Is there love the second time around?

[laine39]

I posted on divorce, and thank all those again for their support and kind words who posted back. This is horrific not matter how you try and deal with it, after 18 years with the same man. The divorce is not final yet. Is there love again after divorce? I really hope so....I'm not into bars, and friends that I guess must never have been mine, but are his only. So I go it alone. Where do you even attempt to meet nice guys today? I thought about online sites, but that seems desperate to me. Has anyone tried it with any good experiences?

[falcon9]

Is there love again after divorce? I really hope so....

Sometimes there is, sometimes there isn't.  While not necessarily reassuring, it depends on different contributing factors.

I'm not into bars, and friends that I guess must never have been mine, but are his only. So I go it alone. Where do you even attempt to meet nice guys today? I thought about online sites, but that seems desperate to me. Has anyone tried it with any good experiences?

Well, it may not be a typical experience, (or maybe it is by now?), but I met my current girlfriend online while I adamently _wasn't_ looking for one.  We've been physically-together for 11 years and counting, (not that we're counting).  One has to be very careful with online 'meetings', what with not really knowing the other person, (nor do they know you, for that matter).  In my instance, we took it slowly ... lots of initial casual talk, then noncasual talking, before meeting, (in a public place).  If that sounds a bit cautious, that seemed wise and recommended.

[Cuppycake]

I posted on divorce, and thank all those again for their support and kind words who posted back. This is horrific not matter how you try and deal with it, after 18 years with the same man. The divorce is not final yet. Is there love again after divorce? I really hope so....I'm not into bars, and friends that I guess must never have been mine, but are his only. So I go it alone. Where do you even attempt to meet nice guys today? I thought about online sites, but that seems desperate to me. Has anyone tried it with any good experiences?

I have been there and that done that. The best advice I can give you is to just go out and enjoy doing the things you love. That is the best way to find someone that you have allot in common with. Don't go looking just go to have fun and if the love is out there you will find it. I met my darling husband in that very way.  It is very difficult to make such a drastic change after such a very long time but it can be done.

[shepherdchik]

You spent many years with this man so think about the time you have enjoyed and start new and you will find love again.

[sarahmongeon]

I was with the same man for 12 years and married 8. i was unhappy for most of it. I have been divorced for 5-6 years and it has taken me a long time to find someone. I have recently found the man of my dreams and we are very happy and very much in love. so the answer is yes. It may take time but be patient and dont rush it. the longer it took me the better luck i had. I went out on plenty of dates and went with a couple people and new immediately that it wasnt gonna work. once I found jay I knew he was the right one and feel he is my true soul mate.

[pirewolf]

I have two! One is me! I met my hubby of 6 years online. He was not the first guy I talked to, but what he said on his profile just hit me in the gut. I chatted with him and he thought how I did about most things. We got married 9 months later. The second is my dad! He and my mom got divorced before  my husband and me got together. He didn't want to do the online thing. He started to try to find his own dates, but he is a cross country truck driver. So he settled for people he already know before that liked him. He is so sweet, cute, and funny. I can't think of anyone better then my dad! It was crazy though. He first tried someone else divorced because her hubby hit her. She went back to him, cause my dad wasn't bad boy enough for her. What, who wants that?    Next he went out with someone that had a crush on him since they were little, sister of one of his friends. No one in my family liked her. She was so mean to him. He is a little over weight, cause he throw out his back and couldn't do anything for a couple months years ago. Being a truck driver its hard to get rid of after that. He didn't care what she looked like, but she wouldn't even let him have birthday cake at his sisters birthday on his vacation! She had younger kids and wanted him to focus on only them and didn't like him visiting us instead of her. Then I had him sign up for the eharmony thing. His new girlfriend is sweet, adorable, doesn't mind hanging out with us or us hanging out with her family, and loves to go on the same cruises my dad does! She is perfect for him, the only problem was that she had a job and he doesn't drive through alot. Now they have gotten so close that she is going on the truck with him, so they can be together and see the country. You just have to put down what you really want.

[kingozzy]

I have tried online dating, you get a few crazies for sure.  But one out of 5 seem to be good people, so its worth a shot.  It will at least get you back into dating again

[timandvicky1]

After 16 years of marriage that ended in divorce I had to learn the importance of being happy on my own, I had loved being married and went and started looking right away for somebody to fill that void, only to find out that alot of men out there will use you, they are not interested in settling down.  After being hurt quickly I learned be happy single, and then later somebody has come along that made me happy, and now I have been married ten years already.  Give yourself time to reflect on what went wrong in your first marriage, and be true to yourself on what you are looking for!!  Good Luck

[Azanne07]

I hope theres a chance for love a second time around too. my fiancee is 37 years older than me. we met in a chat room for yahoo but i have made a couple good friends from the dating sites. I have had 1 bad experience thou.

[yess07]

so sorry to hear what u r going through but oh yes there is! dont give up!!!!

[sfister65]

I posted on divorce, and thank all those again for their support and kind words who posted back. This is horrific not matter how you try and deal with it, after 18 years with the same man. The divorce is not final yet. Is there love again after divorce? I really hope so....I'm not into bars, and friends that I guess must never have been mine, but are his only. So I go it alone. Where do you even attempt to meet nice guys today? I thought about online sites, but that seems desperate to me. Has anyone tried it with any good experiences?

I understand. My X and I were together 8 years (not quite 18, but it still hurts). And as with you most of 'our' friends were actually 'his' friends. I was very alone. I had a few friends that were very supportive. Especialy one that let me live with her for awhile when me and my X departed ways. I'm into bars but I don't suggest meeting men that way. Just be in public. Join a gym, walk a mall, hang out at a park. Got a dog? Most people love to meet other peoples pets.
I am happly to say YES love doesn't happen again. Me and my current husband have been together 17 years and going strong. I met him through a co-worker. Oh - maybe some at your work knows a nice guy.
I know it's hard but hang in there. Go out and do some of the things you always wanted to do, get to know yourself with out a husband, make some friends and heal before you try dating again. Give it time and you'll be better then ever.

[Storm61115]

try staying around the place u work. look for people that catch your eye or if u got to the gym look for those who dont have a ring on their fingers and start up a conversation... and eventually u will become friends and then u can ask that person out.

[vickysue]

I met my present hubby almost 19 years ago on a blind date that i really didn't want to go on. But one of my assoicates at work wore me down and i finally agreed to go, Low and behold we hit it off. But being me i did some background checking before i met him. My family really like him and he gets along with everyone. He and my late son were buds, and we still consider our daughter-in-law our daughter. He would do anything for her.  Just take your time and it will happen.   

[LenoraMinogue]

Online dating has become a lot more common place and accepted than it used to be. Two of my friends even met their current loves through there. It's not desperate, but smart to try to find people that you have similarities with. Talking to people online at first is a great way to get to know someone without so much pressure. But you do have to be a little cautious, since meeting people online isn't quite the same as meeting them in person. Just use good common sense there, and I'm sure you'll be fine if you decide to go that route. Good luck.

[oldbuddy]

My wife and I were both divorced and we met at a Parents Without Partners dance. Now we have been married 40 years and added 4 more kids and 11 grandkids to our family, Yes we still love each other!