Should teenagers get into serious relationships?

[msmoneybags48]

I would definitely advise against teenage relationships.  Teenage girls have different opinions of teenage boys, while teenage boys have raging hormones and have one thing on their mind.  For instance, my husband is 53, but did not finish high school as a teenage boy because he had ideas of getting his rocks off.  He regrets that decision now, and is going back to school to learn how to read better so he can take the GED test.  He told me just yesterday that he should have concentrated on learning in school instead of being mannish.  He admits, rather sheepishly, that he has no one to blame for this but himself.  I can see it if they get to know one another before being serious.  When I was growing up, one of the girls I went to school with became pregnant as a teenager.  To give you an example of how immature her boyfriend was, who was the father of her baby, he took a cup of ice and poured it down her back, causing her to go into labor too early.  She became the mother of twin girls, who weighed 2 and 1/2 pounds each.  Those babies spent 2 and a half to three months in a hospital very far away until they gained enough weight to go home.  I knew a young lady my sister's age who had this idea to sleep with a 17 year old teenage boy, who was dating my sister.  This girl became pregnant at the age of 12.  My sister's boyfriend confessed the ordeal to me, and my sister got mad at me because he told me.  I told her he confessed it to me because he didn't know how to tell her.  It is more advisable to get to know a teenage boy for some years and, if he loves her enough, he will wait for her.  Don't allow him to pressure you into doing something you do not want to do.   

[joker365247]

my wife and i have been together since we were 15. i think it has more to do with what parents teach their kids, mine were very open and honest with me about love and sex. kids are going to be in relationships  no matter what, how you prepare  them really matters.

[debidoo]

Well, I don't know about the word "right" but if you replace the word "right" with wise or wisdom I would say no.  First of all parents are held responsible for things their children do like have unwanted pregnancies etc.  I think teenagers should try and enjoy their youth without getting into relationships that both parties may not have the maturity to handle but people want what they want so ....................

[hkckk5]

Do you think teenagers should have the right to have serious relationships?

My answer to that is no. I have a granddaughter who just turned 13 and her mom is so excited that she has a boyfriend. However, I am not. But everyone has their own opinions about teenage relationships as you can see. 

[kapeh12]

You know, way back in the day people use to get into serious marriage type relationships at that age so it isn't unnatural for the youth today to do the same. Some people mature faster than others.

I was going to comment something similar to this.  It is true that biologically speaking, it is natural for teenagers to start desiring/being drawn into relationships.

I think the major difference between youth of today vs youth of the bygone era, is say, 100-150 years ago, kids from about the time they could walk were trained to work/help out around the house just for the family to survive.  Girls learned to cook, sew, maintain farm animals, laundry, keep a house, repairs, etc.  Boys learned their father's trade or were apprenticed out - out in the fields farming, black smith, mills, etc.  If they were lucky, there was a school in the area they could walk to to get education to a point.  So by the time they were teenagers, both boys and girls had a working knowledge on how to keep a house and provide for a family, and were eligible to be married off.

Today, most kids are in school until they are 18.  What they know about taking care of them selves depends on what their parents may or may not have taught them - and today's parents don't always teach them enough of the basics of how to survive on their own in today's world (not just cooking and cleaning, but also need financial management, job seeking skills, etc).  Rather than learning, kids watch TV, play on the computer or their hand held games, "social network", etc.  This lends to a lesser maturity level by the time they graduate compared to youth of the 1800's.  There are parents who do their best, and some kids that naturally tend to want to "grow up" sooner, but I would say on average, youth of today don't mature until much later in life...at least in this country.  The rules of the 1800's can be found in other more primitive cultures around the world where families still need to work day-by-day to survive.

[myles26]

When you say teenagers i think 13 to about 17 and i would say no but you cant stop love i know many marriages that have lasted for years now and they started dating in high school... So its an iffy question.. When you know you know i dont really think there should be an age limited put on somthing like love 

[smithjcsdfw]

No the teenage years are for them to develope the skills that they will need for serious relationships of the future.  But be careful as you guide your teenagers through these events because they may not see you sharing your wisdom as something that they should appreciate.

[crazib]

NO

[Penwoir]

I would not be happy if my children were under 18 and in a serious relationship, however I did that exact thing when I was 15.  I met someone who I thought I wanted to be with forever, we stayed together nearly 4 years. My parents were grossly unhappy about the relationship but didn't stop it. They just didn't actively encourage it. I remember a grown up telling me at the time, what you want out of a relationship when you are 15 or 16, is not the same as what you want out of a relationship when you are 25. I remember thinking I know exactly what I want from my partner. However by the time I got to 19, I decided he was not what I wanted and came to the decision my parents had wanted since we started dating. Had my parents vitod the relationship, who knows what my relationship with my parents would be right now. Thankfully they stood back, let me make my own decisions and supported me until I decided for myself.

[plaguezombie]

I don't see why not, but I wouldn't advise it for everyone.

[rozphillips]

No, I don't think they should get into serious relationships because they are too young and do not have the mindset to make adult decisions about a serious relationship.

[weased]

Do you think teenagers should have the right to have serious relationships?

I`m not sure, we live in a society that puts too much emphasis on the age of adulthood. It`s more of a way you raise your children, and their ability to accept responsiblity. After all, the mother of my Jesus Christ was only 14. If God himself chose Mary at this age, who am I or who is our society too judge the decision of God

Certainly not! There are very many valid reasons why there are the classification differences between adults and children, and teenagers certainly fall into the category of 'children'. We can euphemistically refer to them as 'adolescents' or 'young adults', but even the 'older' teens (18 and 19) still generally lack the life skills necessary to make mature, rational, non-hormonal decisions.
I am assuming that 'serious relationships' refers to 'affairs of the heart' and the afore mentioned  'hormonal' stage of life is definitely not the time to make decisions on 'love'. Hence, we have the reference to love at that stage of life as 'puppy love', clearly implying its lack of maturity.
The teen years are meant to be carefree and un-encumbered, with the most serious concerns being high school graduation and college and/or career choices. Besides, it's highly likely that the one you love at 18 will not appeal to you at 25!

[Mikena]

Do you think teenagers should have the right to have serious relationships?

I am rather old school when it comes to this topic. I feel that teenagers should think about their futures and ready themselves for the work force. When they have figured out what they want out of life and have obtained an education then maybe they can get into a serious relationship. Society has brain-washed the younger generation into thinking that they are less than NOTHING unless they have a steady. I am SO SICK OF THIS! Whatever happened to realizing ones' self worth?

[lvstephanie]

I think it really depends on the maturity of the teen as well as what their plans are in life after high school... When I was going to HS, one of my best friends was in a serious relationship all throughout high school. They did date other people, but always seemed to get back with each other. And after HS, my friend went into the service where he said that they were paid more if they were married. So because of that, they decided to marry while they were both in their teens (and are still married after about 20 years).

I'd say in general that most teens (and even early 20s) lack the maturity to seriously think about marriage, etc. but everyone is different, so I also don't think that there should be a set age. Parents should know how their children act and whether they are mature enough to get into a serious relationship.

[6265AT99]

Teenagers are still growing both physically and mentally and therefore are not really capable of "serious relationships".  That's why it's usually called "puppy love"!!!!