Stopped talking

[lgemini]

I hope one day you will be able to talk with your daughter, because you are missing time you could be spending with your grandchildren.

[cateyes1]

I hope one day you will be able to talk with your daughter, because you are missing time you could be spending with your grandchildren.

Thank you, that is the part that breaks my heart is not spending time with grandkids. I so want to meet my new grandbaby too before he gets to old. I want to bond with him so he will know that I am his Nana

[msmoneybags48]

The only reason I can't talk to my mother is she passed away 17 years ago.  If you have done everything you could and she still is not speaking to you, don't wait until it is too late.  My mother felt I should have done more for her while she was alive, although she didn't want me when she had me.  "When you get rich, don't forget your mother" was her favorite term to say to me.  I heard she said that I should send her money and forget my responsibilities to my family.  My family came first.  Anyway, my grandmother raised me, and she passed away 24 years ago.  If there was anyone I would stick my neck out for, it would be her.  But rather than dwell on the past, I will say to you that I wish you luck in reconnecting with your daughter.  Don't wait until it is too late.  Death has a strange bedfellow in bringing people together who think that the dearly departed left them something.  I have seen what happens when a loved one dies, and it is not pretty.

[ljrjess69]

kids can be relly hard to deal with at times,,,smh     

[sak4kat]

I am guilty of just that.  I'm 38 and I choose to avoid my own Mother as much as I can.  Anytime I'm around her she say's things that are rude, hurtful and pointless.  Even worse now she goes through my kids to get her digs in towards me.  I've moved away - and she and her boyfriend just show up to visit.  Usually her trips are to bring the kids a present or treat.  But from day one she has come uninvited expects us to drop everything.  The day before Halloween she and her boyfriend showed up - It was raining, and I was on a business call - trying to to wrap things up to get the Dr and they just expected me to stop so I could chat with them.  A simple phone call could have avoided the annoyance.

[cateyes1]

I am guilty of just that.  I'm 38 and I choose to avoid my own Mother as much as I can.  Anytime I'm around her she say's things that are rude, hurtful and pointless.  Even worse now she goes through my kids to get her digs in towards me.  I've moved away - and she and her boyfriend just show up to visit.  Usually her trips are to bring the kids a present or treat.  But from day one she has come uninvited expects us to drop everything.  The day before Halloween she and her boyfriend showed up - It was raining, and I was on a business call - trying to to wrap things up to get the Dr and they just expected me to stop so I could chat with them.  A simple phone call could have avoided the annoyance.

I am the total opposite with my daughter. I do nothing but praise her and tell her what a good mother/daughter she is. She however did something that I didn't agree with and I voiced my opinion and thoughts and now she wont talk to me....many have told me to just show up at her door but I don't want my Grandkids to go through any reactions my daughter may have with us just showing up.....thanks!!

[nannycoe1]

Don't give up on her. Try and talk not fuss.

[cateyes1]

Don't give up on her. Try and talk not fuss.

Nannycoe1, I have tried so hard to talk with her every way that I can but she wont budge I am getting to the point that I don't even care anymore. I love her with all my heart and i'll be there if/when she decides to contact me but I can not stress over this anymore. what will be will be!!...thank you!!

[mrisha]

My daughter stopped talking to me almost 5 years ago.   I still do not why.  Sounds bizarre, but true.  She even stopped her 2 sons from talking to me.  This is a woman who never went without anything while growing up.  But as she grew older I could see the personality of a person whose world only revolved around her and didn't care about others or what she said to them-to
include me-that was a shocker. 

I prayed about it to get the stress off me, because it was making me a wreck and now I have accepted that they are people that I never knew and to go ahead and live my life.

[countrygirl12]

I am guilty of just that.  I'm 38 and I choose to avoid my own Mother as much as I can.  Anytime I'm around her she say's things that are rude, hurtful and pointless.  Even worse now she goes through my kids to get her digs in towards me.  I've moved away - and she and her boyfriend just show up to visit.  Usually her trips are to bring the kids a present or treat.  But from day one she has come uninvited expects us to drop everything.  The day before Halloween she and her boyfriend showed up - It was raining, and I was on a business call - trying to to wrap things up to get the Dr and they just expected me to stop so I could chat with them.  A simple phone call could have avoided the annoyance.

.  I can't imagine what ONE thing she could do that you could disagree with that would be enough for her to shut you out forever.  Well, I can think of one thing.  But you can not agree with something someone does or how the live and still love them and be friends.  I have family that we don't agree on things but we are there for each other.  I hope she can get over what ever it is she is mad about and let you back into her life.  But if the kids know what the problem is they may already be poisoned against you.  It's hard to undo words.  . So sorry for what you are going thru.

I am the total opposite with my daughter. I do nothing but praise her and tell her what a good mother/daughter she is. She however did something that I didn't agree with and I voiced my opinion and thoughts and now she wont talk to me....many have told me to just show up at her door but I don't want my Grandkids to go through any reactions my daughter may have with us just showing up.....thanks!!

[countrygirl12]

Don't give up on her. Try and talk not fuss.

Nannycoe1, I have tried so hard to talk with her every way that I can but she wont budge I am getting to the point that I don't even care anymore. I love her with all my heart and i'll be there if/when she decides to contact me but I can not stress over this anymore. what will be will be!!...thank you!!

Do you have any other kids?  Could they help you?  Or get her to budge? 

[countrygirl12]

My daughter stopped talking to me almost 5 years ago.   I still do not why.  Sounds bizarre, but true.  She even stopped her 2 sons from talking to me.  This is a woman who never went without anything while growing up.  But as she grew older I could see the personality of a person whose world only revolved around her and didn't care about others or what she said to them-to
include me-that was a shocker. 

I prayed about it to get the stress off me, because it was making me a wreck and now I have accepted that they are people that I never knew and to go ahead and live my life.

Wow.  Are you my aunt? lol.  This sounds like my cousin.  She got everything she ever wanted and then some.  Got to do everything she wanted.  Be in everything.  Never heard the word no.  And the one who made it happen she treats them like crap.  She speaks to her but her mother would be better off if she didn't in my opinion.

[cateyes1]

Don't give up on her. Try and talk not fuss.

Nannycoe1, I have tried so hard to talk with her every way that I can but she wont budge I am getting to the point that I don't even care anymore. I love her with all my heart and i'll be there if/when she decides to contact me but I can not stress over this anymore. what will be will be!!...thank you!!

Do you have any other kids?  Could they help you?  Or get her to budge? 

Yes I have a son who is 31 but right now he is in the Academy for 7 more weeks. He can not understand his sisters actions either. I don't want to involve him much in anything because I just want him to focus on the Police Academy and graduate!!..maybe if I give her space she will think things over and call me one day, i'm not going to hold my breath though.

[ancmetro]

   Blah...blah...blah. I know what your mean! I felt the same way about schools and teachers. Now I go to my computer and use the Internet. And have a better chat!

[bremer51]

She is your daughter and she has your grandchildren.  I would keep trying in a gentle manner.  You don't want to look back in a few years and say, "I should have tried harder."