why are some people so critical

[tigerlilly01]

I really don't understand why some people have to be so critical of others.  There are a lot of things that people do that I don't agree with or don't like but if you don't agree you don't have to try and make the other person feel bad just because you don't happen to feel the same way. 

[southernhorizons]

if you are referring to falcon's atheistic posts, you are 100% correct. I think he was already corrected in your other post. If he really believed there was no God, why does he hate something so viciously that doesn't even exist? His fanatical defense of atheism is far more unreasonable and ignorant than someone asking for some prayers.

[jadedjenni]

Nicely said tigerlily.  I think there are just so many bitter people ready to explode if they don't say something nasty at some point.  If you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all.  Like I had someone comment on a thread that I started as kind of a personal blog to show everything I've done since day 1 and to show my referrals what I get credit for or have problems with, tips, advice, a place to post... whatnot.  Someone commented that it was a waste of space and shouldn't even be a topic.  lol  Really?  Unnecessary, especially since the comment below them was someone thanking me for having a thread like that!  No matter what, some people just can't be pleased.  You almost have to feel sorry for them that they can't just find something to make them even a bit happier. 
Don't get me wrong, I wasn't saying that the person that commented to me was highly rude or mean by any means, it's just unnecessary criticism that is more or a nuisance than helpful.  Not even constructive criticism.  They're new so maybe they don't realize that there isn't competition here.  Vent, by all means, but don't take your bad mood out on someone else....  Maybe one day, people will truly learn that religion is just something you don't discuss when there is the possibility of head butting.  I don't care what your religion is, just don't preach for me.  Asking for prayers however, is highly unoffensive.  I guess some people don't understand that there is a cost for freedom of speech.  You have to deal with someone elses views that don't always match your own.  But some people also don't realize there is a line between freedom of speech and having no class.  Some things just shouldn't be said.  Morally, not legally.  So sorry to go off on a tangent on this post, but it hit home.  It's hard to stay positive when you are surrounded by negativity.  That's why I like the forum so much.  It's a positive place for the most part.  I love this site and can't stand when people bash it or the people on it.  With that being said, thank you for letting me invade your post. 

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[ssmsurvey]

It seems to me that those who are critical typically have a problem, whether emotional or physical, that they wish to draw attention away from. Though insensitive, they think it is easier to criticize others then themselves. It's a shame. Why not celebrate our differences?

[noirlupe]

Critical people are unhappy people who are not happy until they make other people unhappy along with them.  I have a story you might want to use.

The Law of the Garbage Truck !
One day I hopped in a taxi and we took off for the airport. We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us.
My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed the other car by just inches! The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us. My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was really friendly.
So I asked, 'Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!' This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call, 'The Law of the Garbage Truck.'
He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on you.
Don't take it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don't take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home or on the streets.
The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day. Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so..... 'Love the people who treat you right.. Pray for the ones who don't.'
Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it.
Author unknown

[jadedjenni]

ssmsurvey:  So well put.  I have to accept others differences.... I'm an odd chick!  =P 

noirlupe:  That was such an amazing story.  I have to copy that down so I can remember that.  Thank you so much for sharing that.  Perfectly put.  Why is it that Author Unknown seems to be the best dang author out there!?!?

[Abrupt]

Often I find critical people (in the sense that it isn't their job duty to be critical) to be those that have personal control issues.  I tend to find them weak willed and incapable of governing their own lives so they set about trying to fault others by any means necessary.  In some ways they are like control freaks, but differ in that they are ineffective and powerless to exert their wills directly over others (and oftentimes they are an unwilling submissive in their own lives).  Also, unlike the control freak, they don't actually want to change anything.  They simply want to loose petty venom from a distance with the hopes to harm another or to elevate their own status in their own mind.

Sometimes, though, the critical types can be specific about what they are critical of and totally dismissive of other things where criticism would be warranted.  This shows a specific prejudice and their can be underlying and undisclosed reasons for this.  Perhaps they were harmed or feel they were harmed by the thing they lash out at.  Perhaps they were personally/socially humiliated because of their liking the thing they lash out at and now they have been shocked by their own torturers into being contrary to their original stance.  Unless such is revealed their can only be speculation.

I suppose their are other types of hyper critical people as well, but I mainly find those that I encounter to fit into the above two categories.

[BK_Adores_Chase]

I read a quote the other day...someone who hates you is one of three things....they want to be you, they are jealous of you, or they see you as a threat.  Don't take it personally!

[falcon9]

if you are referring to falcon's atheistic posts, you are 100% correct.

In what way, (besides an unspecific and biased opinion)?

I think he was already corrected in your other post.

"Corrected", how and in what other post?

If he really believed there was no God ...

I've repeatedly specified that a disbelief isn't a 'belief', (they're opposites), while further requesting that believers present evidence supporting their beliefs, (which they've failed thusfar to do).

why does he hate something so viciously that doesn't even exist?

You are mistaking rational dissent for an irrational hatred, (and further imputing a subjective perception of "viciously" dissenting).  To reiterate my position; it is one where challenges to the specious religious beliefs presented as claims by others have  been consistent.

His fanatical defense of atheism is far more unreasonable and ignorant than someone asking for some prayers.

Such strawman arguments notwithstanding, (that is, a specious presentation of dissent regarding religious belief as being a "fanatical defense of atheism"), the conclusion that using reason is somehow "far more unreasonable and ignorant than someone asking for some prayers" is an irrational one which does not have evidence to support such an assertion.  As for asking for "prayers", nothing stops someone else from either doing so or, getting others to do so - not even requests to provide evidence for that process being effective.

[falcon9]

Often I find critical people (in the sense that it isn't their job duty to be critical) to be those that have personal control issues.  

On the other hand, I find that "control" has nothing to do with challenging others to acquire a bit of critical thinking skill themselves, (whether they do or not).  Further, I've found that some do not enjoy applying such thinking to their cherished beliefs and will instead, counter-attack with speculative allegations rather than closely examine their own "issues".
 

I suppose their are other types of hyper critical people as well, but I mainly find those that I encounter to fit into the above two categories.

Oddly enough, a post which criticizes others for criticizing is sublimely ironic.

[samrhett2]

I really don't understand why some people have to be so critical of others.  There are a lot of things that people do that I don't agree with or don't like but if you don't agree you don't have to try and make the other person feel bad just because you don't happen to feel the same way. 

Oh wow.  I thought maybe you grew up in my household too or something.  Sorry, just fits the description of my mom.  Yeah, I never understand that either.  Some people are so turned off by God and prayer if other people want to do it.  I think astrology is ridiculous but I don't try to get it banned from the newspaper.  I don't care if some people like to go to astrologers.  To each his own.

[falcon9]

Some people are so turned off by God and prayer if other people want to do it.  I think astrology is ridiculous but I don't try to get it banned from the newspaper.  I don't care if some people like to go to astrologers.  To each his own.

For some reason, one doesn't see a whole lot of astrologists going around saying that they'll 'do a chart for you' if you've expressed having problems though.  On the other hand, one doesn't see many public requests for such astrological charts either.  Yes, to each their own however, once "their own" is made into a public matter, it stops being exclusively "their own".

[SherylsShado]

Re: why are some people so critical

My guess would be because they need ALOT of prayer. 

[falcon9]

Re: why are some people so critical

My guess would be because they need ALOT of prayer. 

That's pretty humorous, I'll grant you that.  Of course, it could also be that they don't.

[ancmetro]

  The reason they are so critical is because they do not understand diversity and that makes them very intolerant and critical.