Christian Advice For A Happy Marriage

[tuscarorarain]

Join a christain couples class that included couples that have been married for a long time. If couples that have been together for a long time are honest they will tell you that everyday will not be a sunny day..there may even be some dark years...but their examples (good and bad) will help you and your spouse know how to whether the storms.

I tell a lot of people about my elderly freind named Jack. He tells me that whenever he and his wife have a conflict they stop and pray. He has told me they have never had an arguement because of that. I talked to my husband and told him about that and he says he has an anger issue that he has to stop and release himself from it. I honestly beleive prayer and willingness to do the right thing really helps.

[tuscarorarain]

In order to have a successful happy marriage in my opinion is to always have GOD as the head of your marriage. Love each other as Christ loves you. Communication is key also. No one can read minds so be open and honest. Be understanding and a good listener. Its okay sometimes to let the simple things go. The simple things can sometimes be the worst. Be careful of that. Keep your marriage exciting and spicy. Don't elt your love life go flat. Remember the things that got you to the altar and make them better. Last things, keep other people out of your marriage. People will try to tear you down but if you don't give them the bullets they can't shoot the gun! Wishing you the best!

Its not always easy being married when you sometimes feel rejected either. I talk to a lot of couples who feel this way in their marriage. They might feel as though their spouse has let them down repeatedly. My freinds Randy and Rhythem are wanting to get married, but are miserable just being together. He is a Christian, but she has no faith in anything. He feels like he constantly has to give on everything. He stopped going to church, likely has to read his Bible away from her, and they have poor communication. As much as I think she is a sweet hearted girl I feel like he can do so much better. When he first told me about her I was so excited because Randy has been my best freind of 13 years and I couldnt wait for him to start a family so Jem and I could grow old and have nice freinds along the way. Then he told me about how she makes him feel and it becomes more clear why people shouldn't be unequally yoked. Its likely she feels neglected too, because he does not want to be with her in certain ways. I told him even though they are both nice people they are better off with other people because they don't match. I do however know when to step back and just let them do this on their own. As a freind you want to grab the steering wheel, but thats not always the right choice. I ask prayer for them.

[mustang417]

amen... my first wife was like that. we ended up parting ways. god had bigger plans for me. he kept putting the right people in my path. then i met my current wife of seven years. it hasn't been easy but if we let god lead us it will all work out.

[falcon9]

You don't need "christian" advice, you just need to stay faithful to each other and be open and honest. I don't see why that has to come from a religious person to be taken into consideration   

You are very welcome to have your own opinion on this subject, but Christians live a different lifestyle from others. That is why it is that type of forum. If you like you can have your own thread, but I appreciate your polite thoughts.

You are laboring under a number of false impressions; one of which being that a discussion thread in a forum not owned by xtians can be construed as a 'xtian' "forum".  The superficial dismissal of someone else's "polite thoughts" can be applied under the "golden rule" to your impolite thoughts.  The inherent presumption in declaring that 'xtians' "live a different lifestyle from others" implies that it has more 'value' than other lifestyles, (when there is no evidence of this and a great deal of evidence to the contrary).

[jcribb16]

In order to have a successful happy marriage in my opinion is to always have GOD as the head of your marriage. 

There's no valid reason to support such an 'opinion', (which is based upon blnd faith instead of reason).  Such superstitious religious beliefs promote self-delusion, which is not conducive to any relationship.

She said it is her "opinion."  She personally feels this based on her relationship with God.  Your opinion may differ, and you may have a fantastic relationship without God as the center.  Both are personal opinions and both are right to the persons involved.  It does not mean self-delusion is promoted, since the beginning of the thread mentioned an interest from those who may be Christians - so she can speak of it from her perspective. (And yes, I already know it was started in the wrong forum.)

[jcribb16]

amen... my first wife was like that. we ended up parting ways. god had bigger plans for me. he kept putting the right people in my path. then i met my current wife of seven years. it hasn't been easy but if we let god lead us it will all work out.

This is off topic for a minute, but I noticed that this is your first post in the forum!  Welcome to FC and hope you have fun earning a little cash, getting to know people, and adding those posts up! 

[jcribb16]

You don't need "christian" advice, you just need to stay faithful to each other and be open and honest. I don't see why that has to come from a religious person to be taken into consideration   

You are very welcome to have your own opinion on this subject, but Christians live a different lifestyle from others. That is why it is that type of forum. If you like you can have your own thread, but I appreciate your polite thoughts.

You are laboring under a number of false impressions; one of which being that a discussion thread in a forum not owned by xtians can be construed as a 'xtian' "forum".  The superficial dismissal of someone else's "polite thoughts" can be applied under the "golden rule" to your impolite thoughts.  The inherent presumption in declaring that 'xtians' "live a different lifestyle from others" implies that it has more 'value' than other lifestyles, (when there is no evidence of this and a great deal of evidence to the contrary).

Oh my, you have no room to talk when it comes to the "golden rule" of your impolite thoughts and superficial dismissals. 

[falcon9]

In order to have a successful happy marriage in my opinion is to always have GOD as the head of your marriage. 

There's no valid reason to support such an 'opinion', (which is based upon blnd faith instead of reason).  Such superstitious religious beliefs promote self-delusion, which is not conducive to any relationship.

She said it is her "opinion." Both are personal opinions and both are right to the persons involved.  

