why are children so angry these days

[bamagirl97]

I am a single mom of two my two year shows sighs of having anger issue and so is my 10 year old.do anyone know any suggestion i have tried it all

[z1975z]

Today's school system. Kids learning off of other kids and watching what they do. Then there is what is being shown on tv now days. Shows nothing but violence.

Also, Half of it can be genetics (where you are prone to be that way) and the other half can be influence. Could mean many things.

[Glenda782]

Our kids today our being influenced by drugs alcohol and peer pressure and when they to God out of the schools that is where they went wrong. They do not want us to discipline our children that is why they do the thing they do. most of them don't have any one that cares about them

[mlainez]

I am a single mom of two my two year shows sighs of having anger issue and so is my 10 year old.do anyone know any suggestion i have tried it all

Single parenting is tough, I have been there myself. No matter what happens, stay calm and control your emotions before dealing with your kids. We are a mirror to them and if they see that we can't deal with ourselves they will push our limits and could escalate things for the worse. You are the mom&dad in your house so if you can keep try and keep things together in your personal life, you will make it. Hey, I have a really good book for single parents(SINGLE PARENTING THAT WORKS). It helped me a lot! I know raising 2 kids alone is tough and who has the time to read WHEN YOU YOU RARELY HAVE TIME FOR YOURSELF. Hopefully thigns will get better for you.

[FateoftheGodz]

It is probably because you're a single parent. Even if you're super-mom I think children still need a mom and a dad figure. It gets really tough, and frustrating. They don't know how they are supposed to feel, or why this is happening to them. Why do all my friends have a mom and dad that are together? Who can I talk to about this? It's really sensitive. I'd suggest maybe a pediatric mental health specialist of some sort if your insurance covers it. Maybe they just need to talk....

[gayecat]

I raised 2 kids alone and am now raising a grandchild alone.  It is tough.  You'r always busy and tired.( I had to work 3 jobs for years ).  With my granddaughter the school system has excellent social workers, 2 actually in her school.  They have divorce groups and peer groups.  She had a problem with depression because of her parents drug problems and is now doing much better.  Best of all, it's free.

[gayecat]

For the poster who suggested that the anger was because she is a single mom - shame on you.  The kids that I know with the worst anger problems come from 2 parent homes with a lot of friction and family violence. This poo woman already has enough on her without you putting unfounded blame.

[lightstar240]

Whatever affects you will usually affect your kids if you show it enough. Losing your job, getting sick, whatever. The stress will go to them, too.

[Rastov]

Why is this in Offers?
It belongs in Off-Topic.

[mc1962]

For the poster who suggested that the anger was because she is a single mom - shame on you.  The kids that I know with the worst anger problems come from 2 parent homes with a lot of friction and family violence. This poo woman already has enough on her without you putting unfounded blame.

.  You are so right, My mother raised THREE kids alone with no help or support from the father, she worked and provided and when we got into trouble she had no problems with tanning our *bleep*.  There are several instances that I can think of to prove my point......Does anyone remember Lyle and Eric Menendez in the 1980's? They were two very rich kids in California that were given everything they ever wanted, cars, money, the best schools, nice home with LOVING parents.........what did the parents get for their efforts? Murdered by their own kids.  It is not that the child has one parent or two parents, it is the VALUES THAT SOCIETY TEACHES our children and there is really nothing that we can do to shield them from the garbage thats out there.

I think that if we as parents, just try to set a good example and provide them with love, then, we have done all we can do.  If you are a single parent and you are being told that you are not providing for you childs well being because of not being married, DO NOT BELIEVE IT.

[rcbrad]

Most of where the behavior or mood issues come from is what children learn from adults and it is passed from what other children learn from adults.  I remember when I was a kid, (decades ago) I remember asking my Mom why do kids seem so angry and full of hateful comments and say many negative things about people and things?   She said kids learn from adults, it is that simple.   There are ways to help kids toward a more positive and healthy outlook.

[jackaline346]

For the poster who suggested that the anger was because she is a single mom - shame on you.  The kids that I know with the worst anger problems come from 2 parent homes with a lot of friction and family violence. This poo woman already has enough on her without you putting unfounded blame.

it is different for everyone. there's the prove.

[janey851]

 :BangHead:We adopted my son when he was four years old.  He knows and remembers things that happened when he lived with his parents.  He knows that his father threw him across the room when he was a baby.  He was a very angry young man until he realized he needs to forgive his biological parents.  He Has.  He is now 24 years old.

[ccrraaz]

I don't know why kids are so angry. When I was a teenager, not that long ago, sometimes I was angry b/c I just wanted some things I couldn't have. Other times, they were "real" teen issues, such as, too much stress/work, girl issues, ect. Looking back at it, it doesn't seem like much of it mattered. I'm sure as your kids age and mature, they will realize the same and not be so angry.

[dream420believer]

I think everyone might have a shorter fuse with their family. I know i do and did when i was a kid. Hopefully in time kids will learn how to control their anger. I know i have had to with my family. So much can happen to a person and the natural thing to do is be angry. When i have kids im just going to try and keep them busy with going down to the beach and having fun maybe that will help to keep the anger out of the air.