Should Parent/s live with there kids?

[Ittai]

I have always had the gut feeling when i shouldnt do something, trust someone or anything that just told me no.. I dont know much ppl whom have a parent live with them...Mostly i think its the other way around.. Kids going back to live with there parents.

[rabbitpbcup]

Yes, i am a true believer out parents raised us and when they are too old to care for themselves i believe it is the childs responsibility to give back, unless there are unforseen reasons you just cant!! Than at least go visit dont leave your parent in a home with noone that is sooo sad when i go to a nursing home and see sooo many moms,dads,grandma's where absolutely NOONE goes to visit them they need love too no matter how much of a pain in the butt they are, they still cared for us and changed out shitty diapers!!!!

[Paulinha]

i guess it all depends on the situation

[kcoleman2]

These days are not like they used to be. If a parents is not able to take care of themselves then yes, by all means you should allow them to live with you. We should take care of them the same way they took care of us. If you are married this had to be a mutual decision and if the table are turned you would be willing to let your inlaws move in. Sometimes that can be the conflict. Always honor thy mother and thy father.

[ZBANKS1020]

This question requires a case by case scenario. There comes a point in our lives where we have to take responsibility for our actions or lack there of. In the event that our parent have not prepared for retirement or illness and they were very bad parents....should a child take them in at the sake of disrupting a peaceful home? what if grandma or grandpa was on drugs? or a drunk?....that image of the sweet elderly grandma in the rocking chair sometimes does not fit with reality.

[Traze]

If you have a Parent that's ill then it's your right to take care of them however if your Parent is in good health then it depends on you. You as a grown person should not be living with your parents unless you are ill or in need.

[sherryinutah]

No.  It doesn't seem like an ideal situation; however, different people have different reasons for doing what they do.

Personally, living with my parents or having them live with me would seriously stress me out.

It's one thing to love people and another thing to live with them.   

[ejholt]

I never had to have my parents live with my.  My Father passed away 24 1/2 years ago.  He cut wood with a chainsaw the day before he died.  My mother was able to live by herself up till she had surgrey the last time and she passed away 18 days later.  I was going to have to put her in nursing home, she was bed ridden and could not be handled with just one person.  She passed away the day before she was going in nursing home.  I was at the hospital 18 days with her.  It has been 13 years and it seems only like yesterday.  I dream of my Father and Mother just like they are still with me.  I miss them so much it hurts.  I have my children, grandchildren and great grandchildren..Hope everyone has a wonderful Wednesday and may God bless each of you.

[annettefayeroach]

I would love to have had my dear mother (RIP 7-18-09) live with me, my  father too if ever need be. He cared for me, And I will care for him if the time ever comes and he needs me to. I would not be here  if not for Mama and Daddy.

[Phx0808]

I don't think there is anything wrong with parents and children living together. In many cultures today, this is the norm. Days gone by, it was the norm in the USA too. It is becoming the norm once again, too.   

[ncameron]

yes parents must live with there kids it's a good rodel model from them

[pkrahmer]

In a perfect world I would say that all kids would care for their parents But our world is far from perfect
Plus caring for ones parents is different for each.
Many famililies don't have the money, space or sometimes even the time to care for their parents.
And many parents need specialized care.
we( my family) were very fortunate that when my father became ill the worst it was about 18 months. Some peoples care lasts for years.
During those months not one of us could have had him live with us.

[dwggs]

My mom is 74 and still going strong and living in her own house but when the time
comes she will be living with me.

[ghunter]

Only if they are ill, or just have an inlaw suite in another part of the house, so not to interfear with your children life.

[Flackle]

Multi-generational families are the norm. In both the world and in history. With the economy worsening, families are saving both money and resourcing by living together. The idea of the nuclear family, moving out at 18, and getting a job to pay for a car and and a house was a new idea that didn't last long. I still live with my father, but what would be the point of me leaving? I looked at my situation logically and it is not only in my father's best interest but also my own to stay. Why do people automatically assume because someone lives with their parents that they are lazy? Or that when parents live with their children, they are leeches? I am tired of all the stigma attached to living with your parents, whether it be to help them or for your own reasons.