how to raise a sucessful child.

[Lmfisher666]

I have raised two kids but would like some tips on my third.

[Ttawnie]

Lol, lots of whipping.   Kidding really. I have had 5 and still two at home. 4 grandchildren and i take care of 3 of them in the day.  I have learned all children are different and rather it be boy or girl and we can just all do the best we can and hope for the best. Attention and Love to each, don't leave anyone out.  We can just all hope for the best and guide them the best we can.   They will grow and make their own mistakes and we have to let them.  Love and your time i find is what they want.  To know they are needed and safe. Have fun with them too and cherish every day, each and every day. 

[falcon9]

I have raised two kids but would like some tips on my third.

Don't 'plant' them too deep.  Seeds have to sprout.

[blondie71]

It's hard to say.  I only have one and he is almost 21.  I thought I did a good thing by working and taking care of him and teaching him about life and how things work. I especially wanted him to treat women with respect and he does ok but his relationships don't last long and he always picks these girls who are needed and they use him well this last was always loud and crancky all the time and they broke up and they just got a house and she took him off the lease and it just didn't end well.  I taught him to respect those who are older and not to talk back but he states his mind to me and his grandparents, but sometimes he needs to with his grandmother she can really be demanding if you don't which I don't so she really gets me upset and my son says stand up for your self mom but I can't. There really is no way to tell how a child going to turn out all you can do is the best you can and since you are on your third child learn from any mistakes you might of made with the first two but we all make mistakes and your children when they have there own children they will relize its harder than it looks.  I relize that when I had mine own child what my parents where trying to teach me was for a reason but sometimes you don't relize that til later in life.  But good luck and remember you can only do so much.

[mperez7372]

I think teaching happiness makes for a happy adult.  That and respect of other people.  I always say "You never want to be the reason someone else feels badly about himself."  It shows that your actions or words do affect other people.  Also, after prayers every night we each say our favorite part of the day.  It trains your mind to see that no matter what kind of day you have, there is always something good and a "best" part.  Even if it is that the day is over.  I have a happy, well-adjusted, compassionate boy (at least for today!)  Other than that, pay attention to them and enjoy the simplicities of daily life.  Best of luck in the fun endeavor!

[samsamjj]

My mom set a great example. I think the best thing you can do is to set the exsample and eventually your kids will come around once they get through the rebellious teenager years

[krissi79]

Mean what you say and stick to it...  I like raising my kids in church. Our church has wonderful older women who give great advice

[anitaraemillspalmer]

I have raised two kids but would like some tips on my third.

Children learn what they live...so my advise is be a good example.  Children need balance...meaning discipline not abuse...yelling and screaming at a child is abuse.  Have time out for misbehaving, don't buy them something everytime you visit a store or shopping center.  Having a non- judmental church to attend regularly is a great way to teach children how to live their lives.  Exposing them to all sorts of experiences...take them hiking,biking, swimming, tour museums...take them to parks...teach them kindness, symphathy, and empathy. Show them love and tell them daily they are loved.  Sit down around the dinner table...dinners...are sooo important...let them have a voice...let them express their opinions without punishment and let them know not everyone thinks the same way and give them choices to make on their own...I could go on and on and I guess I believe balance is the common denominator in everything    When old enough pick a really good pre-school...their little minds are like sponges...education is nothing but positive!

[vp44]

i have one lil boy and I think im learning something new everyday and come up with ideas to deal with it. lol...

[tashamjoy]

Lots of patience love understanding and discipline. no easy answer but i would say really keeping track of your kids but nowadays families seem so distant. and model whatever you do they will learn

[vee46]

good question! if you find the answer before i do could you please let me. i personally think once children form their personality no matter what a parent does to steer their kids on the path to success, its up to that individual child to be willing to travel that path.

[CharmedPhoenix]

Raise them so they feel good about themselves then they can do anything they want and conquer all the challenges that come their way.   

[falcon9]

Don't plant them too deep and water them occassionally.

[healthfreedom]

Show them lots of love and care. Teach them how to respect their elders and authorities. Teach them responsibility by assignning tasks to them.

[Tresbn00]

I have had some luck raising two extremely high achieving, yet normal, children.  The best compliment that I ever received came from them...They said that I listened, not as an adult (or superior being), to what they had to say.  They didn't feel subordinate to me because I respected them enough to hear what they had to say.  I gave them boundless love and pushed them enough...not too much.  I never raised a hand to them and tried to spend as much time as possible with them.  We would spend hours learning new things together.  Most importantly I helped them dream and take paths that would allow them to achieve their dreams.