Do you really forgive?

[LaKecias]

We all say we forgive people, but sometimes after we forgive we see that person and think about the wrongs they did and may still feel a little mad or hurt by them. So did you really forgive or did you forgive but......

[stretch1967]

It depends on what its about and who it is with. You cant keep things bottled up. I try to forgive. Its easy to forgive but not forget. I have ended relationships because of things.

[vp44]

I would have to say that we try to make a effort at forgiving but the never can forget part gets in the way of truly forgiving. Especially if it was something really bad.

[babyturtles23]

It depends on who it is and on the situation. You can forgive, but not forget.

[articx]

If you really forgive someone, then remembering what they did,  should not matter. If you forgive, put whatever bothered or upset you aside, move on, and give the person another chance.

[dmahoney]

I think that I forgive too easily and then it comes back to bite me. 

[Sendmicheck]

Yes, I forgive because it make me a better person.

[ancmetro]

      For some things in this life, there is simply "NO FORGIVENESS" ...forget and move on!

[africanclaudie]

Someone really did me a dirty some time back....it hurt a lot. some time later he came and asked me to forgive him...I said "Yes, I'll forgive you". The strangest thing happened: almost immediately it felt as if a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders and the hurt didn't feel so terrible anymore either. 

[queensurvey]

Forgiving is hard but we have to look pass what people do to hurt us sometimes.You'll be surprised at the feeling you get when you forgive somebody and let go.It's a longer process but in the long run more rewarding!

[Tresbn00]

I don't think that you fully forgive someone as your mind has a strong memory for being wronged.  My son followed a Lacrosse coach with dedication and loyalty and was fed  statements like "you are totally coachable" and lies like "our team will be made up of kids that are going to our high school".  What he should have been saying is that his own son will be on the team no matter what, good talent from other high schools will be playing on the team, and the rest of the team will be mad up of kids whose parents steer business his way. I say a prayer for him every once and awile.

[blondie71]

When I forgive I like to forget as well.  When I forgive others I have no problem forgeting but when it comes to myselelf I don't forgive my self when others may, especial when I did something that should be unforgiveable.  I feel guilty and hate myself.  It has to do with my depresion it messes with my head and when I am on meds I have no Idea what I am saying or doing so my husband protects me from myself.

[africanclaudie]

Blondie, it seems that you have a husband worth a million!! Treasure that man.....not many of them around these days.   

[blondie71]

Your right there not many men out there that are like him.  We didn't get married until I was 30 and he was 27 but I was ready to be married even though I tried to get married when I was a lot younger I found out that being married was not all its cut out to be looking at my brother and sisters marriages or even my parents so I took it slow and Found someone who would love me for me and I found that in my husband, we talked a lot and just hung out and not really looking for anyone but when I stopped seeing him I couldn't and after knowing each other for 9 months we decided to get married and in two weeks we will be married 11 years, which has been strong with no real problems except for siblings on both side living with us constantly. 

[champak97]

I dont know if I forgive, but I try to forget, because that is good for my mental and physical health.