Marriage

[angelheartee]

What would you do if your boyfriend don't want to get marry?

[clickers]

If he doesn't want to marry and you do, then you need to find someone that wants to get married...

[vmcutshall]

If you feel you are ready and he is not then back off of the relationship and see what happens. Maybe when you are not around for a little while he will come around or find someone else.

[articx]

Talk to him and find out why he doesn't want to get married.

[dmahoney]

I think it would depend on how long you had been together. If it has been less than a year, then give him a little more time because he may change his mind, it might just be too soon. If it has been much longer then you may need to cut your losses and move on if marriage is something that is important to you. Wishing you the best of luck. 

[reiddb]

Time to find a new boyfriend...

[diala84]

Not wanting to get married isn't in itself a reason to break up.

However the reason why he doesn't want to get married will help you decide if it is worth keeping the relationship. I was with my boyfriend for 6 years and just got married last year. November is our anniversary. Most of the reasons why we didn't get married sooner were related to money or ideas about what a wedding is supposed to be like (pleasing the family not the bride and groom). Also kids weren't important to us so it didn't seem like we needed to rush into anything. It can be very costly to divorce and you really want to know you made the right choice. These kinds of fears are pretty normal. If your guy is having these kinds of fears about marriage you may just need to give him some time.

However if he is against marriage for reasons like he wants more experiences with different women, he has fears of settling down, he is living a different lifestyle than the one you want (partying every night vs. reading the morning paper together while eating breakfast), he doesn't want the same goals you want (house, kids, pet, career, number of kids, location, etc...).

Also think about why marriage is important to you. If you want to be starting a family soon and he doesn't this could become a big issue. It is better to bring it up now so you don't wait for something that may never happen with this guy and it becomes to late for you to be able to have kids. If you just think it is a natural progression of a relationship there is no real reason to get married right away.     

[heypeg]

I guess it depends how you feel about him and how you feel about marriage and/or children. If you want to have children and you feel you need to be married first this could be a problem.

[vp44]

I think it would depend on how long you had been together. If it has been less than a year, then give him a little more time because he may change his mind, it might just be too soon. If it has been much longer then you may need to cut your losses and move on if marriage is something that is important to you. Wishing you the best of luck. 

This would have been my answer also. I have never been married but asked and did not go thru because you find things out about the person that just does not sit well with you. Things that did not show up before proposal.

[workmama]

What would you do if your boyfriend don't want to get marry?

Hmm....that would depend upon how much I loved him. This never has happened to me. I had 3 boyfriends (one at a time...lol, before I was married throughout the years) that proposed to me and only one that I said yes too....lol

Anyways, I would take it if he didn't want to talk about it and it is something really important to you, I would probably be hurt. I would take it that maybe he wasn't looking into a long term relationship with me. I agree that if both individuals want to get married and their feelings are mutual, then they are meant to be.
Wish I could help more, I just have never been in your shoes!! Haha!! 

[queenofnines]

Excellent response, diala84.

Remember that marriage won't necessarily improve/help/fix a relationship. Could be the opposite, in fact.

[osage]

   I've been married 50 years now and I have 8 sisters. My momma told them " Don't let a man use you like an old dish rag!" Torn, greasy and smelly! They sooner or later end up and in the trash!  All my sisters had respected husbands. Momma was the only one that was used like an old dish rag! Larned it the hard way!, she did!

[carty1]

Wow that's true don't let anyone use you. If a man doesn't want to marry you i would ask why to improve my self for the right man to marry me. 

[kcoleman2]

If your boyfriend doesn't want to marry you, you should first talk to him and see why. Have a conversation so that you can get an understanding of his reasons. It may be that only at that time he doesn't want to get married. After you talk with him and if it still seems that his reasons are not valid and he just has no intentions of every getting married, then you should reevaluate yourself. Are you willing to always be someones girlfriend or do you want more out of life. Make sure you put your happiness first.

[ceevstee]

What would you do if your boyfriend don't want to get marry?

As everyone has already said I would sit and have a decent and deep conversation as to why he would not want to get married. You can find out alot that way: It might be that he is not ready financially, physically or mentally, it might not be that he doesn't want to get married me but something else that he experienced or the way he sees other marriages are, anyways after finding out his reasons for not wanting to get married then we will take it from there, if its something that can be worked out then great and we'll work on it no matter how long because as long as we are both in love and are there for each other 100% then nothing can beat those odds...lol...I believe in whenever I get married I do not want to get divorce so this would be a very important conversation determining my future/our future. Also as the saying goes well I don't know it word for word but here goes: if you love someone then let that person go and if it was meant to be then that someone will come back(thats if you are still interested, and if that person was the right one) to you!!!