Should married men be allowed to keep their adult film collection?

[ladycasshmere]

My friend and I was having a debate earlier today. She recenlty got married and when her and her husband moved in together she discovered he had a huge stash of *bleep*. She got mad and told him he needed to get rid of that $#!T and they got into a big argument. he ended up throwing it out but he's mad. So they asked me do I think she was wrong for making him toss it out. I said it depends on if she knew about it or not before they got married. But what do you guys think should married men be allowed to keep their adult collection stash?

[bessie1111]

I would never marry a man who had a stash previous or present.

[rcoleman25]

My friend and I was having a debate earlier today. She recenlty got married and when her and her husband moved in together she discovered he had a huge stash of *bleep*. She got mad and told him he needed to get rid of that $#!T and they got into a big argument. he ended up throwing it out but he's mad. So they asked me do I think she was wrong for making him toss it out. I said it depends on if she knew about it or not before they got married. But what do you guys think should married men be allowed to keep their adult collection stash?

i dont see what the big deal is and why she would get mad about it my husband had alot of movies it didnt bother me but when you ask him to get rid of it and he says no then let him keep it as long as hes not going out and getting some love from someone eles and she the only one that hes doing then she needs not to worrie and later on donw the line he wont want them any more and he might be willing to get rid of them but its nothing to fight over she needs to be looking at them cause she might see some stuff on there that he might would like to do that shes not doing or something that he wouldnt ask her to do but would like her to do it so she needs to think about that and if she just got married she dont need to be fighting she needs to be loving cause there in the start of the married live she dont want it to end now that it just begain so let me know how it turns out when you tell her what i think about that

[mmoore12002]

I dont think he should have that kind of stuff once he is married

[vp44]

I think that he should have been able to keep it and they enjoy it together, plus go out and get some they both like. Now that its gone who know what he may he do to satisfy his fantasy. Plus he may think of her as the one who made him get rid of his stash and when I cheat on you cause you dont do what I like to see as my fantasy and get over his thrill that way, she may be looking at a future problem. Plus a man and woman should always experiment other things of fun in the sex relation because the thrill of just getting it on gets boring and roleplay is a nice add. Just my thoughts.

[articx]

There was no reason for her to get mad and make him toss his collection away. If two people are willing to marry each other, they should be willing to accept that their partner may have an interest in things they disagree with. She did not like his collection of adult firms, but which one of her interests does he not like? Until someone gets hurt from him watching adult films, she should not bother him.

[jamrow36]

I have never been a fan of adult films personally since I prefer the real thing and am willing to wait until my wife gets home or until I get home.  I suppose that it would be better for her to let her hubby keep the films as long as he doesn't go to clubs, cheat, or attempt to cheat.  I could see the concern if it was gay *bleep* or extreme BDSM or other more graphic stuff.  Everyone window-shops no matter who you are.

[diala84]

IMO it takes pressure off of the marriage to keep the collection. If for some reason you are not able to have "together time" for awhile would you rather your man look at his film collection or find a chick at a bar. Unless it becomes an obsession that affects your "together time" then let him keep it.

[plennis]

I think it was his stuff.  Did he asked her to throw out things she had kept and liked.  Unless it was interfering in the marriage, what is the big deal.  He's at home, not out cheating.  Just looking is not cheating.

[shapingmyhome]

This is such a personal preference thing. The statistics have said that most men have looked at **** at least once in there life. Some are outraged by it others join there husbands in it. With it being a new couple they need to figure some things by themselves instead of allowing other to make choices for them.
It is really hard to make a blanket statement that they should or should not be allowed to keep it. It really is up to each couple to decide.
 

[alishaxmarie]

If she should consider that she needs to be more sexually adventurous then he should consider how inadequate it must make his wife feel that despite their marriage, he still needs those videos. He has a wife and she's there for a reason, he shouldn't need to see or get off to anyone but her since that's the LIFE commitment he made to her. You can't argue only one side in these things. P.S. If you talked correctly, maybe your argument would hold some validity.

[nickylanena]

My friend and I was having a debate earlier today. She recenlty got married and when her and her husband moved in together she discovered he had a huge stash of *bleep*. She got mad and told him he needed to get rid of that $#!T and they got into a big argument. he ended up throwing it out but he's mad. So they asked me do I think she was wrong for making him toss it out. I said it depends on if she knew about it or not before they got married. But what do you guys think should married men be allowed to keep their adult collection stash?

I agree; I think it depends on if she knew about it before. And I also agree w/ whoever said he shouldn't need it if he's married.

[johnvon23]

as a married man i always follow what's right err.... which is what my wife asks me to do.... She found my stash of ..... so i had to give them up... it was embarassing too..... i would say that if you're married you should move on and leave your past bleep toys behind.

[LovelyxOdd]

Collection or not, I personally think it's disrespectful and unnecessary for a man who is in a loving relationship to want to fantasize about other women. It's like saying his woman is not good enough cause he has to look at other women's bodies and get turned on by them.

[elandry]

Everyone fantasies about something intimate at one point of another-- and some people like "visual aids" My other half kept his, as I would never tell someone they had to throw away or dispose of something that was not illegal or harmful. He let me keep my harlequin romances  . making a partner destroy things because you don't agree with what they represent is not a way to foster a trusting relationship based on mutual respect. My other half is also a rabid 2nd Amendment  proponent, but I tolerate the arsenal-- they are safely stored, and they are HIS property, not mine. As easy as it is to get that sort of entertainment, she has now made him angry and resentful-- and given him a great excuse to miss them and want more of them to replace what he was TOLD to get rid of. Plenty of married people have that type of material-- and are happily married as well.