Is it ok to lie?

[batmobile]

no...

[zreeds]

well you guys are going to think i'm crazy but I lie. like the person asking the question, I lie to avoid hurting someone's feelings, to avoid confrontations, or just to shut the other person up. when marketing call my home, I tell them it's not me or I don't live at that number. I know it's wrong and i'm working on it.

[queenofnines]

If your friend is happy with her counters that's all that matters; you were right to not be a jerk about them! You did exactly the right thing.

[angsilva2000]

Its ok to lie if yoy need to

[Dynamite2013]

I wouldn't tell that I liked or disliked it but I would tell her what I would have done if it were my kitchen. then I would tell her I liked it because I wouldn't want to hurt her feelings. there was a time I painted my kitchen orange and no one like it but it didn't bother me I loved it. so it really depends on the person. by the way my kitchen now has fruit wallpaper and everyone asks me why and I tell them that I am a fruitcake and I want my kitchen to match me. I also have fruit curtains and I bought fruit paper to cover my things in the kitchen not to mention a fruit tablecloth, tablemats, dishcloths, and dish towels to match.

[minervaspirit]

I think you did the exact right thing - given that it was too late for her to make changes.  Nothing to be gained except having your friend feel that she had made some costly bad choices.

However if she would have asked BEFORE the fact - I would have given her completely straightforward opinions -

[sak4kat]

If a friend of mine went through all that and asked me over to take a look I would have gone on and on how the new look completely fit's there personality.  If asked if I liked it I would say it's not for me but it totally suits you.  I'd probably hint about how I can't wait to come eat dinner sometime in the new kitchen.  There is no reason to be mean about it.  Just honest.

[linderlizzie]

I think possibly you could have avoided a direct answer. Lying doesn't ever solve things, but there are creative ways of sparing one's feelings.

Suggested replies to question posed: Do you like it? Great! Then I like it too because you do. Are you going to have a party to celebrate now?  Or: What interesting colors. What inspired them?

Granted, this was not a big lie when compared to the greater scheme of things. But honesty is the best policy. Small lies can lead to big lies so it's good not to start down that road.

[skinnygwenny]

I would never say it is OK to lie, but sometime depending on what situation you are in will dictate what you say.

[vp44]

First off if I had 10,000 dollars I do not think I would allow someone to spend my money. Second if you have that kind of money to WASTE wth are you complaining about if she is allowed to have access to that money.

[shunntwo]

YES.  Lying is a personal choice.

[bhare1]

I feel no it's not okay to lie, but everyone does it at one time or another. I guess it depends on the reason behind the lie. Was it to spare someones feelings or was it just to tell a lie for no reason. That is dumb. It's all a matter of what you can live with everyday when you look at yourself in the mirror

[moon29]

i personally think that she should stand up for what she wanted it is after all her house and her money that she spent if she wanted one with a slight pink cast then yeah for her.  your other friend shouldn't have been such a meany about it but i don't see any issue other then there tact.  not everyone is going to like everything that someone else does.  i wouldn't care if my friends didnt like it and so should your friend be she shouldn't feel crushed she should be happy that she has something that she likes.

[jmc1070]

In this case you did the right thing. It is not good to lie, but each situation has to evaluated individually. If the truth serves no purpose but to cause hurt or bad feelings, then leaving it unsaid is probably the better choice.

[stretch1967]

There is no excuse for lying