Do you think this is cruel or wrong?

[vernaj77]

Yes, I believe it is cruel being that the other is vision deficiency.  Your not just changing furniture but the way the person knows how to function within the home.

[kqa]

I would not change it unless a piece were out of his path and was something he never used such as a sewing machine.

[tinaryerson]

as long as he is ok with the changes.  I'm sure he gets bored of "not seeing" but he can't change anything.

[ilovepatrick]

start home decorating service they make good money and fulfill your needs

[batmobile]

Occasionally, as the seasons change or the mood strikes, I like to re-arrange the furniture in my home for a different look.  However, I have been told that since I am living with a vision impaired boyfriend, that this is just cruel.  Is simply changing things really that wrong?

Ask your boyfriend what he thinks...go fung shui

[zreeds]

yes, especially if he is falling down and bumping into things. you know what it's like to stump your toe, it hurts!! is decorating really all that important? make life simple and easy for boyfriend, don't be a headache for him.

[thtrngng]

It would not hurt to ask first and see if your partner will accept the fact that he would have to learn the layout of living space all over again.

[lucky382001]

Occasionally, as the seasons change or the mood strikes, I like to re-arrange the furniture in my home for a different look.  However, I have been told that since I am living with a vision impaired boyfriend, that this is just cruel.  Is simply changing things really that wrong?

I hope you ask him first before you move things around. Hopefully you don't move so many things around that he can't navigate his environment. Im sure the two of you will work it out.

[lucky382001]

Occasionally, as the seasons change or the mood strikes, I like to re-arrange the furniture in my home for a different look.  However, I have been told that since I am living with a vision impaired boyfriend, that this is just cruel.  Is simply changing things really that wrong?

Hmmm Maybe I shouldn't bring this up but a good friend of mine used to rearrange her house everytime her husband went out drinking.

[dancer139]

i would really hope before you move things that you tell him what is gong to happen !!!!  Then he can learn where things are as you change them

[vp44]

Work together on this and both of you will be happy.

[loulizlee]

You don't sound like you are trying to be cruel, maybe a bit thoughtless.  I agree with those who said it depends on how disabled he is.  Also, I agree that you should talk to him first and get his input.  Maybe both of you would be happy with a little change at a time.  I can empathize with you, however.  I like to change the furniture around once in a while.  It gets so boring after awhile.

[hitch0403]

Man if this was the only problem i had id buy a new livin room set every month!!

[sak4kat]

My son has poor vision - I've never once thought about how my going in his room and rearranging things could be cruel.  I've always thought of it as making things look nicer and user friendly.  After all he shares a room with 2 sisters.  Now he's not blind by all means but he does have horrible vision - so much so he had an IEP in grade school because of it and his teachers didn't bother teaching him how to write in cursive.  I'm going to ask him his thoughts on this. 

[bhiett]

Maybe you could get your "fix" for seasonal changes by new or seasonal centerpieces and decorator items that would make no difference in his navigating through his living space.  If that is not enough change for you, make several sets of curtains in seasonal colors and patterns and rotate them throughout the year.  If you don't sew and money is an issue (and when is it not), try garage sales or thrift stores for these items and maybe some colorful afghans for wall hangings or to drape over the backs of chairs/sofa.