Marriage

[carty1]

Would you stay with your mate if he cheated on you? Many time people stay but do you think it's correct do. I don't know what I would do

[kingozzy]

I think it all depends on what type of marrage you have, but mostly not.  Depends on the cercumstances I guess.

[brum7814]

If I had proof, and it wasn't just a hunch.  All I can say is DIIIIIIIIIIIIIIVORCE.   =-P

[ssmsurvey]

Everything is relative. Ongoing affairs would lead me to divorce however, a one time mistake may be forgiven if I could still trust him.
There is no black & white response.

[sfister65]

Would you stay with your mate if he cheated on you? Many time people stay but do you think it's correct do. I don't know what I would do

It really depends on your situation and why he cheated. I was with a guy 5 years and he cheated on me. We separated and one day he showed up and wanted to try again. At the time I did too but.....after 3 years I couldn't do it anymore. He didn't cheat on my again but everything was different. I felt like I couldn't trust him and questioned everything he did. There were other problems as well. The main reason we parted ways was not becouse he cheated 3 years ago but that he wanted me to change but he refused to change. One example: I have asthma and asked him to smoke outside. He actually got mad at me and said if I loved him I would except him as he is. Meaning it's an inconvience for his to step out side for a smoke but not to cause me to have an asthma attach. That is just One small example. So, like I said it really depends on your situation. How long have you've been together? Have you two talked about it? Is seeing a Counselor an option? What do YOU want to do? Do you think you can move past this? Good luck.

[stretch1967]

There is an old saying once a cheater always a cheater. I would not be able to forgive for that. I have learned to look at things differently after all I have been through with my health, my late husband getting hit by a car. I have learned everyone has a fault whter they ralize it or not. Cheating is not a fault that is just disturbing.

[pvs_19857]

I have never tried to meet/see my old mates who cheated on me. Life moves on so am I

[pjlicari17]

I have asthma and asked him to smoke outside. He actually got mad at me and said if I loved him I would except him as he is. Meaning it's an inconvience for his to step out side for a smoke but not to cause me to have an asthma attach. 

The difference there is obvious!  ASTHMA is medical condition.  SMOKING IS NOT!  It is something that he has chosen; you did not choose the asthma.  That is VERY selfish of him, and he SHOULD be kicked to the curb!

That is just my opinuoin.

 

[batmobile]

I have asthma and asked him to smoke outside. He actually got mad at me and said if I loved him I would except him as he is. Meaning it's an inconvience for his to step out side for a smoke but not to cause me to have an asthma attach. 

The difference there is obvious!  ASTHMA is medical condition.  SMOKING IS NOT!  It is something that he has chosen; you did not choose the asthma.  That is VERY selfish of him, and he SHOULD be kicked to the curb!

That is just my opinuoin.

 

how about get a divorce !!!! lol dont put up with a cheater or a jerk who smokes if u have asthma

[ghunter]

I have been marry for 35 years and I don't know if I can forgive if he cheated, but you never know.

[nickylanena]

I never understand why people do stay, but I honestly can't say I'd know what to do either.

[Red02102002]

Somebody as me, don't care because I don't fall in love yet, to me live with me for my career and live happily as outsiders saw and think. It's all fine. Why don't satisfy with a peaceful life? I am satisfied with I have now, except this life is threatened and everything is going to be worse.

[ben50]

This actually happened, and we are still together, sometimes you got to look past what is going on and move forward, forgiving, but make sure they know if it happesn again it is over. I have had to let it go what happened after I left, but the only way is to bury it. Don't torture yourself with it.

[sigmapi1501]

If a guy cheats on a girl she should forgive him. That's how we are wired.
If a woman cheats on a man she is a terrible hussie.

[ejholt]

My children father cheated on me from the beginning.   I found out after our first baby was born.  I thought he would change.  We had 2 more children and when I was pregrant with the last one he brought one of his women to stay with us.  If I didn't have 2 hanging on to my coat tail and fixing to have another one I would have left him then.  I got her out of my home and he promised to do better only he hid it better.  When my youngest one was 6 years old he finally run off with another woman and left me to raise 3 children by myself.  He is still married to the one he run off with 39 years ago.  Her family had money and mine did not.  My children still don't have much to do with him.  My son still talked to him but my girls dislike him so much.  He gave up his family for her.  She was married to someone else at the time and she got a divorce to marry my husband.  He braged about how much money he would come into when her grandfather died and we were still married at the time.  I don't know why a man is always looking for other women when he has a family of his own.  I am proud to say I raised my children and got them through school and now I have 7 grand children and 13 great gand children and another one on the way.  He does not know any of the great grand children.  he don't know what he has missed all these years.  May everyone have a good day and may God bless each of you and keep you safe.