GRIEVING

[pattersondebra]

HAS ANY ONE LOST A SIBLING TO CANCER? I WAS AT MY BROTHERS SIDE WHEN HE DREW HIS LAST BREATH DUE TO PANCREATIC CANCER. I CANT SEEM TO HEAL. HOW LONG WILL THIS EMPTY HOLE IN MY STOMACH STAY. IT WILL BE THREE YEARS.

[koolcraftlady]

I feel for you.  I lost my brother 4 years ago to lung cancer.  I think about him every day.  Even though we were not close, I still miss the times we had together.  I personally don't feel a person ever heels from losing a loved one.  I think you just have to learn to cope with your lose.  Sometimes talking about your feelings to someone does help a little, but the pain (for me) has never really went away.  I will say a prayer for you.  Keep your head up, your brother would of wanted you to do that. 

[ckaliszewski]

I lost my dad to cancer five years ago. When they finally found the cancer he had lung cancer, nine brain tumors, spinal cancer, and pancreatic cancer.

[lynnc35]

You have to let go and give it to God. This place is not our final destination, I know it hurts to lose someone we love, it creates a tremendous void where that person used to be, and we start grieving because we think we will never see that person again. But when you fill that void with God, everything will become clear and you will understand that this is a temporarty home. If you haven't received Christ yet, it is the one thing you can do to take away some of the pain and heartache you are going through.

[pattersondebra]

Thank you all. Wow, I hear the stories and it overwhelms me. Prayers to you all.

[jwilburn3]

I also know what that feels like.  I lost my husband and cousin within days of each other in Feb, 2007 and my father-in-law last year.  It seems that when you think you can't take anymore, someone or something will make you smile.  Good luck to you, prayers are in your corner, and you will be fine.

[ancmetro]

 
     Many people I know have succumb or been invaded by cancer.  It is a disease for which hope is the only cure.

[mjoseph1]

i have a friend battling cervical cancer, i hope she stays strong and God keeps her around for a long time, this is a difficult time so i can't even fathom what those who have lost someone to cancer must be going through. thoughts and prayers are with you

[inertia4]

I have lost aunts and uncles to cancer. It is not a pretty thing to happen. That was many years ago now. But the grieving period is what it is. Time does make things better but in no way do you ever forget the person.

[bretay]

I lost a cousin yesterday to lung cancer.My father and uncle in 2008 to diabetes and diabetes and my father in law to dementia in 2009.It's something very hard to deal with,but they are out of their suffering.I lost my 8 month daughter in 1983 to heart problems.I still think of my daughter every day,but I know she is in a better place.They all are.We have to deal with the pain of losing them,but they are in a better place with no hurts.That helps a lot

[patti4me]

I lost a cousin yesterday to lung cancer.My father and uncle in 2008 to diabetes and diabetes and my father in law to dementia in 2009.It's something very hard to deal with,but they are out of their suffering.I lost my 8 month daughter in 1983 to heart problems.I still think of my daughter every day,but I know she is in a better place.They all are.We have to deal with the pain of losing them,but they are in a better place with no hurts.That helps a lot

I lost a brother in 1981 and don't feel I will ever get over losing him; we were close and his death was such a shock to the entire family.  I lost my Mother in 2007 and my Dad in 2008; both to cancer.  I still think of both of them daily and even after these years I still suddenly get to missing them so much that I cry and cry.  I was not real close to my parents until I had been grown and gone for several years, then we began to get closer every time I would go to visit them.  (they lived 750 mi. from me)  At the time of their deaths we had gotten extremely close; we were not only close as parents/child but as friends.  I could talk to them about any and everything.  I'm married and we have 3 grown daughters but I can't talk to them about how strong my grieving still is because I don't want them dwelling on it.  Guess this is a good place to admit such things.  God be with all you as you grieve.

[vp44]

I lost a cousin to throat cancer about 8 yrs ago but the real pain didnt come till i lost mf father june 29, 2011 he was a diabetic and had kidney failure...its coming up on his year being gone and the only person in my life is my 8 yr old he keeps me grounded yeah Im single MoM... and all my family seem to have lost contact or to busy...so my plans this friday June 29, 2012 is visit my dad grave and then take my kid to Denny's cause me, my son and my dad use to always eat at denny's it was our favorite eatery.

[pattersondebra]

I have a hard time adjusting because when we were in the hospital my brother broke down and shared how he was feeling with me we held each other and cried. Aweek later he took his last breath in front of me with his children and wife. I cant get his words out of my mind. Damn those who say "he is in a better place" he was in the best place possible.

[foxylady81]

I havent lost a sibling but I have lost my best friend and a causin. It does take sometime but just remember they arent in pain anymore, and it helps. I also belive in family are forever and when we die we get to see them again and that is even better for me to

[lindacmt]

When my mother died, my grieving process went on for a long time--several years. There was a kind of numbness that permeated every aspect of living. I finally tried an antidepressant--which originally I was very opposed to since I didn't suffer from depression under other circumstances--and it actually helped a great deal. If you have never tried it, perhaps it would be a good idea to consider antidepressants. If you are already on one, ask your doctor about switching or adding something. Bless you.