Kids

[dreamyxo]

I really hate that the solution to every problem is medication.  Have you looked into changing his diet?  If everything else fails what harm could it do?  Try to cut out processed foods, excess, sugar, salt, preservatives.  Try to limit toxins in the home like cleaning products, bug sprays etc.  Maybe there is something he is allergic to that is causing his behavior.  Look into this it can't hurt. 

[tuscarorarain]

I am sorry, but do not medicate your child. That is rediculious. I try hard not to offend people, but children have to be diciplined. You said your child is 10. Sounds like he needs to be taken to the tool shed as we say. Spanking is not abuse as long as it is done in the right way. You have to tell the child what they did wrong, spank them, and give them time to absorb their actions. You then talk to the child in a positive manner and let the matter go. Do not yell at the child because it leads to a feeling iof abandonment. Spanking say, "this is wrong and ;life has punishments." Simply grounding a child doesn't really hold them back if they choose not to listenm to what you are sayting. Spanking gives them reinforcement to behave. Don't be one of those parents who lets their child bully others and parents around. This is your job. Sounds like tough love, but in the end it brings you closer and makes the relationship better. Let us know what you decide. Thanks a lot for sharing this.

[mperez7372]

I have a Master's degree in Family Counseling and there is very little that can't be managed with structure, patience, attention to the situation, understanding and consistency.  It is important to listen to why children are doing what they are doing.  What is he trying to say that he feels isn't being heard?  Often, spending individual time with the child helps.  Having calm, structured time helps.  When they know what to expect instead of things being uncertain and "flying by the seat of your pants," it is so obvious the difference!  Try it.. without excuses... without its not that easys... without I don't have time for that.  If it is a problem enough to tell people about online, then it is important enough to take the time to try to help.  He needs to learn tools now to get him through life successfully!  Spend time with him.  When you see a problem, figure out a way with him that it can work for his unique situation.  For example- kids are required to sit for a very long time in school, which is difficult!  Talk to him about realizing this isn't easy, but maybe as soon as he gets outside for recess, run as fast as he can 3 times around the yard.  Tell him that all his energy that is getting stored while sitting will make his run that much better and that much faster.  Find a way for him to be successful in his responsibilities and addressing the uniqueness that is him!  Kids are beautiful and wonderful in their differences.  It is our job as adults to help them balance doing what is required while being free to be themselves!  I hope this helps. 

[falcon9]

Thank you for your offensive suggestion to beat the ten year old, as long as it's called "spanking" and "done in the way", (a vague, unspecified manner of beating?).

I try hard not to offend people, but children have to be diciplined. You said your child is 10. Sounds like he needs to be taken to the tool shed as we say. Spanking is not abuse as long as it is done in the right way. You have to tell the child what they did wrong, spank them ... Spanking ... Spanking gives them ... 

[Red02102002]

  So do like this! And put that kid on my worship.

[tuscarorarain]

So do like this! And put that kid on my worship.

I didnt understand that comment. Can you rephrase it? Thanks a bunch.

[6265AT99]

so here is a question...not sure if anyone will find this out of the ordinary...but what do u do with a child that is completely unmanageable....cant sit still, doesnt listen, cant concentrate, disturbs others for fun, in trouble in schooal, at home and on bus? Medication just isnt working!!

Well, I'm just an old grandma but when children are this rambunctious maybe it IS THE MEDICATION that is making him so!!!  Medication can help at times but to be honest I would take him to another doctor for a second opinion before I went back to my personal physician.  It seems to me the child may be ADHD or something like that and if this is the case there is help out there - just be careful what you give the child cause for all the good medicine does IT CAN ALSO DO HARM!!!!  Good luck!!!!