I know and I asserted that such an opinion was based upon blind faith and not a substative basis in reason. Of course people may hold unreasonable opinions, they often do.  Such are not equivalent to a reasoned opinion and diametrically-opposed 'opinions' are not "both right."

[jcribb16]

In order to have a successful happy marriage in my opinion is to always have GOD as the head of your marriage. 

There's no valid reason to support such an 'opinion', (which is based upon blnd faith instead of reason).  Such superstitious religious beliefs promote self-delusion, which is not conducive to any relationship.

She said it is her "opinion." Both are personal opinions and both are right to the persons involved.  

I know and I asserted that such an opinion was based upon blind faith and not a substative basis in reason. Of course people may hold unreasonable opinions, they often do.  Such are not equivalent to a reasoned opinion and diametrically-opposed 'opinions' are not "both right."

Wrong.  For a Christian, her opinion is indeed valid and is not unreasonable because you say it is.  That is strictly YOUR opinion.  You cannot in any way whatsoever prove it to be any different from what your opinion is, based on your relationship with no deity included.  You look at it from your perspective, since that is what you know and experience, and she will look at it from her way, since that is what she knows and experiences with God as her Father/Jesus as her Savior.

You are so obstinate and petulant when someone dares to infer that you aren't completely right, or suggest looking at it objectively.  Chill out!

[falcon9]

For a Christian, her opinion is indeed valid and is not unreasonable because you say it is.  That is strictly YOUR opinion. You cannot in any way whatsoever prove it to be any different from what your opinion is, based on your relationship with no deity included.

Such an "opinion" is based upon logical reasoning as opposed to an "opinion" based upon a religious belief, (which is not based upon logical reasoning).  There's a difference between logical reasoning and the colloquial usage for an excuse. 

You look at it from your perspective, since that is ...

That perspective is a rational one, based upon logical reasoning whereas yours is an irrational one which eschews logical reasoning.  These are diametrical opposed positions.

You are so obstinate and petulant when someone dares to infer that you aren't completely right, or suggest looking at it objectively.  Chill out!

Apparently, you're ranting at your reflection in your computer monitor again; an irrational superstitious religious belief system which relies upon blind faith, (xtianity), is not conductive to looking at anything objectively.

[jcribb16]

For a Christian, her opinion is indeed valid and is not unreasonable because you say it is.  That is strictly YOUR opinion. You cannot in any way whatsoever prove it to be any different from what your opinion is, based on your relationship with no deity included.

Such an "opinion" is based upon logical reasoning as opposed to an "opinion" based upon a religious belief, (which is not based upon logical reasoning).  There's a difference between logical reasoning and the colloquial usage for an excuse. 

You look at it from your perspective, since that is ...

That perspective is a rational one, based upon logical reasoning whereas yours is an irrational one which eschews logical reasoning.  These are diametrical opposed positions.

You are so obstinate and petulant when someone dares to infer that you aren't completely right, or suggest looking at it objectively.  Chill out!

Apparently, you're ranting at your reflection in your computer monitor again; an irrational superstitious religious belief system which relies upon blind faith, (xtianity), is not conductive to looking at anything objectively.

Poor thing - you are stuck on the same recording...

[falcon9]

For a Christian, her opinion is indeed valid and is not unreasonable because you say it is.  That is strictly YOUR opinion. You cannot in any way whatsoever prove it to be any different from what your opinion is, based on your relationship with no deity included.

Such an "opinion" is based upon logical reasoning as opposed to an "opinion" based upon a religious belief, (which is not based upon logical reasoning).  There's a difference between logical reasoning and the colloquial usage for an excuse. 

You look at it from your perspective, since that is ...

That perspective is a rational one, based upon logical reasoning whereas yours is an irrational one which eschews logical reasoning.  These are diametrical opposed positions.

You are so obstinate and petulant when someone dares to infer that you aren't completely right, or suggest looking at it objectively.  Chill out!

Apparently, you're ranting at your reflection in your computer monitor again; an irrational superstitious religious belief system which relies upon blind faith, (xtianity), is not conductive to looking at anything objectively.

Poor thing - you are stuck on the same recording...

To expect a different response to the same instigating and repetitious promotions of religious blind faith isn't reasonable, (not that xtian fundie beliefs even remotely resemble anything reasonably rational).

[premar16]

I eat cheese *bleep* on monday with whales while waiting by the water fro dolphins

[falcon9]

I eat cheese *bleep* on monday with whales while waiting by the water fro dolphins

Even if that was a 'suggestion' about marrying a xtian dolphin, it's still unrelated to the FC Suggestions forum.

[kcoleman2]

She asked for CHRISTIAN ADVICE for a happy marriage. I AM A CHRISTIAN, so therefore i gave her MY advice based on MY CHRISTIAN beliefs. Thank you jcribb16 for being an understnding individual of personal beliefs. Thank you for trying to reasoning with Falcon but stop wasting your time. Falcon has a problem with CHRISTIANITY and anyone who believes in CHRIST. He will always respond in a negative way because thats the kind of person he is. Jcribb16, IN MY OPINION, Falcon needs love. He's not getting enough attention at home so he seeks it out on here. He's going about it in a negative way and that doesn't help. Lets stop responding to him. I've learned in life when you ignore things and people they GO AWAY!....... Wonder if he's going to comment nice about this or be negative as always!