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dansazz

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living with parents
« on: February 09, 2013, 08:48:36 pm »
How many of u have had to live with your parents when you hit hard times

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Re: living with parents
« Reply #1 on: February 10, 2013, 10:36:00 am »
luckily, i haven't gotten to that point in my post-college adult life.
and i do everything possible for that not to happen...

but i know of many people who moved back home, or who
never left. leaving the nest is hard, especially if you're really
close to your parents. it's a safety-net that can't be replaced!
so i understand situations like that.

independence has to start early, i think.
[ we all have a place in history. mine is in the clouds. ]


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« Reply #2 on: February 10, 2013, 10:41:11 am »
I stay with my parents so I can take care of them there health is not very good and need someone with them at all times.

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Re: living with parents
« Reply #3 on: February 10, 2013, 12:19:06 pm »
i still live with my mom i just graduated though im going to college in the summer

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« Reply #4 on: February 10, 2013, 12:40:19 pm »
Not me. When my job laid me off, I found a job at a restaurant and another part time job..just so i didn't have to go home and live by their rules.

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« Reply #5 on: February 10, 2013, 01:08:02 pm »
I was given the choice when I was young to live with my grandmother.  I moved to Chicago when I was 19.  The fact is, after I moved, I received a phone call from my mother to come home because I went to school with a young girl that I didn't particularly like and she was murdered in Chicago.  I asked her, "For what?"  It was either the choice to live by my grandmother's rules or taking the chance to live my own life.  I chose the latter.  I learned a lesson a long time ago, and nobody told me this.  I am passing it on in the hopes that it will help someone else.  In order to become the adult you want to be, you have to make mistakes and learn from them.  As long as Mother, Daddy, and your grandparents are holding your hands, you will never learn how to stand on your own two feet.  Stand up for yourself, make the mistakes in life you are allowed to make, and become a better person. :star: :heart: :peace:

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« Reply #6 on: February 10, 2013, 01:17:41 pm »
I was given the choice when I was young to live with my grandmother.  I moved to Chicago when I was 19.  The fact is, after I moved, I received a phone call from my mother to come home because I went to school with a young girl that I didn't particularly like and she was murdered in Chicago.  I asked her, "For what?"  It was either the choice to live by my grandmother's rules or taking the chance to live my own life.  I chose the latter.  I learned a lesson a long time ago, and nobody told me this.  I am passing it on in the hopes that it will help someone else.  In order to become the adult you want to be, you have to make mistakes and learn from them.  As long as Mother, Daddy, and your grandparents are holding your hands, you will never learn how to stand on your own two feet.  Stand up for yourself, make the mistakes in life you are allowed to make, and become a better person. :star: :heart: :peace:
Good advise! I guess I have been too easy on my Kids, My son is 32 and has only lived away from us about 2 years. He seems to come back after failing or being layed off. I guess I made the mistake years ago letting him come back and he has not been able to stand on his own feet since.

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Re: living with parents
« Reply #7 on: February 10, 2013, 01:30:19 pm »
im still not old enough to leave my parents house but my mom came back with my grandma so im living with my grandparents and aunts

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« Reply #8 on: February 10, 2013, 01:35:46 pm »
Never, although i am now just 10 miles from my dad. I choose to come back hom after 32 years beacuse he is getting up in years and needs us to do more for him, he is not thrilled with having to ask for help. He was so independent for so long. i use to live 400 miles away and came home at least 4-5 times a year, it just got so costly with gas and was starting to have t come more offten it was cheaper to move back. My brother has always been here on his farm but it is not up to him to have too do it all. My sister and kids live in alaska. She use to take him back home with her for a couple of months, but he doesn't want to go back anymore. So it is going to fall more on me. As i am retired to help him more.

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« Reply #9 on: February 10, 2013, 01:54:50 pm »
I had to move back, for two months, when I sustained an injury that kept me from working. I was ripped up in an automobile accident and was pretty much unconcious for the first five weeks of that two month stint.  I spent three weeks in rehabilitation and managed to get out before any ill feelings developed.  I moved in with my sister for about a year because she was having a hard time making rent.  I then bought a house and she moved in with me.  I have not had to depend on anyone since I graduated from college.  Getting married really straightened me out. Stage two, children, made me realize that I would work myself to death, if need be, rather than let them down.  Every cent, except my PTC?Blog earnings, goes towards making sure that the children are as independant as I was.

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Re: living with parents
« Reply #10 on: February 11, 2013, 05:14:23 pm »
I had to live with my grandmother after my divorce. Luckily I had a good relationship with her beforehand.
It worked out fine because she treated me as an adult. I think if I had lived with my parents I would not have that type of relationship.

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« Reply #11 on: February 11, 2013, 09:24:47 pm »
I moved out at high school graduation and a year later I was back because I was pregnant and the father walked out.  I lived there 5 years until I moved out got married.  But the first 2 years I took care of my son, worked parttime and went to school parttime.  My mom  says it was the best time in her life to be able to see her grandson every day and his milestones right along with me.  Then 8 years into my marrage I had my mom and grandmother move in with me because of something my father did.  There are times moving home helps everyone out one way or another.

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« Reply #12 on: February 11, 2013, 09:45:25 pm »
I just graduated from college last year and I'm struggling to find a steady job. I am not able to live independently so I still live with my parents who are able to support me financially.  :crybaby2:

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Re: living with parents
« Reply #13 on: February 12, 2013, 06:07:19 am »
I have been on my own since the age of 18.  I've always worked, up until September of 2011, when I had to quit because of a couple of physical conditions and now at the age of 55, I'm trying to make money online.  It's been an uphill battle, but I'm confident that something will turn around for me.   :thumbsup:

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« Reply #14 on: February 12, 2013, 06:29:08 am »
Good parents would never turn their child(ren) away if there were difficult times.
There are ways to work things out to maintain privacy on both sides.
When parents get up in years, there is a real need for them to have extra help.
"They raised you + you needed them; you can care for them when they need you."
Sometimes, there is difficulty in some aspect of caring for parents. All anyone can do is their best. "filial piety"
I am impressed with the new options developing -- "Green House" Project", for example, allows elderly to stay in a home [environment] completely staffed.

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