custody ,my daughter went to jail maybe for ten years

[jorhea]

I wish you luck on this. Custody is always a nasty situation and usually the kids are the ones who end up hurt. Find a good lawyer who cares about kids to fight for you.

[maxinmotion]

What ever you do, don't give up. Put up a good fight for those kids they will appreciate you more than you know. I hope and pray all goes well for you and your family.

[dkanofsky]

That's a question you really need to ask an attorney.

[countrygirl12]

I wish you luck on this one.  My daughter sent her daughters to live with their father in Florida.  That was last year.  He called her and said he wanted to get to know his girls and he has them.  He called the Child Support office and told them that they can close the case because he has them.  The Child Support office told him that was not his decision to make and only my daughter could cancel the case; he would still owe arrears, which amount to $9,000.  That is not my daughter's fault; she sent him to Florida to get a job, and he married a Cuban and has two more kids by her.  They made a compromise on the issue, and he has them there with him and his wife until they get 14, and then my daughter will get them.  My oldest granddaughter will turn 14 in 2017 and my other granddaughter will turn 14 in 2019.  I am hoping that she can get my grandson, whom I have with me and have had since April 2012, when she moved to Marietta, GA.  The issue is that he don't want to pay child support.  I heard from my granddaughter that he and his wife will leave them in the house by themselves.   I worry because anything can go wrong.  But when they were here in Mississippi, they spent the majority of the time with his mother.  I saw them when I took my grandson to see his sisters and my oldest granddaughter's hair was all over her head.  I made her sit down and did her hair so she would, for the most part, look like somebody gave a darn about her.  I just don't get that grandparents don't have any rights unless the mother of their grandchildren is is in jail or dead.  His mother is sickly; she has seizures, and it made no sense that she could not comb my granddaughter's hair and fix her up.

Who is to say when the kid turns 14 they will want to be uprooted and move to another state and be with a totally different parent.  That doesn't make a lot of sense to me.

[countrygirl12]

her ex wants the kids two boys 10,8 they have been with me and my husband and my parents since they where born i mean there mother was around but she never took care of them,the dad paid 200 child support but never did anything else not even birhtday parties kids go visit regularly he want even take them to mcdonalds unless we send money,why should he be allowed to take them out of their home,they dont want to go

If he hasn't been around in 8 years I wouldn't think a judge would give him custody.  He probably can get visitation unless he has criminal background that would prevent it.  I am curious as to why he was never around?  Did he not want to be around or did his ex not want him there.  I know a woman who had a baby with a guy and he was never around but it was her fault not his.  He didn't know about the kid til several years later and then when he found out she told him I want nothing to do with you and this child will never know you are the father.  Not a lot he could do.  If he is a good guy (except for not being around all them years) and wants to know the kids - since they ARE his kids then he does have that right.  That is the problem with people today.  They have kids out of wedlock, get married have kids, get divorced, and every thing else and it just screws up the kids lives.  The kids are the real ones who suffer.  They are the ones who have to pay.

[Timberlan127]

I feel bad for the children. It sounds like they may loose the one place where they feel safe. I hope it works out for you and for them.

[kimber62372]

He won't get your grandchildren. He has to prove that he is a fit father. There is no way that the court will award custody to him knowing they are in a stable home for X amount of years and the kids don't even want to go. Every state is different with the laws of custody but where I come from maternal grandparents takes precedence especially when the father has not been in the kids life for quite awhile. Good luck to you and hope everything works out in your favor! I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

[aggie49]

sorry about your daughter but you do whats best for your grandkids i know you will ill keep you in my prayers

[leafsfan27]

oh my goodness, I hope this situation can be righted for you

[vickysue]

Go to Leagel aid or get a lawyer who specialises in custody of children. 

[hensleyll]

I`m trusting in the lord only thing keeping me sane,father says he will bring them home sunday,i pray this is true ,thanks for all the support and happy thanksgiving and God Bless to All

[bob1tina]

I would fight to keep the kids where they want to be.  If the father does show effort in taking care of his children why should he get them.  I would take him to court and let the judge know that he does nothing extra for them, that you provide the money for him to take them out, I am sure he doesn't buy them cloths and stuff like that right?  Maybe he wants them for the Earned income credit, or help from the state with food stamps and cash aide.  I would definitely ask the judge to speak at least to the oldest on where he wants to be and the other child will go where ever his brother goes.

[ladycasshmere]

The sad thing about situations like this is the children often times don't get a say so in what they want. In court people are always so quick to make statements about doing what's in the best interest of the child, but don't listen to what they children want or how they feel. If he does get custody I think it should be joint custody.

[moonangel]

that's is really a bunch of stress you have I wish you all the luck in my area the father would get them I will beep you in my thoughts

[kqa]

I'm sure you would have a good case in court. He would have a high order to prove that he could provide better care than you have given them. Best of luck and God bless.