Kids

[stacyd32]

so here is a question...not sure if anyone will find this out of the ordinary...but what do u do with a child that is completely unmanageable....cant sit still, doesnt listen, cant concentrate, disturbs others for fun, in trouble in schooal, at home and on bus? Medication just isnt working!!

[Armand2REP]

It depends on the age.

[stacyd32]

hes 10

[clickers]

Tell his doctors the meds are not working.

[Cuppycake]

hes 10

Indeed. It is a shame people that can't handle having kids and don't know what to do with them medicate them...

[kcoleman2]

If you really feel like you can't handle the child maybe you should seek professional help. It may not be about medications, there could be other things going with them and they need someone to talk to about it to get help. If a child is acting out likes this its probably deeper than what you think. I hope whatever you do it helps and the child gets better.

[ben4hand]

I can understand your frustration. I have three kids ages 7, 4, and 3. The 3 and 4 year-olds are boys and they are fine by themself, but when together it is like they become search and destroy. I don't want to tell you to let your child run over you and do what he wants, but I think maybe you should get on his level and see if maybe he can give you some insight as to why he acts the way he does.

[Wshngstr]

I would say he needs a person to talk to. Not medication. Meds don't fix all things. Sounds like he is acting out, trying to get attention. He is seeking it in the wrong ways...Kinda like my 2 yr old does. I also have a 16 yr old and a 12 yr old. I'm not saying the child doesn't get good attention from you but sometimes the child needs more than the parents can give...and goes about it wrong. My daughter 16 did that...still does if she feels she isn't getting what she needs from us. She starts lying and stuff to get more attention from others. Take the child to a dr...not for meds but to see if he needs just to vent about something. Would be my opinion.

[carty1]

Yes it's always good to take kids to the dr. and get them checked. And meds aren't always the answer but just keep praying.

[falcon9]

"Kids" should never be received as Payment, (the name of this forum), for anything.

[stacyd32]

I am sorry i dint realize the category this was under...pardon my mistake. I don't want to medicate... i have tried the therapist thing.....I am geatful for all the replies as well.

[falcon9]

I am sorry i dint realize the category this was under...pardon my mistake. I don't want to medicate... i have tried the therapist thing.....I am geatful for all the replies as well.

Hopefully, you can get some pragmatic assistance for you and your child.  It seems to me that there was a lot less of this "ADHD" thing than back in the old days when kids would simply play outside and burn off some of that energy.

[ruevouge]

I am sorry i dint realize the category this was under...pardon my mistake. I don't want to medicate... i have tried the therapist thing.....I am geatful for all the replies as well.

Hopefully, you can get some pragmatic assistance for you and your child.  It seems to me that there was a lot less of this "ADHD" thing than back in the old days when kids would simply play outside and burn off some of that energy.

Don't mean to continue this in the wrong category, but I agree.  Might need someone outside of the house to talk to and medication should be a very last resort.  Kids always seem to feel that parents, teachers, etc. are their archnemesis and they cannot ever understand what they are going through.  My son is 12 and in the past 3 years he went through a similar problem.  I took him to counseling and it helped some.  The therapy had a program where they would take the children out (to eat, to the bowling alley, etc) and this part really helped.  Perhaps you could also look into big brother/big sister programming in your area?

[stacyd32]

Thank you Falcon for the advice i am gonna try the big brother big sister thing out

[lynnc35]

have alot of patience...love them..set rules..discipline by taking things away sometimes if you have to..but love them and let them know how much you do. tell them when they do something good, tell them you are proud of them more and then they will want to hear it more.