how do you discipline your kids

[rtrunels]

my husband and i  is having a problem with disciplining our kids he believe in spanking and i believe in punishments and time outs  can you please help me come to a happy medium with him thanks whats do you think works best spankings or punishments.

[patti4me]

I agree the parents need to be on the same page.  We had 2 girls but there is 10 yrs diff in their ages and a whole lot of diff. in their behavior.  Our oldest daughter would burst into tears when she was caught being ugly but our youngest would just carry on like nothing was wrong.  We had to discipline them differently too.  It just depends on the child.  I'm from a family with 6 kids and our Daddy certainly believed in spare the rod, spoil the child but it never emotionally harmed any of us as far as I know.  I'm keeping my youngest granddaughter so her parents can work without having to pay daycare and I've not decided what kid of "no" pretty well. 

[brum7814]

I don't have kids, but if I have to watch my nephews I apply a method to their madness.  My philosophy is if they have enough energy to cause trouble, then they have enough energy to go run on the treadmill for 5 minutes.  =-P

[sigmapi1501]

I don't have kids

That's all you needed to say.  Possibly the most annoying thing in the world is non parents offering their advice.

[brum7814]

I don't have kids

That's all you needed to say.  Possibly the most annoying thing in the world is non parents offering their advice.

This isn't about you.  If you have a problem with the forums then  I suggest you find a more constructive means to vent what ever issues you have in life.  It was a question; I answered it.

[sigmapi1501]

I don't have kids

That's all you needed to say.  Possibly the most annoying thing in the world is non parents offering their advice.

This isn't about you.  If you have a problem with the forums then  I suggest you find a more constructive means to vent what ever issues you have in life.  It was a question; I answered it.

Actually, you didn't answer the question. The question was: how do you discipline YOUR kids?

PWNED

[brum7814]

I don't have kids

That's all you needed to say.  Possibly the most annoying thing in the world is non parents offering their advice.

This isn't about you.  If you have a problem with the forums then  I suggest you find a more constructive means to vent what ever issues you have in life.  It was a question; I answered it.

Actually, you didn't answer the question. The question was: how do you discipline YOUR kids?

PWNED

Sigh, 'your' can be used as an informal adjective too.  Go back to school.

[sigmapi1501]

I don't have kids

That's all you needed to say.  Possibly the most annoying thing in the world is non parents offering their advice.

This isn't about you.  If you have a problem with the forums then  I suggest you find a more constructive means to vent what ever issues you have in life.  It was a question; I answered it.

Actually, you didn't answer the question. The question was: how do you discipline YOUR kids?

PWNED

Sigh, 'your' can be used as an informal adjective too.  Go back to school.

Not in this case.

[joyroos18]

growing up i was very rebellious, got the crap beat out of me forget spankings lol.  as for kids being out of control i never had that problem with my son would just tell him what not to do and why he shouldnt do it. that was it. i figured God gave me a great son because He knew i was a screw up and didnt want my son to be that way

[preet5755]

I have studied Psychology and psychologists beleive that in order to initiate a desired response in your kids rewarding them for those behaviors is much better than punishing them. Just a fact...

[LAkathi]

We take away a privildge for a set period of time. T.V. video games, play dates, just as exemples. Works for us, so far.

[tdecet]

I have raised 3 kids,  all of which got spankings when they needed it,  they got time outs,  and also grounded at times.  All my kids respect us now,  and have thanked us several times for caring enough to discipline them.  They now have kids of their own and they do the same to them.  LOL  Now I find it easier to take the grand kids and set them aside and just give them some one on one chats.  All kids really want, is just a little attention,  most parents cannot give that to them because this day and age most parents work.  Just take some time out of your busy schedule.......  Relax and smell the roses.  They will appreciate that more than anything.   

[tantricia44]

rtrunels ~ You & your hubby try to come to a compromise w/what type of disciplining you need to use. Like humans we're not made the same way. Same with the disciplining issue. Not all kids will response the same way. So, observe & find out how each kid response to different disciplinary stimuli. For example my Husband (RIP 2009) when he was punished be spanking he discovered that it didn't hurt. Every time he was spanked he'd laugh crazily. His parent's dropped the spanking punishment & focused in areas he really cared about. His books. Punishment was his books are taken away. He is denied from buying books for a month. Denied from going to the library to check out books for a month. Me, I use to get sent to my room & I'd pretend hating it but in reality my room was exactly the place I wanted to be. I say use the punishments that fits the kid's most precious thing, that will have an affect the child.

[raven1114]

We use a variety of methods such as time outs, taking a way privileges, extra chores and yes on rare occasions spankings. Any punishment becomes ineffective when it's the only one you use.

[jenniferhoder]

Ha ha... funny question!
Discipline is a funny thing- what works for some kids, doesn't work for others.
I have 2 daughters and they are totally different. The one will do whatever you say, just by raising my voice. the OTHER on the other hand, is so strong willed that I could spank her, take away things, put her in time out and NOTHING ever works. To be honest, what I found that works best, is just simply ignoring her and then she realizes she isn't getting any attention. Crazy, but it works!