why do men or women rape

[kewl4reals]

i was raped 4 times over a 5 year period and it was my step father that did it but back then when i was a child they didn't do any thing but give him 5 years of therapy and 5 years of probation i still have nightmares about it and the last time my dad saw me i asked him why he did this too me and all he said was he didn't know i went for many years hating him and still to this day there is some hate inside me but i was just wondering if anyone else has gone threw this and why do people raped when there are so many people out there that are willing to give it up or they can get a prositute and pay for it

I think its really about a need for extreme control over another human

[ghunter]

Men rape women because it gives them power, it is a power thing and it makes them feel powerful.  I hate men who rapes children, but God will handle them.  I pray everyday that you made a ful recovery.

[msmoneybags48]

My heart goes out to you for your problems.  I was molested at age 9 by the husband of my cousin, but it did not last that long.  He threatened to kill my cousin if I told her.  I blamed myself for it for a long time.  It turned out that my mother was raped at the age of 16 and conceived me.  I have an aunt who was raped while in college and conceived a boy, who is my cousin.  I have a nephew who was molested from the ages of 5 through 7 by a friend of my sister (he was killed in prison in 2008); my nephew struggled with his sexuality for a long time, got a girlfriend, bought her a necklace, and she chose to dump him.  He is now full-blown gay.  My niece struggles with her sexuality and wears men's clothes.  

You didn't deserve what happened to you, nor did I.  But I didn't allow my rape to control my life.  I look at it as one of the cruel things in my life that has happened, and I finally realized a long time ago that there are some truly sick men and women in this world who gets their jollies from taking the innocence of children.  I cannot believe that it is safer to rape a child than to rape a grown woman and vice versa.  But there are men who would prefer to rape and go to prison for raping children.  I hope you get over your situation, sad as it was.  I am stronger because I took control of my life, not because I allowed that rape to affect my life.  I know it is not easy to forget, but did you forgive him?  It is in control of you, and until you take control, it will fester and take control of you.

[mstevenson2]

low life stupid cowards

[lhz123]

I am sorry to hear that, I hope and pray that you will fully recovered from everything happened to you.

[jracki]

Not a great subject! But who knows, maybe they can't have a relationship.