Passed Away

[levettepough]

My Godmother passed away on last Saturday and she was buried on Thursday past I just found out about it yesterday. My Godsister did not call me so that I could come to the funeral.How would you have handle that?

[lgemini]

I would still go to funeral or you can just visit her grave.

[djohnson43]

After your godsister has a chance to calm down some I would just ask calmly and nicely if it was an over sight. Her grief may have been to much and just forgot about you. Then tell her you would have like to have been there to support her and pay your respects. But if there was some malice in it then just go to the grave site alone and pay your respects. It will bring you a sense of at least some relief. Best of luck to you.

[BMaston12]

My Godmother passed away on last Saturday and she was buried on Thursday past I just found out about it yesterday. My Godsister did not call me so that I could come to the funeral.How would you have handle that?

I of course would be upset. You should always have the chance to attend a funeral or memorial. I am sorry that you were treated in this way. Perhaps there were reasons why this happened. Grief can do strange things to people and everyone handles it in their own way. MY prayers are with you and God will show you how to respond to this tragedy. Have faith and all will be well.
BMaston12

[jwallbank]

This sometimes happens!! I would not take it personal. When things calm down and probably about 1-2 weeks, I would ask calmly "Why you were not informed"?. I had something - in the same manner within my own family. My Father was not informed of one of his Grandson's death and my sister did not talk with him to the day he died!! Don't let things like this break up the family. I know how it can create a RIF, that sometimes can never be undone. Some people rely on other people to inform, and that does not happen in a time of grief!!

[ShadeTree]

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm also sorry you weren't aware of what had happened until after the funeral. Even though you weren't at the funeral, you could still go visit her and maybe you could sort of have your own funeral for her. I hope you are doing okay. A hug for you!

[nmbrown863]

I am so sorry for your loss!

[zreeds]

my aunt passed away in april and I was unable to attend the funeral. I was so sad but I will always have my memories of the love we shared. I suggest you try to move forward with your memories and not to hold a grudge.

[plennis]

I am so sorry for your loss.   Were you very close?  Sometimes there is so much to do and such a short time, that things or people get overlooked.
Not from malice, but because the grief makes you mind not as alert as usual.  Sometimes it almost closes down to help people handle it.  I woud send her a etter of condolence, just sharing happy memories with her Mom and without any blame.  

[msmoneybags48]

I am sorry for your loss.  I had my grandmother to die on October 3 24 years ago.  I was informed that she died by my sister, but she would not even loan me the money to get to her funeral.  My cousin died 22 years ago and they totally forgot to inform me of his death.  But life goes on.  My grandmother will always be a part of my life.  I have my memories of her, and although I miss her, I know she is with me in spirit.  You will remember the great and funny things your godmother  used to do, and she will also be with you in spirit.  I wish you luck in this horrible event.

[ro901]

I'm sorry for your loss. Grief effects different people in different ways. I can understand why you might feel slighted.

[timvolley]

this is too bad that you didn't get a chance to say goodbye. it is so hard when people are too worried about their own feelings that they forget that family sometimes is all you have. Good luck with this and I am sorry for your loss

[jcribb16]

My condolences for the loss of your Godmother.  I know that must have been hard to deal with finding out the she died and was buried after the fact.  Hopefully, it was an oversight on your Godsister's part.  Maybe you will be able to speak with her about it when you feel it's the right time.  I hope it gets worked out for you.

[countrygirl12]

I am sorry for your loss.  Do you and your godsister get along?  I would ask her why she didn't tell me.  You can still visit the grave site.  Maybe take some flowers to leave on her grave. 

[elysee24]

Sorry for your loss!! I hope you have the chance to visited your godmother's grave site to say goodbye.
Actually years ago, when my grandma passed away, sister happened to study overseas and she was in her last year busy with finals.
There was no way she could make it back on time, so we decided not to tell her till she finished all her exams!!