how to pick up a woman at a bar?

[dansazz]

I know most of them either have boyfriends or are very stuck up, but what are some good techneques

[tjung10]

If you have to use a forum to find out how to pick girls, I think you are going to lose the battle!

[KSimonetti92]

A good technique is to... not pick up women at a bar! Many women go to bars expecting to be hit on, so they're on guard and less apt to cooperate. Try the library, or a coffee house!

[kingozzy]

Even though its tough to pick up a girl at a bar, it doesnt hurt to try. never know what can happen

[lvstephanie]

The best way is not to go to the bar expressing that your intention is to pick up a girl... Rather, you should go to a bar for some other reason (play pool, darts, karaoke, etc.) and during the course of the night talk to women around you. As KSimonetti92 said, women are on guard for getting hit upon, so if it appears that is what you are doing, they are more tempted to not listen. But if you are singing karaoke, for example, and happen to complement a girl for her song, she won't take it as a pick-up line. You already will know something about her (that she likes to sing, play pool, etc.) so topics centered around that will be considered safe. Then you could go into different subjects, strike up a conversation, and eventually (esp. if she sends you signals that she is enjoying your company) you can get her phone number, and move on from there.

[mc1962]

I do not think theres a course or book on "how to pick up women"............because if there was i would have it,. lololol   

[EDW39A]

I know you may not have read Helen Gurley Brown or Rebecca Greer, on the subject of bars. And lots of other writers as well but to quote someone who has "...the pickup atmosphere acts as a psychological depressant and almost no meetings take place..." There are a lot better places and ways. But I am impressed you made your comment in this forum. Ever journey begins with the first step. I am sure you can come up with some better ways! 

[lackeyk]

The first thing about picking up girls in bars is knowing which bar to go to. Not all bars are created equal, and it’s going to depend somewhat on the type of girl you’re looking for. Are you looking for college girls? Do you want fun and sporty girls? Are you looking for more professional and educated girls? Keep this in mind before you just start blindly walking into places. Play to your strengths.

Once you’ve scouted out a bar, it’s time to start approaching women. Women are usually pretty approachable in bars. Typically, they’re going to be there with friends, so it’s important to introduce yourself and make nice with each of the friends pretty quickly.

[EDW39A]

I do not think theres a course or book on "how to pick up women"............because if there was i would have it,. lololol   

Would you now?, lol, the book is: "How to Pick Up Girls" and it was written in 1980!!! 

[loriecampbell]

Pick up women at a bar? Are you crazy or just looking to get an STD? 

[PGS28]

Let go of the prenotion that most beautiful women are stuck up until they give you reason to believe so. 

There's nothing wrong with picking up a woman at a bar- after all, you're there too aren't you?  But observe before you approach (type of clothing, how much she drinks/smokes, interaction with friends, reactions to other males, that sort of thing) and if you decide to still go for it introduce yourself and speak to her like you would want a man to speak to your daughter- no hey lil mama, what's up, what it do sexy, dang you sexy type of stuff.  Be genuine.

If she is uninterested/taken respect her wishes and don't disrespect her; sometimes no just means no at this moment and you may have a chance for later if you leave a good impression.  Hope this helps, good luck!

[vp44]

I think the best bars to go to are sports bars. Then you know you have one thing in common which is sports. Also be yourself and do not say any of those crappy lines most men say, like hey baby what brings a pretty lil thing like you here. Appeal to her personality and act like she is more than just a one night lay. Treat her with respect. Offer to buy her drink without wanting more than just that. 

[sdecaro558]

I personally stay away from bars - for one thing I don't generally drink (only around the holidays) and two I feel like I wouldn't have much in common with a woman at a bar.

[dansazz]

If you have to use a forum to find out how to pick girls, I think you are going to lose the battle!

don't have to, just trying to improve my knowledge base, based on real experience.

[EDW39A]

I know most of them either have boyfriends or are very stuck up, but what are some good techneques

I know you may not have read Helen Gurley Brown or Rebecca Greer, on the subject of bars. And lots of other writers as well but to quote someone who has "...the pickup atmosphere acts as a psychological depressant and almost no meetings take place..." There are a lot better places and ways. But I am impressed you made your comment in this forum. Ever journey begins with the first step. I am sure you can come up with some better ways! 

You don't know either of those. You just know it does not work well. As the expert said, "..the pickup atmosphere acts as a psychological depressant and almost no meetings take place..." I know of "A Dating System" that does produce results. But it takes hard work and it is was created for finding someone to date and marry. But since you set your standards so high, lol! I don't think sharing it would be a good idea.