Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?

[michellelt2004]

No I do not think it is wrong to want better for your children than you had. Every parent wants that for their child/ren. I thought I had it good as a child, I never knew we struggled. I try to make it the same for my son. I tell him, don't listen to other people, form your own opinins of things. Do what you want to do in life. Persue what you want to.

[tashamjoy]

Its not wrong wanting them to have the opportunities you never got like higher education for example. Giving them resources and support is great but when you are forcing them into a career or path they do not like then I do not think its good because then they dont feel like you are doing whats best for them you are pressuring them to whats best for you in their eyes at least. Its a tough battle kids are young they may not know what they want to do with their lives at such a young age they need assistance and guidence but also time and understanding

[phamnguyen1525]

I have not have any child yet, so I dont know what option is best for me.
When I was a child, My mom said that if she had a chance like us, she should have been better. She wanted us to be better than her by studying and studying. I am really thank to her for encouraging us maintain a good education.

[sherryinutah]

I think it's a problem to control your kids and push them to meet your expectations.  I believe part of being a good parent is loving and accepting them as they do their best to meet their OWN expectations.

You give your children an incredible gift when you allow them the freedom to be who they are instead of "molding" them.

And yes, I am the parent of 2 amazing guys.

 

[Ittai]

it alls depends..? I want my kids to be smart and know what they should/ need to know..!! i dont want them to be taken advantage of

[cathy37]

I love the fact that my daughter has done better than me.  She graduated from a 4 year college and then went back and completed the class work for her master's degree.  I want her to always strive to do her best in everything that she does.

[gwendolynconrad]

This is not wrong for your kids to do better in life.

[jenniferhoder]

I don't think it's wrong at all!!! I think it's great and we should want our kids to have it better!!!

[RobertMendez]

no not at all, thats the way parents should think actually

[vickysue]

I believe you should encourage your child to be the best they can be, but don't rant at them,, they do have a mind of their own, Love and encougement the best you can give, along with some support.

[ShadeTree]

I don't think there is anything wrong at all with wanting your kids to do better than you did. I do think it's wrong the way some parents go about it though. As long as you aren't a crazed parent going to an extreme then it's okay. Encouragement and support are very important, but don't force them to do things they aren't interested in. For example, if you kid doesn't want to play sports then don't force them to. I do think it's important to help your kids do well in school though. If they need tutoring make sure they get the help they need. Just don't be some psycho, overbearing, extremist parent who uses threats and/or violence or any other insane methods to get your kid to study and get good marks.

[davidf938]

Not as long as you are not simply pushing them to become what you wish you had become.

[stretch1967]

No not all. I keep trying to instill that in my 2 kids. Now I have 5 grandkids and one on the way.

[martinezlisa]

I think it is not wrong to push my kids to do better than me.  I am talking about education and social setting.   I want my kids to know that they can be anything they want to be with hard work.

i don't think that its wrong to push your kids to do better i think that its good that you are doing that i also want the same for my boys if it was not for my son i probably would have not graduated school i have not continued my education i really don't know why but i do want my kids to go to collage and do much more than me.. 

[mrisha]

It's nothing wrong with it , but remember to talk to your child to see what is on their minds and what they want to do.  Educating your child is a good thing, but pushing them to something they don't want is a setup for failure.