Do you know who your father is?

[msmoneybags48]

I looked at The Trisha Goddard show yesterday, and she disclosed that her mother took the identity of her father with her to her grave.  My mother also took my father's identity with her to her grave.   I heard things about him but they came from a great aunt.  My mother and grandmother considered him to be no good.  He died 11 days after my 2nd birthday.  It makes me bring up a curious question.  Did you know who your father was?  If you were raised without a father in the home, did your mother ever tell you who your father was or did she take his identity with her to her grave? 

[Nancy5]

My father was killed in an accident when I was 3.  I don't remember him, but I saw many pictures of him, and heard countless good stories about how much he loved my sister and me.  I look so much like my dad's side of the family.  So, no I don't remember my dad, but I know who he was.  I'm so sorry you don't have good memories of your father.

[jenniferhoder]

I am very fortunate to have a loving and lasting relationship with my father. I am the youngest of 6 children. I am thankful every day I have such a wonderful family. 

[jmc1982]

I know who my father is. Dont talk to him or want to do anything with him because once he divorced my mom he divorced me and my sisters as well

[kqa]

My parents divorced when I was 3 back in the 1950s and he moved to the other side of the country. However, he did visit us. I look exactly like him and his family so there is no question of paternity.

[potluck6]

I know who my father is,but he died when i was 11.It was a heart attack.I often think of what has happened in the world since 1968 when he died,good and bad. He would of loved his grand kids.He died at 49 wow how young.

[Penwoir]

To answer your question, Yes I know who my father is, (was, before he died). He was a lovely man.  Which makes me even more strongly feel I cannot imagine you being denied the truth - even if it is questionable. Everyone has the right to learn their identity if they wish to receive it. If she didn't wish to tell you person to person, she should have written it down.  I would have thought she'd put your need to "know" before her wish not to discuss. After all, if the man was a mistake, that was her mistake, not yours. I feel for you!

[Dynamite2013]

I really don't know but I know that the man that she said was my father respected me and was the greatest man in the world. I miss him dearly and I know if he wasn't my real father he sure acted like it. Love you Dad and miss you.

[vp44]

Yes I know who my Father is. I grew up with him raising me. Love him to the day he died June 2011. Will always love him.

[lywb2168]

I know who my father is. Dont talk to him or want to do anything with him because once he divorced my mom he divorced me and my sisters as well

Same here, I know who my father was, he died last year, he disconnected himself from my oldest brother and my life after the divorce, and little by little took away our child support since my mom moved back to her country and there was not way to fight it.  When my brother turned 18 decided to come back to US and live withe my dad and he moved back home with us 3 months later said that my stepmother was a pig.

When I married and came to the US dad found out send me a very nasty letter regarding MOM, and I disconnected myself totally from him then.  Seriously you do not see your children for 20 years and when you communicate with me you are blasting the 1 person the was there for me.  I know mom has many defects but she was there, he was not.  Over the next 20 years DAD would call me twice a year and say have, how much he loved me, etc.  He passed away last year but I did not go to his funeral.  The most sad part of it all is that we shared the same birthday and he never send me even a birthday card, he did send my bother 2 cards over 20 years with $$ on it; but not me.

So yest I know who he was, never met him and never missed him, I have an step-dad whom I love very much and who has earned the right to be called dad.  He supports me and even helps me and my family out when we need it, something I could honestly say that the person who provided the genes for me never did.  I do not like speak bad of the dead, may he rest in peace, but the truth is the truth.

[ernica96]

I know who he is. Was raised mostly by him and still live under his roof but after reading these posts, realized I may taking this type of relationship for granted since were not that close.

[cateyes1]

I was fortunate enough to have my Dad my whole life, till I lost him 4 years ago at the age of 90....I love you Daddy 

[ro901]

I know his name and that's all. You can't miss what you never had.

[hawkeye3210]

Yes, lived with both my parents growing up.

[bigfoot951]

I was fortunate to grow up with my father and he remains in my life.  I can't imagine life without him and my heart goes out to people like the one you described.