Do you believe in THIRD chances?

[anotherlaujgirl]

Teen Drama of my Life.

My ex boyfriend wants to ask me back out.

We broke up once, then 3 months later got back together. And then close
to our 2nd year anniversary, we broke up again.

2 weeks after our breakup, he started going out with another girl because he
was hurt, and wanted to move on.

Now, they've almost broken up. THey agreed it's over between them, and
want to break up in person. . .

Thing is, he wants to ask me out again.

He apologized to me saying, "I'm sorry, there are alot of things i didn't do that i
should've done with you. I now realize, you taught me alot."


What do i answer? Yesterday, I answered him straight up with a
"NO I WILL NOT BE WITH YOU AGAIN."

But today, i almost hurts me to imagine letting him go again.
But It also hurts me, knowing how things went wrong twice already.

And thing is, He's mexican and I'm Hmong. And in the Hmong cultural especially with my dad,
He doesn't know I ever dated my ex.

I ignored that because i really felt like i was in love with him.

At the beginning of the relationship i told him "I don't believe in 2nd chances."

But then, i went for it again.

I'm not sure i should believe in the 3rd.

I'd like adult opinion Please.

[dreamyxo]

You are too young to be putting up with this crap.  You have the rest of your life to deal with knuckleheads.  Date different people and have fun.  Don't get so serious with one person right now. 

[anotherlaujgirl]

You are too young to be putting up with this crap.  You have the rest of your life to deal with knuckleheads.  Date different people and have fun.  Don't get so serious with one person right now. 

Thank You.

All my friends say, just do what you want. But that leaves me just being indecisive.

[mbw2424]

Common sense-- find someone new who appreciates you!

 

[Tresbn00]

I think that you need to examine your own post.  You have pointed out everything that is wrong with going back out with him.  There are so many secure, bright, unselfish and caring young men out there for you to date.  Why would you dwell on an insecure, selfish, uncaring person who has a fear of commitment? Perhaps there is something in your past that has damaged your self-esteem and sense of self worth?  Is this ex-boyfriend anything like someone in your formative years who was abusive?  You aren't the only person out there who falls for this type but being one of the few who can break out of a bad relationship's reaches will make you unique.

[alina6]

I'm not a big believer in second chances, so I would be against a third chance. i think there is a reason you broke up the first time so there is no reason to think it would work better the second or third time.

[anotherlaujgirl]

I think that you need to examine your own post.  You have pointed out everything that is wrong with going back out with him.  There are so many secure, bright, unselfish and caring young men out there for you to date.  Why would you dwell on an insecure, selfish, uncaring person who has a fear of commitment? Perhaps there is something in your past that has damaged your self-esteem and sense of self worth?  Is this ex-boyfriend anything like someone in your formative years who was abusive?  You aren't the only person out there who falls for this type but being one of the few who can break out of a bad relationship's reaches will make you unique.

Thanks, Yes. I guess he was the first guy to make me feel ME. Confident.

But THanks, I did point everything out. I guess its also him saying he's sorry. But, I know my answer now.

Thanks.

[masked_brown_guy]

you already went against your "cultural" standards so throw the "I'm hmong and he is mexican" bull out the window. If you think that it is worth the drama then get back with him. I would suggest broadening you horizons and date other people if possible. Sounds like you are just going back to something familiar.

[tzs]

Just make sure he's not just keeping you on the side for a booty-call type situation. Make sure he doesn't just want you when all other's fail to make his accquaintance. He needs to respect you.

[anotherlaujgirl]

Just make sure he's not just keeping you on the side for a booty-call type situation. Make sure he doesn't just want you when all other's fail to make his accquaintance. He needs to respect you.

Thank you. I think that's just exactly what i am. So, i've settled it. I'm done.