Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?

[vp44]

No I do not think it is wrong to want your kids to be better than the parent. Direction and helping would help. The child is always going to have their own path. It is their choice but at same time parent can help in the direction of the child providing that direction is based upon the ideas and thoughts of the child. Meaning do not force child in to being a lawyer if they have shown great passion for building or creativity in medicine etc. Keep up with your child's ambitions and follow through with what drives them

[bigfoot951]

I guess I just don't understand the question.  I think it would be wrong if you didn't want your kids to do better than you.

[mary33716]

 I don't think it wrong at all i always want the best for my children they are grown into young adults
and i want them to live there dream. There was alot i could not do at there age so i want them to do and have
fun and be best that they want to be. They work so hard and so far to have what they have and im
happy to know they did it them self.

[rpse1927]

yes i want my kids to do better than me as long as they do the best they can and work hardat it

[lguzman1]

I don't think so, everybody wants their child to do better than they did or have done. It's a good thing to push your kids to better themself as long as you don't push them to hard. Let them choice, but give them some automatisms. I tell my daughter she hates school with all of her might. I tell her thats ok I understand that you hate school, but your are going to finish High school, you don't have to go to collage, but you are either going to work or to college. I will let you choose which one you want. Now she is stating to say that she can't decide what she wants to be, but that one thing she doen't want is to work for a food place like Burger King she want something better like a profection. She is stating to say that she is going to college. Sounds good to me. There is no dought about it you have to push your kids a little because if we just let them they could turn the wrong way. We have to guide them to the right way or they will do the darnest things. Good luck. 

[lbeery]

I think we all want our kids to do better than we did...or at least that success would find them more easily and that they suffer a minimum of pain...emotional, financial and mentally.  But, then some of that is necessary if you want them to grow up to be compassionate adults.  I think sometimes people think better means financially better but that is not always the most important thing.  I wish the children I know to grow up succesfully happy with themselves. Then, I think the rest of life is a whole lot easire.

[melissaotto1982]

I think its good to want the best for your kid but you need to also make sure that you allow your kid to be themselves and not try to re live your younger years through your kid either.

[ssliva67]

All parents should work to get their kids to want to have a better life than the parents had. If this happens then maybe more people will value hard work and society as a whole will improve.

[Beckys0528]

Definitely no, You should want your kids to do the better than you in my case I have two daughter' 10 yrs apart they both knew they had too graduate no. 1 rule my oldest no problem she went to summer school a couple of yrs at first and it sunk in she graduated and even went to college now she has a fantastic job gets paid hourly plus commission checks in with a company that sells computers, she's in sales. Now my youngest didn't graduate but she got her GED and is attending college now, she wanted to pursue her career in daycare she took child development classes and has worked at a couple of daycare's but it just doesn't seem like that is where she is happy at she has a daughter that is 3 yrs old but she has found a good paying job now with a company that sells door's she is the only one it the office at times and she enjoys her work thank goodness she is 20 yrs. old. Their father was a painter and myself just a data entry clk. So you know I want them to do better 

[stretch1967]

Every parent wants that for their kids. My kids didnt do better but i hope my 6 grandkids do.

[kevint5]

Absolutely not!  Every parent should strive and encourage their children to want to have and do better than they even done and not have this country redneck attitude about their kids going above their raising.

[dodgers16]

   no it's not wrong!!! really how can it be a bad thing??? of course i want them to have everything that I didn't and be able to suceed more than I did 

[mill8277]

I give my children a you can do anything you want to, skies the limit, every once in a while...I never compare my life to the life of my children...I want punish them for what I didn't or couldn't do, or what I did....I try not to put
unnecessary pressure on my children....I want them to be happy and live life the way that's pleasing to them.....my mother was over bearing and made my life hard as heck I was very unhappy and hated it at home....I could not wait to leave the nest....

[dwggs]

It is not wrong to want your kids to do well as adults ... but keep in mind how you were at their age.

A gentle nudging in the right direction may be your best option.

[djohnson43]

I don't think it is wrong for parents to want their kids to do better. Both of my girls are learning things I never did and certainly things my husband never did who is ten years older then me. I grew up in the 70's and graduated in 85 and my husband ten years earlier. It is very hard to try and help do homework because we never did it. I wouldn't exactly say we push them though, prod maybe. But in todays world they need to have the good education if they don't want to be living paycheck to paycheck.