Is It Possible to be married and have 2 women that you love equally?

[clydebirman]

I have a friend who is married, but also is in love with her best friend as an equal as loving his wife too, is this even possible for this kind of thing to happened? He came to me for some advise but honestly I don't have any advise to give him on his dilemma. I am so sorry to hear that or to say this but I just don't have any advise to give him but it has made me think about his dilemma a bit, What would a person do if they found themselves loving 2 people and one being their spouse equally as if they were married to both of them equally? How would you sit your spouse down to even bring it up to tell them that? 

[annettefayeroach]

No, it can't be done.

[kingozzy]

sounds like a problem in the making

[crazyzoo]

I don't think its possible I'd want to stay as far away from that situation as possible as its going to be explosive

[LenoraMinogue]

I think it's possible to love more than one person, yes, but "equally" no...that's going to be a problem.

[clydebirman]

I personally think and agree with most all of you so far today, It is a disaster waiting and in the making of, yes you can love more than one but not equally though, sounds like to me my friend wants his cake and eat it too by whatever it is he is trying to say and do. His spouse will eventually will catch on and than it is going to blow up at his face. it also sounds like to me that he wants to be with his wife and also give shared wife benefits with her best friend as well. I just don't know what he is thinking but I hope he gets his head back on straight and figure his dilemma out and just how he is going to handle it. But whatever happens everybody that is involved or tangled in it is going to get hurt very badly in the end. It is what it is, and that is all to it.

[nmsmith]

i dont see how he could genuinely love either of them. And as far as the best friend goes...

[msmoneybags48]

Here's my take on it; he is lying to both women.  The woman he is truly in love with he should have made his feelings clear to her and married her instead.  He can't be that in love with both women, because he married one and is in love with the other.  Maybe he hopes, over time, he will love his wife as well.  What he is doing, he is not being honest with the woman he married.  I had heard, at one time, that you can be torn between loving a woman or man and being in love with a woman or man, which is quite different.  Here is what I will tell you; he will never be happy within himself until he decides which one of these women he plans to spend the rest of his life.  His wife is going to be hurt in the end; that is not good for either of them.  I wish him luck in this endeavor, but I still say he should have married the woman he is in love with, because he is stringing his wife along.

[jennalyn_ruth]

If he loves her wife and he fell inlove with his wife's bestfriend then that means he does'nt love his wife a 100%.. There's something with  his wife's bestfriend that he likes that his wife doesn't have.....

[diala84]

I really don't think his love is equal for both choices, it is just that he wants to stay safe by not making an ultimate choice and leaving his options open. It can be devastating to break up his marriage for the possibility of another option. My guess is he is leaning towards the friend because otherwise he would not want to jeopardize his marriage for the possibility to date his friend. He might want to think about why he is "just friends" with his friend because perhaps it is that way for a reason meaning that the other person doesn't want to get intimate with him that way. He may end up jeopardizing both relationships if he pursues the friend. He needs to think long and hard and stick to his choice while remembering if he dumps his marriage for the friend he may end up messing up both relationships and is never able to take back that choice to have things the way they used to be. There will be a lot of drama and hurt feelings if he picks that route or he could pick his marriage and work hard to make it a good one.    

[sherryinutah]

It is possible to love 2 people at the same time; however, you can only be "in love" with one of them where you might love and care about both of them.  If that person had to choose between one OR the other they would find that the love isn't necessarily equal.   

[articx]

If some men have multiple wives, maybe it is possible to love multiple women equally.

[Cuppycake]

I have a friend who is married, but also is in love with her best friend as an equal as loving his wife too, is this even possible for this kind of thing to happened? He came to me for some advise but honestly I don't have any advise to give him on his dilemma. I am so sorry to hear that or to say this but I just don't have any advise to give him but it has made me think about his dilemma a bit, What would a person do if they found themselves loving 2 people and one being their spouse equally as if they were married to both of them equally? How would you sit your spouse down to even bring it up to tell them that? 

The only answer for that is for him to be freaking man about it and honor the commitment he made to his wife and tell the other woman to hit the bricks.

[Lindaroof]

Nope, I don't think this guys LOVES these 2 women, I think he may be LUSTING after the friend. TROUBLE is a brewing for sure, it is just sad that someone will most likely be very hurt in the situation.

[briannajeanxo]

i dont see it being real love at that point.