should a man take back an ex-wife?

[dmahoney]

I re-married my ex husband because he said he had learned from me leaving him, he had changed, blah, blah.....All lies. Dont Do It!

[momoney555]

It depends on the reason for the divorce and if it was amicable or not.  If two people divorce simply because they were too young and inexperienced to handle marriage, then they could remarry after doing some maturibng and be just fine.

[queenofnines]

How have you been cheated on 10 times?! I think you need to reevaluate how you select mates, and you definitely shouldn't be listening to the Bible for advice.

[moonangel]

years ago the kids were little and we were both working and making house payments barly making ends meet we were not getting along and we couldnt ever afford a separation  let alone a divorce we didnt like each other at all this went on for almost a year us bickering back and forth the odd thing is that we ended up working every thing out and since then we have had a really good strong marriage the kids are grown they have their own families and we could afford to get divorced i guess what im saying is that if people dont just walk away just because their mad at each other and given time it can sometimes work out i am so glad i didnt walk away  so you never know maybe you and your ex can change enough to make it work

[davidf938]

Take her back? Wasn't it hard enough to get rid of her the first time?

[mrisha]

My question is should a woman take back an ex-husband?  The answer for me is no.  You already know his personality, his many faults.  So why remarry to put up with someone you divorced in the first place because of those faults.

[AmberCampbell1987]

I don't chew gum twice! I spit it out and walk away for a reason!!

[swkstudent]

It depends on why they filed for divorced and if those problems were resolved. Personally I wouldn't go back to an ex. but some people do and it works out for them.

[Tresbn00]

There was a reason that you broke up with them to begin with...what do you think has changed?  They certainly haven't...have you become more tolerant or desparate?  Replace all of the good memories with the memories that caused you to break up in the first place.  I have frequent dreams about ex-girl friends because they represented a period in my life when I didn't have as much stress. I start remembering all of the good times.  That was then and this is now.  I only have one relationship regret in my life...I was too immature and young to appreciate the relationship we had and my outward manifestations of immaturity drove this girl away (and to a christian lifestyle that was too much for me).  My heart is still there and I always wonder how she is doing but I have moved away, that was thirty one years ago in Wisconsin, and I have moved on to nineteen years of marriage, two beautiful kids and two wonderful dogs!

[mehavenomemory]

I think it depends on the situation why you spit, I have friends who were remarried 3 times, and all three times they separated, they have been together now for 15 years.. but did not marry each other the 4th time.. They just live together, and there is NO ownership as they felt each other had when they were married... It all comes down to LOVE and TRUST..

[momoney555]

I have a brother and sister-in-law who remarried 3 times but eventually they both ended up with other spouses, at least my brother-in-law did. 

[melissakat01]

I would never take my ex back no matter how he changes.  He is just so demanding, controlling, and acts like a little kid.  I can not stand him, but he does not understand it is over. It has been three years since I broke it off. I hope one day he will get the message.

[hawkeye3210]

Depends on the reasons she was an ex.

[pattersondebra]

My question is why they divorced in the first place. Apparently there was a serious problem that love couldn't overcome which means they weren't meant to be together in the first place.

[katie322]

It depends. Just follow your heart. If you still have feelings for your ex than maybe y'all can make things work out the 2nd time around. Everyone deserves a second chance in my opinion!   

Don't rush into it though. WHatever happens will happen, ya know? Just have fun and mingle!