a different situation.  She would do things to get his children into trouble.  He was beating his children well unto their teenage years.  His oldest daughter was so tired, she was trying to get away.  She got away at 17 and because my aunt figured my grandmother and I had something to do with her leaving, she and the remaining children accused us of breaking up their home because she had spent the night with us.  This was her idea.  One by one her siblings left.  Before my aunt died, she had been forgiven by his children except for one.  I can see you marrying a person who has children, but you are supposed to raise those children as your own.  My aunt did not do that.  I will tell you this; at three years old, she is doing this because her parents have not disciplined her and doing it right now is only going to make things worse.  Good luck in this aspect.

[tfw6693]

  Before 3 years old. as a grandparent, you can only control what goes on in your house. Our grand kids know our rules and behave nice in our house. 

[workin4alivin]

If you are watching her at your place, you can for sure say that "you do not get to act like that here!" and punish her by time out or no TV, etc.  When my kids where younger, we'd always have tons of their friends over and I would sit each one down (or in group is sleepover) and tell them the rules of our household and if they wanted to continuing coming over they had to obey the simple rules.

Good luck, I know it's not easy when the parents are not consistent or too lenient.

[short4love]

Try a time out or take away something that she really like for awhile till she can behave. 

[sak4kat]

When my kids were 2, nearly 3.  I introduced the time out.  I'd give them 3 clear warnings after telling them there behavior is unacceptable.  I'd count 1, 2, 3.  If I got to 3 they had to sit in time out for however long there age was.  It took a couple of times for them to get it but when they did they would start to move when I got to 2.  The other day my 14 & 7 year old were acting up.  I put my 7 year old in a 7 min. time out.  I told my 14 year old if he kept it up he'd be sitting with her.  Sure enough he pushed my buttons and he too sat in a 14 min. time out.  Moral of the story was to teach my daughter a lesson.  My son - his pride was hurt more than anything.

[skinnygwenny]

You should discipline your three year old whenever they are old enough to understand what they are being disciplined for.

[hensleyll]

so we are working on timeouts and taking AWAY toys or ipad or whatver she has when being bad,she likes to throw things so we take them for time each time is longer working good so far

[meg0694]

I have a step daughter that is the same way with her 2 year old.  I told her to start disiplining them ASAP.  When they start to be able to reach for things they will learn what no is very quickly.

[hitch0403]

Also some more good advice......




 
Proverbs 22: 6 says, "Train up a boy according to the way for him; even when he grows old he will not turn aside from it."