negative work environment

[falcon9]

falcon9, hahah! you know, if i struck up a conversation with
her hinting that i was into witchcraft, she'd undoubtedly sprint to
the nearest coworker to spill the beans. the funny part is, she'd
sound like a nutcase, especially to those who think she has a screw
loose anyway. and i'd be doing this:



lol. i'm mentally noting this idea!

Wicca, Witchcraft, voodoun ... doesn't matter - acknowledge nothing, do it on a break and remember to mutter the chanting semi-audibly. Naturally, this type of pseudo-banishing "spell" works best on pseudo-xtians however, even ones who don't believe in such things will have that tiny bit of non-doubt in the back of their minds, (which is essentially how voodoun/"voodoo" 'works').  To me, it's harmless, does not invoke "satan", "daemons" or "angelic demons", is perfectly permissible under the freedom of religion regulations, (wicca is a federally-recognised religion and any persecution of wiccans can become a federal offense quicker than the offender can thump a bible).

As I may not have mentioned, I've now seen it 'work', (or variations of the same technique), used on three separate occassions - at three different places of employment.  As you said, you can always retain plausible-deniability, (assuming that you're not actually a wiccan, witch or voudoun priest/ess). 
 

[duroz]

cloudsoup-
You should first try the "NON-suggestion" falcon9 posted -

"The Voodoo Death Doll Hex" 

                       


Then.....if THAT doesn't do it, try THIS next 

You need to first get saved and call on jesus then pray that get saved at work

No DON'T try that next!!
(or any other time........)
Instead - KEEP LOOKING and ASKING for more ideas.

[Cuppycake]

how do you deal with a jealous, passive aggressive or negative co-workers?

Depending upon the degree of severity of the problem, (ranging from 'personality conflicts' to actually interfering with the workload), I'd either cease interacting with them/reduce any interactions to the bare minimum required to get the work done or, continue to maintain a higher level of work performance than they could ever attain.  If those didn't affect them, sometimes total/complete silence would.

i deal with this on a daily basis. i realize that i shouldn't
take it personally and that the root of the problem lies within
the serious insecurities of others... but my kindness-shaped
knife just isn't killing 'em fast enough

Eventually, most people come to realize that 'killing them with kindness' is a much slower death than they probably bargained for, (that, and it doesn't work).   

It CAN work. It really depends on what it is they are jealous about. If it is something you can openly show off in a way that does not seem like rubbing it in their face. You can be very nice to them while at the same time provoke a response that seems uncalled for and will end in them being shunned.

[duroz]

Or........
maybe try THIS?

[southernhorizons]

I don't have any problems at my work right now, but at another place where I used to work a few years ago, there were a few people that had it in for me and hated me for no apparent reason (well, I think it was because as a line leader, I made sure they WORKED, which they hated; they were very lazy). I usually just tried to be polite, and got satisfaction out of seeing how annoyed it made them! I certainly avoided any small talk/ unnecessary interaction as much as possible.

[brum7814]

Like they say...don't worry about things you can't control.  I wouldn't waste my work time figuring out ways to deal with people.  Doing solid work and maintaining what ever company policy you work for will help ensure you're out performing people who are wasting their time trying to play games at the office.

[agent008]

ya i just love negative work enviroments lol... I had a simular situation... kept my distance until she either had no more dirt to talk about me or ran out of other dirt on other people and tried to get more... I kept the small talk and when she started to ask about personal life I started talking about work related stuff... eventually I had to set the boundary of dont talk to me unless its about work related topics...... and had to keep reminding her of that.... and then the last time she asked me about something personal and I told her loud so and clear so other people would hear me.... I said "I am tired of you asking me about my personal life especially after you go and talk about me behind my back... this is my final time of telling you do not talk about me unless it is work related you are not even in my department and really have no reason to come over here.. I do not want to be your friend, I am your colleuge and I want it to stay that way so back off..." she was so embarrased and tried to report me to my boss for talking to her badly and creating a negative work enviroment until my boss told her that she was in the wrong and I was setting a boundry

[cloudsoup]

It CAN work. It really depends on what it is they are jealous about. If it is something you can openly show off in a way that does not seem like rubbing it in their face. You can be very nice to them while at the same time provoke a response that seems uncalled for and will end in them being shunned.

i do like the sound of that, but how exactly?

Or........
maybe try THIS?

hahah, nice! i should print that out and put it on my locker 

[johnvon23]

having nice set of friends really help out when you're at work. Tasks seems hard to do when there's barriers in working relationship. We must have good work ethics and we are there to work. But i don't mean that all work and no play. We need to treat each other with utmost respect to make tasks done easier ... Harmony my friends ... harmony and cooperation is the key.

[handllucas]

The most important thing is to not let their actions and personalities change WHO YOU ARE.
If the situation is completely unbearable see HR for suggestions or possible transfers.
If all else fails, you may need to change jobs.
It is a very tough situation and a touger decision.
I wish you luck.