Money sure can cause problems

[demaina]

I'm glad to hear that you all sorta see what I'm seeing as well.  Normally when one of them brings it up, I remind them that their parents are giving them the money so the girls really can't be held accountable of that.

To specify, it's not that both of them fight about it a lot.  Normally Amanda has a bad day at work or something and then brings up how Andrea is just getting money and how it's unfair.  Or Andrea comes over and tells me how Amanda frustrates her, for example, when they will both complain about how their mom is frustrating them (calling 5 times a day when they have finals or calling once an hour every time she finds something from when they were little to see if they want it) and Amanda will bring up the money as if it's something Andrea would agree with.  I've seen it where they will be saying; "I don't get why guys wear their pants so low." "I know.  I thought the purpose of the belt was to hold them up."  "Exactly, it's like how mom and dad are giving both of us money.  I'm the only one in school."  It wasn't as blunt as that, but that's how it basically felt for me when you're in the middle of a conversation you really shouldn't be a part of.


@linderlizzie and @countrygirl12
I don't really know if they NEED the money to live.  Amanda had already paid for her schooling herself, so her parent's are more just paying her back from what I understand. 

Also, I probably exagerated the numbers they are receiving.  When I said 30,000 and 20,000, I meant that 20,000 was spent on undergrad.  Amanda once mentioned she was out close to 10,000 in postgrad cost, so I'm assuming that's what both of them are getting in total.  I try to steer out of this conversation whenever it happens so I don't really know what they are getting from their parents.


@kapeh12
To be honest, I don't know if Amanda complains about this to her parents or not.  I think she just brings it up to her friends.  I agree with you though, if I had a child that was acting this way, I would probably warn them once and then cut them off if this kept happening.  Andrea keeps asking me if she should tell her parents about this or not and I keep telling her to just keep it quiet.  Honestly though, if it happens a few more times, I wonder if she should speak up against Amanda or to her parents.  I personally think she should try to ignore it if possible, but if this keeps happening, it makes me wonder how long she should hold her tongue. 

[dreamyxo]

The one with the problem with it is acting like a spoiled brat.  Her parents can do whatever they want with their money.  She sounds jealous of the other sister.  She better be grateful.  Most people don't have parents to give them anything.

[jracki]

Money is the root of all evil!

[ktheodos]

It's common to bite the hand that feeds us

[tashamjoy]

Amanda here is just being selfish she is getting her school payed for ad should be grateful not worrying about what her parents are paying for for her sister. One thing is money can be very complicated because you cannot always treat your children exactly evenly what if one choose a school for 10,000+ a semester and one choose one 7,000 a semester should the parents go give the cheaper one 3,000 a semester cash for the difference? no ! Things cannot always be even its just how life works for example my sister has spent a lot longer in a state school then i have i have spent more time at a community college does that mean i am going to go ask my parents for my money difference for less years no because I am grateful for what they have paid and what they decide to pay for my sister is there problem not mine. And if they decide to pay for my sister to do her masters or some sort and i choose not to and my parents dont give me the money that they spent on me i would not be mad or anything because it is there money i cannot tell them how they should spend it rather be grateful for what they have !!!

[ShadeTree]

It's their parents' money and they've elected to help both of their children. Both are pursuing further education on specific interests, they're just choosing different methods (and different interests). Neither of them should have a problem with their parents giving them both money, they should be appreciative that their parents are supportive of them both. Sounds like the one with the problem is expecting special treatment/favoritism which is selfish in itself. She should be supportive of her sister and vice versa.

[bud1]

This  may  seem  harsh  but  cut  both  the  sisters  out.  It makes  life  simple.

[o2bnocn]

I would stop worrying about how much the other is getting and focus that time and energy on something productive if I were them.

[bleyd]

Both should be happy and very grateful their getting something! They should both stop whining and complaining. My parents always tries to help our my brothers and me out, in some instances financially as well. But they do it out of love, we don't expect it. Although we can't pay them just yet, we at least try to at least help them out...moving furniture or running errands for them.

[mrisha]

It looks like both friends is possibly going to school as a hobby if ones parent is paying for everything.  Why is the other friend so jealous of the other?  They are getting more degrees but it doesn't look like one isn't getting any wiser or should I say both. 

[bonzie]

Yes most of the time money can cause a problem, but its depend how you live according to the individual income.

[bonzie]

Except for the surprise expenses,and there nothing to do about,like health problem is really tough. Money can cause a big problem is this kind of situations.

[swkstudent]

Both of these girls should take God they have parents that are willing to help them financially, some parents cut their kids off after they turn 18.

[natashaspy]

sit them both down and tell them that you dont want to be in the middle of it, because you care about them both.  then tell them straight out if she isnt happy about it, to tell her parents and let them worry about it!

[Tresbn00]

Not having money can cause more problems!  Guess that is why we are all here. I think that there is a little selfishness going on here. I ran into a similar problem with my children. I have a daughter that checked out a private school and public school.  She chose the public school and is flourishing.  My son went to the private school and is doing well.  My daughter, now, seems to hold a little animosity towards us paying for his private school. I guess you can never really win regardless of how you play the game. No matter what I love them both and will give up everything I have for their happiness and secure future...as well as that of my wife's.