I don't quite get this. I have two friends that are sisters that are sorta good on this subject, but if you really talk to them about it, one is really upset at the whole ordeal.
My friend Amanda (not her real name) went to college and got a Bachelors and wants to go for post graduate degree because she basically needs it to get a job.
My other friend Andrea (not her real name) went to college and got a Bachelors and is now searching for a job. That's really all she needs for a job and has become buying textbooks for further her studies while searching.
Their parents agreed to pay for their education, which they both figured was just undergrad. Once Amanda started to get her masters degree, her parents decided they would help her pay for it as well but they only did this after she had paid for a full year herself. So, they have been giving her checks to pay her back. Well, they decided that while Andrea isn't getting a degree, she's further her education as well by studying on her own and have started paying her the same amount as well to make up for what she's done. I've talked to her and she's been buying some really expense software that she needs to know to get a job.
Apparently the fact that Andrea is getting money upsets Amanda. Andrea was telling me that on more than one occasion Amanda has brought up how it annoys her that her sister gets money too and tries to get Andrea to agree that it's unfair.
I just don't understand it. I can see Amanda's point that she is getting money to pay for her college. But, I also see Andrea's point that she's spent thousands on books and software as well to further her education and while it isn't college, it still is education. The thing I don't quite get is how Amanda is upset by this. So, she should get money but not her sister, though they are both trying to learn more about the career they want to have? And, from what Andrea says, it's like Amanda wants her to tell her parents to stop paying her. It's like, these numbers are probably no accurate, but Amanda gets to have 30,000 spent on her education, but Andrea only gets to have 20,000 spent on hers and she has to pay the 10,000 for the education afterwards.
It just really amazes me that this is what people argue or worry about. I mean really, you're upset that you get the same amount of money as your sister. REALLY?
What do you all think? I've sorta been in the middle of this for a while with both telling me that they are frustrated about this. Andrea wants Amanda to stop bugging her about it and just seems to be angry about it but putting on a happy front until something else upsets her and then she explodes. I don't really know what to say to either cause, 1) it isn't my place and 2) I can see both sides and don't quite get all the fuss. For Andrea, she's never going to convince Amanda to back off unless she stops taking the money, but then that might upset her parents, and Amanda either needs to let it go or confront her parents and have them tell her what they think.