Relationships a lot of work?

[tashamjoy]

Do you ever feel overwhelmed ? It takes a lot of work and effort to maintain relationships with family friends,.... its hard when people live far and with jobs and schedules does anybody else find this hard?

[sgluckadoo]

Yes! I have gotten to where i hate it when my phone rings bc there goes my peace and quiet. My friends and fam all consider me a personal therapist and unleash everything on me. i hate it when people go on and on for hours, like i have nothing better to do than hold the phone to my ear?? i also hate that most everyone in my life repeats information to me. My mother and father tell me the same t hings dozens of times. i dont know if it is bc they dont know how to converse, or cant remember telling me already, but it drives me nuts. i also find that the people who talk and talk and talk and are very needy in general of my time, dont return the favor or accept subtle hints. I try to be nice and get out of conversations that have drug on forever, when i have things to do, and those are the people who get SENSITVE.

Sigh.

[tashamjoy]

Im sorry i mean mine is a little different more i feel distant from family and friends and just feel so alone and want to feel connected to loved ones but its takes a lot of work and energy

[lynnc35]

especially when your husband throws you out in the cold, you have no where to go and you have to eventually live somewhere with no food and with someone who is not all together right. People can be so cruel. I just want to go home to be with God.

[floorlady]

At first I thought you meant romantic relationships, to which I would have said I do not feel like romantic relationships should be work. I mean I feel like you are either in love or not and there should not be much work to falling in love. However, after I read your post I kind of have to say yes. I have one friend besides my boyfriend and that is my sister. Everyone else seems too preoccupied with their own goings on and could careless about my life. I know how you feel, I have an extremely busy schedule and this makes it close to impossible to cultivate real relationships outside of my family.

[sgluckadoo]

Im sorry i mean mine is a little different more i feel distant from family and friends and just feel so alone and want to feel connected to loved ones but its takes a lot of work and energy

I understand that. When I was in college, I found it hard sometimes bc i was hundreds of miles away from anyone I knew.

[lgemini]

All I know is that every relationship is a lot of work to keep.   When you work hard for a relationship, you do love it more.

[LenoraMinogue]

Relationships may be a lot of work, but they're what matters the most, during the good times and bad times. But there's nothing wrong with skipping some phone calls if you're just in the mood either. Give yourself some space sometimes, and you'll be less likely to feel relationships are quite so much work.

[sgluckadoo]

I also think you shouldnt be so hard on yourself if you feel alone. It may be that you need to to get creative with how to meet people.

[campbell2011]

yes cause my boyfriend works 11 hours a day and dont get to spend much time with him

[davidh121]

Romantic relationships seem to be difficult to maintain, especially the beginning. Family / friend relationships are sometimes difficult due to time availability to spend with them when work is busy or when traveling on the job, but as most of my family and friends are in a particular concentrated area things are not too bad.

[Azanne07]

Yes it can be difficult. but sometimes the best things in life dont come easy

[Tresbn00]

Interacting with others should be enjoyable and not a chore.  If you have to work hard to make a relationship work it might be time to reassess how important the relationship is to you.  Life is too short to spend working hard at something as silly as a relationship.  The one exception that I would place on that thought is the development needed to keep open pathways of communication with your children.  It is also important to maintain a good relationship with your pet (I know that it sounds silly) but well behaved children and pets develop from healthy relationships and area joy to be around.

[ptfunds]

First I have to say that your question evoked numerous points of view. Some took your statement in a negative way, some in a romantic way, and several other versions.  I did get what you were saying and agree it can feel that way.  The way I have solved this is to have regular coffee chat times with friends and family who are far away.  I have one friend I have Sunday morning coffee with, etc.  My son and I have regular talking times to.  I found that to work well so everyone could plan ahead and be available for the call.  It's almost as good as seeing the person and keeps the staying in touch on whatever schedule works for everyone.  Good luck - you'll figure out a way to make it happened because it's important to you!

[Storm61115]

it's not too hard. just call them every so often.